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[chooz]

I have a 6yo and a little one going 3. Hubby asked y don't I cook since kids r away in school like fr 1030hrs to 1500hrs. WhT, cook dinner during lunch???

I am catering tingkat dinner on weekdays. So far so good. Sometimes add a little other dishes for the kids and myself. I'm not a great cook. But I know what my kids like and makes cooking for them easier.
But my husband doesn't like what my kids like... So y should I bother to tear my hair out over every meal?
Easier to train my kids to eat what is given. They r doing well so far, trained to accept what comes and not choosy like hubby.
Having said that, hubby was a pampered kid... Which I do not want my kids to be. My older one has become independant, looking after himself, minus cooking of cos. Hubby leaves utensils in sink after use. Sonny will tell him to wash up...
I hv a once a week domestic helper. Hubby is not adept at looking after kids, neither does he help out at home with chores. I'm fine, but I detests seeing him lazing and watching tv... I feel imbalanced. Me being not able to help out financially doesn't mean he can't help out with chores at home mah!
Aiyah... Sorry, it's getting too long...

[MummyThreeStreams]

chooz,

DH was also a pampered child. Fortunately, he is amenable to doing minor household chores, like taking the clothes down or washing the dishes…maybe not that frequently or not to my standard, but he recognizes that I am not his servant so I can’t be the only one working at home. When he starts taking me for granted, I make my unhappiness known to him, and he generally bucks up.

[jedamum]

oh...so i am not the only sahm that don't cook everyday. :evil:

my 'menu' also very limited. my ds2 told me,'no pasta please'. his favourite order is 'fried rice' i give them steam eggs every other day and they love it. i like to cook peas/beans cos easy to wash. don't like leafy veg cos takes a long time to clean/wash (i get paranoid).

[SAHM_TAN]

[quote=\"johmom\"]SAHM_TAN,


actually, with time it'll be faster... or if it's just your personality to enjoy the process then...\"what's the rush!\" :)[/quote

Thanks for your encouragement. I make things difficult for myself. For example, cooking claypot rice with my rice cooker, I can just dump everything in but because I want to retain the tenderness of the chicken, I will monitor the cooker till it count down to 10 mins before I put it in. When I bake pork ribs, I can just leave it in the oven for 45 mins. But I use 30 mins to bake covered with aluminium foil, and another 30 mins without, and within that 30 mins, every 10 mins or so I would baste it with the juice. When I wash veg, I tend to wash each leaf, though I trying to stop myself and just soak it in salt water, then wash.......steam egg, i will make sure no bubbles, the list goes on...when my DH cooks, he is very fast chop chop done :rotflmao:

[Kabby]

jedamum:

oh...so i am not the only sahm that don't cook everyday. :evil:

my 'menu' also very limited. my ds2 told me,'no pasta please'. his favourite order is 'fried rice' i give them steam eggs every other day and they love it. i like to cook peas/beans cos easy to wash. don't like leafy veg cos takes a long time to clean/wash (i get paranoid).

haha, don't worry, you are not. i know plenty other SAHMs who don't cook everyday.

my boys love pasta lei. everyday can eat pasta. it is me and Dh who cannot, Dh esp needs rice. so i just force the boys to eat whatever i cook, if it is something they don't like.

aiyah, to have the kids and Dh like different things is very troublesome. Dh cannot be forced, so force the kids lor. (for me lah)

[Kabby]

SAHM_TAN:

Thanks for your encouragement. I make things difficult for myself. For example, cooking claypot rice with my rice cooker, I can just dump everything in but because I want to retain the tenderness of the chicken, I will monitor the cooker till it count down to 10 mins before I put it in. When I bake pork ribs, I can just leave it in the oven for 45 mins. But I use 30 mins to bake covered with aluminium foil, and another 30 mins without, and within that 30 mins, every 10 mins or so I would baste it with the juice. When I wash veg, I tend to wash each leaf, though I trying to stop myself and just soak it in salt water, then wash.......steam egg, i will make sure no bubbles, the list goes on...when my DH cooks, he is very fast chop chop done :rotflmao:

if you have no time constraint then it's ok lah. your way takes more time but taste and look better what.

oh, my mom loves to wash stuff with salt too. even the fruit skin, like grapes. she says salt is the best/ easiest/ most natural and cheapest stuff to kill germs.

i don't wash too clean, but definitely cleaner than outside lah. my friends who used to work in restaurants (overseas undergrads, all work in restaurants to earn pocket money) tell me after working in the back, don't dare to eat out anymore. they tell me, very very dirty one.

[linden2000]

Last time used to order Tingkat dinner but after a while got tired of it. The one we had was very oily and some days even sliced cucumber is considered a dish which I find unacceptable! So now it’s back to cooking but I only have time to cook simple dishes. For example,

1) Chicken or beef pasta (buy sauce and add mixed veg, button mushrooms, meat). For variety,vary between spaghetti, vegeroni, linguine, elbows.

2)lotus root soup (just dump lotus roots, peanuts, pork ribs into slow cooker n cook for a few hours, then cook rice)

3)hainanese chicken rice (buy pre-prepared chicken rice paste from supermarket, add to rice, chicken wings or drumsticks, mixed vegetables in a casserole and microwave)

4)fried rice (stir-fry mixed veg, omelete, chicken)

5)pineapple fried rice (buy pre-prepared paste and fry with rice, pineapple cubes, mixed veg, chicken. Add raisins n cashew nuts before serving.

6)Bak Kut Teh (buy the Bak Kut Teh satchets n cook with pork ribs or chicken wings n garlic)

Just to share…

[linden2000]

SAHM_TAN:

johmom:

SAHM_TAN,


actually, with time it'll be faster... or if it's just your personality to enjoy the process then...\"what's the rush!\" :)[/quote

Thanks for your encouragement. I make things difficult for myself. For example, cooking claypot rice with my rice cooker, I can just dump everything in but because I want to retain the tenderness of the chicken, I will monitor the cooker till it count down to 10 mins before I put it in. When I bake pork ribs, I can just leave it in the oven for 45 mins. But I use 30 mins to bake covered with aluminium foil, and another 30 mins without, and within that 30 mins, every 10 mins or so I would baste it with the juice. When I wash veg, I tend to wash each leaf, though I trying to stop myself and just soak it in salt water, then wash.......steam egg, i will make sure no bubbles, the list goes on...when my DH cooks, he is very fast chop chop
done :rotflmao:

Think your way the food should definitely taste better though it may take longer.

[linden2000]

jedamum:

oh...so i am not the only sahm that don't cook everyday. :evil:

my 'menu' also very limited. my ds2 told me,'no pasta please'. his favourite order is 'fried rice' i give them steam eggs every other day and they love it. i like to cook peas/beans cos easy to wash. don't like leafy veg cos takes a long time to clean/wash (i get paranoid).

I have this phobia that I will miss worms on those leafy veg so like u, I don't like those leafy veg.
:hi5:

[SAHM_TAN]

Hi Kabby and linden2000,


Thanks for your support

Hi Kabby,

I do have time constrain, so I will have a masterpiece and easy side dish that I can steam.

Getting better with cooking but still long way to go compared to my mother and MIL.

I have problem with cooking veg asian style, strange but true.