BGR for a 13 year old

[toddles]

Someone once gave good advice on this. Not to outright say "NO" bgr at all, but to set clear boundaries. e.g. physical boundaries.

[Herbie]

hi toddles, thanks! Very gd advice indeed!

[kiddo]

I have been asking DS (now 15) for many years since he was 13 if he

have interest in BGR at this age . He say yes but not now
too busy and also gal need to spend a lot of time,

Because he is close to me and DH and we encourage him to go
out in group and need not be a BGR pair kind of socialising.
Told him to enjoy group of friends and not confined to a single
person at such a young age, to really know about the process
of growing up.

He told me in his Sec 1 class there are distinctly few groups/click of classmates ---the BGR pair, --the handphone manic group, the quai quai/studious group and the free with all individual.
So BGR do exist at a very young age in all school though as parents
we know it just \"puppy love\" , it a thin line to tread , and we do
not want our DS /DD to shut us out in this volatile \"teenage years\"

I would like to say \"no no \" to BGR at 13 but can I 24/7 be with
DS - no - so I try to share as many why not issue on BGR but do not
strongly object as we know the \"teenage ' year is a stage of
\"The teenage know it all\" but actually \"know not at all\"

Happy parenting :snuggles: :hugs:

[LOLMum]

we must always remind our kids they have the right to say "NO" and should be respected for doing so.


teenage boys are a curious lots, so better to remind them that no matter who starts it, dont do it (girls are not the only one who can say "NO") cos you never know what the girl would turn around and accuse him of.


aiyah yah, teenagers - giving me more white hairs now.

[Nebbermind]

LOLMum:

aiyah yah, teenagers - giving me more white hairs now.

still, it's a million times better than losing hair!!

[Herbie]

I speak to my kid abt crushes etc.

To help him understand that his feelling for this girl may just be temporary.

I also used the analogy like that girl is like a young tree in the forest. Young tree will go through changes and she will grow into a mature tree.

So he may like this particular tree now but he may prefer another more mature tree as he grows up. And some trees you need to spend more time to take care of it. But some trees are very hardy.....

Guess wat? after hearing what i said my 'theory' on trees.
My son told me \"Mum, this tree that i m interested in is really not bad.\"

I think I will have more white hair soon!!!

[LOLMum]

Herbie:

Guess wat? after hearing what i said my 'theory' on trees.
My son told me \"Mum, this tree that i m interested in is really not bad.\"

:rotflmao:

[flametree]

hi Herbie,

i have a 13 yr old DS like u. May I know how do you find out abt his BGR? Coz nowadays I find my DS doesn’t tell me everything anymore. He used to tell me everything under the sun but not anymore, he’ll choose to tell me only certain stuff.
flametree

[BeContented]

Sometimes I wonder, which is worse?!?!


Worry our kids have BGR issues
OR
Worry about they dun have BGR cos' it might be BBR or GGR :faint:

These days seems common :gloomy:

[Herbie]

hi! Flametree,

oh! My ds started smsing this girl so frequently… During the june holiday… It started with some advice over some issues which my ds is facing and since then my son has been smsing her frequently…