Gang members hold sex and drug orgies at chalets

[jojo]

bonding is impt. how to ensure that our kids are truthful to us?

[Chenonceau]

From primary school, I instituted one rule, and made clear that it would not be lifted until after 18 years. I explained why. Talked about birds and bees and rape and everything. Showed them newspaper reports of such shenanigans. Looked at close-up photos of pathogens that causes chlamydia and syphilis… etc… I gained the agreement of my small children then… once they agree and an expectation is formed, less problems later.


RULE: No sleepovers. Everyone must come home to spend the night.

My girl asked about 3 times to go to chalet camps. I said no and it wasn’t a big issue because she already knew what the rule was, and it was quite easy to monitor that the rule is not broken.

[pinky]

Daddy

I think I sure park one corner and spy on my gal next time she go chalet... and give those little ahbengs a piece of my mind :mad: :xedfingers:

these ah bengs may be from 369 also :yikes:

[SAHM_TAN]

Chenonceau:

From primary school, I instituted one rule, and made clear that it would not be lifted until after 18 years. I explained why. Talked about birds and bees and rape and everything. Showed them newspaper reports of such shenanigans. Looked at close-up photos of pathogens that causes chlamydia and syphilis.... etc... I gained the agreement of my small children then... once they agree and an expectation is formed, less problems later.


RULE: No sleepovers. Everyone must come home to spend the night.

My girl asked about 3 times to go to chalet camps. I said no and it wasn't a big issue because she already knew what the rule was, and it was quite easy to monitor that the rule is not broken.

Yup. That's how I plan to do it too. Even if it's all girls, there's no stopping one of the girls to invite boys or for boys from chalets to befriend the group. But bottomline is that no overnight stay outside

[dovetail]

Last Sat, we had a family debate after dinner about whether teenagers should go steady in BGR. We had a great time putting forth our views. Got to see my son’s (14) values on the matter and it also was a subtle way to get him to understand what we parents view as standards for the family without being preachy.


I think, trust and communication is very important. I think we can’t protect them from perversion (there’s plenty from the web) or meeting people with immoral behavior, but if we can cultivate the right morals in their head, they’ll know when to stay away, walk away, or not indulge in it. Rules can sometime backfire or make the forbidden fruit sweeter. If they want to hanky panky, they can do it anywhere, anytime, no need to be chalet.

[atrecord]

Sigh… worrying this…

if this is the trend and it’s not checked, i can foresee it getting worse, and more widespread too. dread to think what will it be like when DD gets to 15-16 yo…

[sall]

Maybe parents can also book a chalet next to them. Then can spy on them.

[limlim]

SBKS:

i dont think can follow leh...


kinda bo bian....sigh...maybe noe all their friends...but thats difficult..u wan to noe them but they dun wan to noe u wor...then how?

It's easy, if you're willing to do some \"services\"..

Say, you offer to help them with the food, etc.. and can openly stay and monitor them liao.. Just find some \"Legal\" reason to stay lah.. like if you got car, can say, in case they need to go anyway.. got someone to drive them etc.. Then you just overnight with them, but hide in 1 of the room lah.. don't try to mix with them or they may drive you away..

[poppy15]

sall:

Maybe parents can also book a chalet next to them. Then can spy on them.

that can be a good idea but its very diff to monitor what's gg on in the next room since all curtains will be drawn close

and there's a possibility of getting \"caught\" too

[wapobs]

if they WANT to go this kind of parties, oredy finis liao.

you are 15 years too late.