Elderly woman mistreated at nursing home

[buds]

Mum1113:

Heart pain to watch the mis-treatment on a helpless old lady. Why there are such pple who are so heartless and dont feel a thing when carrying such act ? Also curious why is there a hidden camera in the first place ? The family suspected something and installed it secretly ?

Heart pain and also curious to know why
poor old lady was placed there in the
first place.. Still have family.

[phtthp]

behind every single lonely old folk staying there, there is a sad story, a sad past.

[peapot]

Buds, I think maybe the family member do not have anyone to take care of her as everyone could be working. They probably don’t trust maid thinking that nurses in nursing home would be safer and better treatment for her.


However, it seems the nursing home proves us wrong.

[LOLMum]

also some old folks are unable to get along with the ils so off they go to the dumping ground.

[peapot]

Wa! LOLMum, you also wake up early! I thought no one could beat me. Ha…

[LOLMum]

heehee,


and good morning to you peapot,

just got back from the cinema and it is only 12+ am in london.

[corneyAmber]

Peapot, do you see your early post time as 23:16? Something seems wrong with the clock..:?

[peapot]

no leh, my clock shows correct timing.


LOLMum, you are in London?? Having a nice time??

[corneyAmber]

peapot:

no leh, my clock shows correct timing.


LOLMum, you are in London?? Having a nice time??

Thanks peapot, got my clock adjusted.

[BeContented]

Hi LOLMum,

saw a couple of your responses......seems to pin most of these faults to DILs. sometimes, you gotta look at the whole situation. first of all, the sons/children must do their part to take care of their own parents....not dump the responsibilities to the DIL. that's downright not fair :mad:

just look at my situation, I am THE ONLY dil who agreed to let PILs over, but look what happens, it becomes my job, my responsibility. Fortunately, DH helps so I am willing to bear.....but it is increasingly straining my family, i'm reaching my threshold. financial help is NOT enough, I need my life too, DH needs his rest too....what are the rest doing to help?? my home is actually a dumping ground/nursing home for the rest of the siblings!!!

besides having frailing FIL, I have a difficult MIL. Talk about beautiful peaceful morning, almost 70% of my mornings, I wake from MIL yelling at FIL or maid & end up in a bad mood myself. I was in pink of heath and suddenly, a few mths after PILs shifted in, I was diagnosed with High BP (at 36yo).

Despite having endured a few years with PILs, I am seriously considering nursing home cos' all my previous maids refused to continue due to MIL. (during that time, maid only has to face MIL in the daytime loh) Was maidless and turn SAHM for a few years, was happy loh.
Now with frail FIL, had to hire maid again but new maid is showing signs that she cannot take it if MIL goes on......the real person I should be sending off is my MIL cos' she is the cause of ALL troubles.....if she keep her mouth shut and not interfere, things are fine.....I love it when she's not at home. But my only choice is to send FIL and then, terminate maid cos' I'm drained, my relationship with DH is drained & now, drained with the BILs/SILs too.

Finally, despite being the ONLY dil accommodating all these & enduring it for years, when the time comes. all blames/displeasure/accusation is on ME. Fair? I think not :rant:
The ones who dun live together, the ones who just watch from afar are the GOOD ones. I only know, if I am ever to stay with my DIL when I'm old, I will keep my mouth shut and should not be expecting from her. MY OWN children should be doing their parts and not the DILs. I'm sure if my OWN children were to help out sufficiently such the the DILs do not reach the stage of being strained, things would not reach such a state.