How to develop self motivation in children?

[pixiedust]

Ah, okay okay…I see some light.


Over the past 1 day, I pondered over the insights shared in the post.
Have to say the char kway teow analogy is firmly stuck in my head !

Thanks heaps !

Now I have to think further and see if we can execute something…tough tough…

[rosemummy]

Chenonceau:

Praises if overused will have negative effects. If you allow kids to choose freely all the time, there will also be negative effects. They're all tools. Only tools. No good. No bad. Just keep 'em in toolbox and use them when the situation requires it. Dun have to throw away any.

Very true.

I like to hear your view regarding praises. If a parent or teacher is lavish with praise, it may not mean anything after a while. If it's something that they get easily all the time, it's no big deal to them. If you praise a lot all the time, how do you differentiate between, for example, doing what they're expected to and doing what is beyond expectation?

[Chenonceau]

Here is one more strategy in action. Again, it must not be over-used.


http://petunialee.blogspot.com/2011/04/reaching-tipping-point-in-chinese-part.html

[phtthp]

does anyone have a sample daily time table to show … how to motivate a child to study on his / her own ?

[veevee88]

Hi Chenonceau,


I just stumbled onto this forum. Thanks for sharing as i am really at wits end trying to get DS to do his homework (by himself). Will try out what you have shared. Thanks !

[smartmummy]

Hi Chenonceau!


Firstly,my heartfelt thank to Tisha for share Pip's information here.

Secondly, my heartfelt thank to Chenonceau to be more generous and give deep explanations. :salute:

Could you please help me! :imanisland:.

Can I PM to you,please?

[Chenonceau]

smartmummy:

Hi Chenonceau!


Firstly,my heartfelt thank to Tisha for share Pip's information here.

Secondly, my heartfelt thank to Chenonceau to be more generous and give deep explanations. :salute:

Could you please help me! :imanisland:.

Can I PM to you,please?

Yes... do PM and I will try to help. Sorry I didn't reply. Haven't had time to log on in ages.

[smurf]

These days, I'm at lost. How to motivate my p1 boy. He has been taking wushu class for about 4 months now, and violin class since aug 10. He is the type who has NO motivation at all. Violin, after the novelty worn off, he refuses to practise now, no matter how I threaten to stop his class, he also won't practise, but he wants to go for lesson, just dun want to practise.


For wushu, he forgets the steps, even easy steps. Other kids (same class, some even younger than him), are doing so well, can see that they can do very well even without asking. Dun say forget the steps, even if a person shows him how to do the steps, he also can do it wrongly and without 'strength'. When he kicks, he kicks halfway, people kick high, he do it half past six.

He only has these 2 classes and he dun even do it well.

Now he said, he wants me to buy skates (after attended 3 days skate class, he can do basic skating now). But I'm afraid that he will have 三分钟热度.

He has officially stop attending violin class, and he didn't feel sad at all.

He is the type who is very 懒散，and doesn't pay attention in class, I dunno what to do with him. :?:

[Chenonceau]

Hi Smurf, people are motivated to do things they think they are good in. A sense of pride and achievement goes a long way in making a child WANT to… especially when practices are tedious.


(1) Do you give a lot of feedback for improvement?
(2) Do you make it a point to pinpoint things that he did well and highlight them with pride?

Since he chose to do the activity, you have no problem with giving choice… maybe it is a situation that arose because you’ve (or someone else) inadvertently given not enough praise and too much feedback for improvement?

Typically, when a child starts out at something, he/she has not developed enough skill that a parent can praise. However, focusing attention on specific things that were done well given that the child has only just started can increase motivational energy enough that the child will stay committed.

Another strategy is companionship. Sit with him whilst he practises and give moral support and clap a lot. Yet another is a regular schedule of practice. Regular schedules train the child to expect certain activities at a fixed time and for a fixed duration every day. It preempts all arguments about whether or not to practise. The thing is to keep the child committed enough that he/she develops some real skill, and then the good feelings that come with being competent can then naturally motivate the child.

[smurf]

I got praise him leh, recently didn't. Coz nothing for me to praise...hehe...


I think you are right, these days, I only criticize him...coz I'm at lost already. Sigh...

Thank you for your reminder! I will try harder!