MY NEW LIFE - WIDOW
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I am really sorry to hear about your loss. I had a cousin that died a few years ago, leaving behind a young wife and 2 young children, so have some empathy to what you must be going through now.
There will be bad days but there will be good days. Whatever kind of day it may be, you have to carry on as your kids need you to carry on. Not every day will be bad, it does not rain forever. Maybe this is an route that you are destined to experience, and a lesson that you have to learn about life. Every one has their own routes laid out for them.
This forum, so far I have seen, is not too bad. All the best and stay strong.
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:imsorry: to hear of your loss. Just want to share with you a verse that I find comforting (I am not a Christian, but I think this can apply to life in general):
God hath not promised
Skies always blue,
Flower-strewn pathways
All our lives through;
God hath not promised
Sun without rain,
Joy without sorrow, peace without pain.
God hath not promised
We shall not know
Toil and temptations,
Trouble and woe;
He hath not told us
We shall not bear
Many a burden, many a care.
But God hath promised
Strength for the day,
Rest for the labor, light for the way,
Grace for the trials,
Help from above,
Unfailing kindness, undying love.
Be strong for your kids and be positive. Time will heal the pain, and the future will be brighter. :hugs: -
dolphinsiah, I know how you must be feeling now cos my dad passed away recently and I saw the pain and sadness my mum was feeling. she broke down a few times at the wake.
Be strong for your kids. It’s not gonna be easy to be both dad and mum to them, especially if they are still young. But take strength from friends and family around you, and don’t be afraid to ask for help. Try to find a support group for widows (I think there is one but can’t remember the name). It helps to have people in the same situation to share with.
God bless… -
Angelight:
Good evening Angelight,dolphinsiah, I know how you must be feeling now cos my dad passed away recently and I saw the pain and sadness my mum was feeling. she broke down a few times at the wake.
Be strong for your kids. It's not gonna be easy to be both dad and mum to them, especially if they are still young. But take strength from friends and family around you, and don't be afraid to ask for help. Try to find a support group for widows (I think there is one but can't remember the name). It helps to have people in the same situation to share with.
God bless...
My condolences to you .....must spend more time with your mom....
Now her feelings must be like roller coaster....
My first weeks , now and then I will break down in tears....
After funeral went back to work immediately....even more mental toturing...
I was my hubby PA in office...so everything involves the late hubby...
Tears kept rolling down when doing office work...
Kept on issuing the wrong cheques....many times sent out cheques without signatories....
Tried to divert my attention ...by reading books on how to survive as a Widow....Buddhism views of life....
I know the group that helps Widows in Singapore...
The group is WICARE located at Bishan....
Read the book they published....
The book writes about the Widows encounters ....the pain they go through...
Cried buckets of water....when reading the book....so many Young Widows.....
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Hi dolphinsah, didn’t know about this till now i roam in this thread. I am sorry… Please be strong, for yourself and your kids.
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I’m sorry to hear about your situation. It really is a change in identity and everything you’ve been until now.
That said, take small steps to embrace the changes. I think you’ll surprise yourself at the amount you can do. At the same time, be positive and look to the positive people around you to help you cope.
When you grieve, grieve. Don’t let the emotional process faze you - it doesn’t weaken you; it is a strengthening process and you’ll come out stronger for it.
God bless you. -
dolphinsiah, thanks for your condolence. My dad had been ill for a long time. Death is actually a relief for him, at least he didn’t have to suffer anymore. Still, his death came as quite a shock cos it was rather sudden and I went thru a period of shock, denial, accepting of reality and grieving.
Likewise, take your time in the grieving process. Cry if you need to and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. If you really can’t focus on your work right now, why not take a short break and just focus on your own well being and your kids? Once you are more settled emotionally, then go back to work.
I hope you have some close friends or family who are with you during this period of grieving. If not and you need someone to talk to, you can PM me. -
dear dophinsiah
Be strong for yourself and children, you will overcome this one day. Take care of youself physicially too … some yoga and meditation may help. "hug" -
Dear ddolphinsiah, i’m sorry for what happened to your husband
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Dear Dolphinsiah,
My deepest and sincerest condolences.
:hugs: :hugs:
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