How to develop self motivation in children?

[KSP]

Where can I get 好妈妈胜过好老师 and is there an English version as well? Thanks.

[Sun_2010]

Chenonceau,

Thank you for the detailed post. things to keep in mind for every parent

Chenonceau:

(5)
Believe in him and from the light in your eyes, let him find the passion to believe in himself.

So true , children are so intutive in sensing what we think and are so greatly affected by it - even though we dont say it in words...

[pixiedust]

KSP:

Where can I get 好妈妈胜过好老师 and is there an English version as well? Thanks.

As far as I know, no translated English version as yet.

I ordered mine from :
http://product.dangdang.com/product.aspx?product_id=20464285&ref=search-1-pub
My friend borrowed a copy from our local NLB.

[tisha]

pixiedust:

KSP:

Where can I get 好妈妈胜过好老师 and is there an English version as well? Thanks.

As far as I know, no translated English version as yet.

I ordered mine from :
http://product.dangdang.com/product.aspx?product_id=20464285&ref=search-1-pub
My friend borrowed a copy from our local NLB.

Could someone please translate at least the title for me. TAI...

[KSP]

pixiedust:

KSP:

Where can I get 好妈妈胜过好老师 and is there an English version as well? Thanks.

As far as I know, no translated English version as yet.

I ordered mine from :
http://product.dangdang.com/product.aspx?product_id=20464285&ref=search-1-pub
My friend borrowed a copy from our local NLB.

Can I find it in popular, bras basah complex or any bookshop in SG?

[KSP]

tisha:

pixiedust:

[quote=\"KSP\"]Where can I get 好妈妈胜过好老师 and is there an English version as well? Thanks.

As far as I know, no translated English version as yet.

I ordered mine from :
http://product.dangdang.com/product.aspx?product_id=20464285&ref=search-1-pub
My friend borrowed a copy from our local NLB.

Could someone please translate at least the title for me. TAI...[/quote]A simple direct translation would be - A Good Mother Is Better Than A Good Teacher.

[satyagraha]

Busymom:

As for my girl, my biggest challenge is to get her to practise her violin everyday. In her book, the author of 好妈妈胜过好老师 wrote that we should not force our child to do what they do not like. Well, does that mean that if our child does not like to go to school or attend a class, we just let it be? When it comes to music, maybe it is alright to let go, but a line has to be drawn somewhere. It cannot be that each time the child doesn't want to do something, we just let her. She wants to learn violin, but she is lazy to practise it everyday. Should I threaten to stop the lesson if she doesn't practise? Or should I incentivise her daily practice (like half an hour of practice will get her to read her favourite book)? I have gotten angry with her, gotten angry with myself, hugged and praised her, whatever. Still can't get her to practise constantly without my nagging or reminders. Am I expecting too much from a child?

There are others, but let's start with these 2. Any ideas, greatly welcomed.

First to Chenonceau... ... :snuggles:
Then to all forumers (supporters & detractors alike)... :grphug:

I'm sure whatever shared were done with good intentions. It's human, and many a times a matter language issue, to sound different from initial intention. :celebrate:

Please do continue to share!!

Now, Busymom. Hmmm... if your girl is the one who requested for the lessons, then let her take ownership. If she doesn't practice, I'm sure she'll get a earful from her teacher right? If her teacher is the super soft & kind type, you might wanna consider sync-ing up with her beforehand. Ask her to come down a little harder on her.

A few weeks of irregular practice & facing a black-faced teacher might do her good. Have you tried stepping back on nagging her to practice and just let her \"see\" the outcome of her less than sufficient effort?

Just to share. My 5 y.o. son will go practice his piano daily (unless we have other matters that forbid him to do so) at 3pm automatically. And he'll be at it for at least 1.5 hours (effectively). He knows what is expected of him and he is moving along with the expectation.

What needs to be done, has to be done.

[Busymom]

Funz:

By the way, when I wrote about my method for correcting DD's carelessness in another thread, I received some cautionary advise which I appreciate and understand where these people are coming from. But today, I see the results of my *gasp* not so popular method. DD has been coming home with full marks for most of her topical tests. And she proudly tells me that she checked her papers 2-3times and spotted mistakes which she managed to correct.

Congrats! :celebrate:

So what did you do? I must have missed that.

[Busymom]

Vevey:

I'm not sure how old is your DD but for DS1 who is in P2, I'd threatened & did indeed skip his pte piano lesson for the next wk when he had not been practising enough (fortunately, his teacher is flexible ).
His incentive for practising is occasional applause & of cos, the piano lessons that we paid for. He can always stop learning piano if he doesn't wish to practise. :lol:

My DD is P1. I did think about that... but just hesitant to adopt the method. Just thinking about myself, when I was young and learning to play piano, my mom was my teacher. I started at 5 and stopped 1 year later. Another year later, I asked my mom to teach me again, promising to be more diligent. This time, I continued till the end, but still not a very diligent student along the way... :oops:

She is due to take her grade 2 end of this year, am hoping that the exam would motivate her to work more conscientiously as she is the type who likes to do well...

Besides, if DD doesn't want to do something and we just stop the lesson, wouldn't this lead her to think that this is the best way to get out of any unwanted lesson/course in future?

Vevey:

As for sch work, well, it's his name that is written on the worksheets, it's him who went up the stage to receive the prizes, not me. So, he has to b the 1 who is responsible abt his work, definitely not me.

On the other hand, I do not load him w any assessment bk, as they r such a bore (to me! :lol: ). I prefer to just explain any difficult qn from sch & then set a few similar qns just to make sure he really understands. I'll check back & if need to, refresh his memory on these b4 sch tests.

I don't have much issue with her school work. I don't give her any assessment book as well, but she has external enrichment like CMA, Learning Lab, etc. I have asked her if she wants to drop anything. The answer is always no. However, we always have to remind her to do the homework from these enrichment classes. Am wondering if I should deliberately not remind her once and let her face the \"consequence\"? Only thing is, these are not her school teachers. Don't think the impact of missing some of the enrichment homework would have as great an impact as compared to school work.

On her CMA, there was a stage when she was about 5+, probably half a year after she started lessons with them. She didn't want to attend the lessons anymore. I can understand that she was starting to find the lesson dry and uninteresting. This remains till today, the only class that she had ever not wanted to attend. We told her that we had already paid for the entire term. At the very least, she should attend till the end of the term. Apart from that, we also changed the lesson from a weekday late afternoon to a weekend morning. There was a change of teacher as well. Fortunately, she continued with the course till today (guess we were quite lucky with her) and she now realises the benefit of the course... but she isn't always keen on doing the homework - still need some pushing.

Chenonceau or anyone, any tip?

[Busymom]

Funz:

I showed her clips of kids playing those pieces and told her I want to be able to post a clip of her playing those pieces on facebook so that all my friends can view her playing. She likes to perform and loves an audience so that is a motivation for DD.

I have shown her youtube clips of kids playing piano and violin too. These days, she is more shy and doesn't want us to even video her playing. :stupid:

Funz:

DS is a different story. He only started learning a month ago as I could not get the teacher to fit him into her schedule. He needs to do finger exercises and is not playing full songs yet. As such he does not find it interesting. I am not pushing him yet, just 5 mins is all I am asking of him and he will do it. But need to nag him into it. I am hoping that as he progresses, he will be more motivated.

For my DS, getting him to practise is even harder... I shall see as he is due to start on JMC (from Yamaha) next month. Just yesterday, I have bought some really nice Runabout stickers to paste each time he does his violin. Again, will see if this will work long term.