Small fish in big pond or big fish in small pond?

[jtoh]

cwc:

jtoh:

Different strokes for different folks.

Agree....
DS - happily enjoying his achievement/recognition in his small pond, refused to go to bigger pond. Contented.
DD - also resisted going to bigger pond. But once transferred, could see her inching out of her hiding corner and her desire to still be a big fish is something I didn't know. Interesting :evil:

Glad to hear that your dd is thriving in the big pond. You never know until you try.

[BeContented]

jtoh:

cwc:

[quote=\"jtoh\"]Different strokes for different folks.

Agree....
DS - happily enjoying his achievement/recognition in his small pond, refused to go to bigger pond. Contented.
DD - also resisted going to bigger pond. But once transferred, could see her inching out of her hiding corner and her desire to still be a big fish is something I didn't know. Interesting :evil:

Glad to hear that your dd is thriving in the big pond. You never know until you try.[/quote]Not exactly a BIG pond lah, but definitely bigger & more challenging than the previous. You're right, never try never know
In fact, quite interesting to see her show some little sparks of intelligence and the elder brother (only 1 yr diff) getting a little surprised and edgy that the younger sis is slowly catching up on him :rahrah: that should keep him on his toes

[MyBaby]

Jumping into this thread as the subject caught my attention. It reminded me of one of RGS Principal’s slide when DD went for the recent Open House. She had a slide with the question "Big Fish, Small Pond?" or "Big Pond, Small Fish?" Then she went on to say that it does not matter as at the end of the day, it is still the same fish (that is, the size of the fish is the same). It is the quality of water that matters.


Then DD turned to me and said, "Mum, what she said is true but there are also other schools that can provide quality water." That was also when I realised that she wasn’t keen on gaining entry to RGS …

[jtoh]

cwc:

Not exactly a BIG pond lah, but definitely bigger & more challenging than the previous. You're right, never try never know
In fact, quite interesting to see her show some little sparks of intelligence and the elder brother (only 1 yr diff) getting a little surprised and edgy that the younger sis is slowly catching up on him :rahrah: that should keep him on his toes

With such a close gap in their age, is there quite a bit of competition?

[jtoh]

MyBaby:

Jumping into this thread as the subject caught my attention. It reminded me of one of RGS Principal's slide when DD went for the recent Open House. She had a slide with the question \"Big Fish, Small Pond?\" or \"Big Pond, Small Fish?\" Then she went on to say that it does not matter as at the end of the day, it is still the same fish (that is, the size of the fish is the same). It is the quality of water that matters.


Then DD turned to me and said, \"Mum, what she said is true but there are also other schools that can provide quality water.\" That was also when I realised that she wasn't keen on gaining entry to RGS ...

An astute dd you have there.

[Nebbermind]

ever kept some fish before. given limited space, the bigger fish always get the food 1st…and more. The smaller fish always remain relatively small.


but that being said, the size of the fish is always limited by the size of the tank…u can only grow that much.

sorry…i can’t figure out what i’m trying to say…LOL!!!

[Pen88n]

Come to think of it, big pond small pond is only for a short period of time. School life is only for that initial 20 years (for boys a little more) or less.


By the time they are out of school, they are all in the ocean and the world is their oyster. How they survive, be it they are big or small fishes, and how they grow are really up to themselves. This is the ultimate test that will determine your success in life.

[hquek]

Nebbermind:

but that being said, the size of the fish is always limited by the size of the tank....u can only grow that much.

Agree with this. I was from a neighbourhood pri school and was a big big fish there. But when I went to a branded sec school, I suddenly realised the world was so much bigger and I'm but an ikan bilis (if I'm lucky).

Following that, for fun, I went to a '2nd-tier' JC during the first 3 months; followed by a '1st tier' JC for the rest - again the exposure and the world was so much different. In the 1st tier JC, they give a lot of help and support for students taking S papers (not sure what it's called now), and for those aiming for overseas studies/scholarships. I don't think there is this level of support in say, the lower tier jc.

So there is something to be said of the big sea vs the small pond, the things you see are so much more, the friends you make are of a different type (nothing good or bad in either tank), the support you get also different. First 20 years of our life only, but something that will leave a mark on our lives for a long long time.

[rosemummy]

Nebbermind:

ever kept some fish before. given limited space, the bigger fish always get the food 1st...and more. The smaller fish always remain relatively small.


but that being said, the size of the fish is always limited by the size of the tank....u can only grow that much.

sorry...i can't figure out what i'm trying to say....LOL!!!

True. I guess the food available to the fishes, and how the caregiver looks after them, are also important factors. The caregiver can always separate the smaller fishes for feeding. Just as any school can provide special help to their weaker pupils.

The size a fish can grow to is limited by the size of the tank if the fish is close to the size of the tank. But we're talking about a pond, so it's unlikely a problem unless you have an extremely large fish is a very small pond (say a child with above 270 in a below par neighbourhood school).

[BeContented]

jtoh:

cwc:

Not exactly a BIG pond lah, but definitely bigger & more challenging than the previous. You're right, never try never know
In fact, quite interesting to see her show some little sparks of intelligence and the elder brother (only 1 yr diff) getting a little surprised and edgy that the younger sis is slowly catching up on him :rahrah: that should keep him on his toes

With such a close gap in their age, is there quite a bit of competition?

Definitely. But so far, pretty healthy type But sometimes, I need to be careful such that I have to encourage both and not demoralize any

Whenever one has issue with schoolwork, the other will be all eager to try to help solve it (aiyah, prove themselves lah).....so I can shake leg :boogie: