Why are social skills important for life, not just school?

[kiddo]

tankee:

how can any 1-2 hrs class perhaps once or twice a week do wonders on social skills? I'm sure any kid will spend more than 4 hrs a week with their parents.


work is no excuse for any working parents to not to have time for their children. if really, so then don't have any in the first place. Our children are our responsibilities, not our parents, and definitely not some outsourced vendors.

social skills definitely Parents responsiblility....
we are their first teacher the day they are born even more so
as they grow .........if we as parents donno dont teach
who will do better .......better we improve ourself then they
will emulate

[jedamum]

lizziewine:

I do also hope we do not have our kids keep encountering people who make us believe in the long run that being nice doesn't get us anywhere, esp in our working world and society ... doesn't pose much help if hope isn't in our hearts... ....

i want to bring my kids up to be a genuine person, but to also be one who does not get taken advantage of easily. not easy to do so because there are all sorts of people out there in the world. but then again, whether one is being taken advantage of, it depends on whether that person perceived that unfortunate event to be one or just merely felt that it is pure bad luck. do i make sense to you? :oops:

lizziewine:

i still believe there are real people out there who cares truly about our kids - just gotta find them ...

i too believe that there are such people. i encountered them in the form of school teachers and even enrichment centres teachers.
but to send them to a school that specialises in teaching 'social behaviour', i will be skeptical whether the teacher are genuinely concerned or only delivering their programme.

[lizziewine]

Thank you everyone for your posting… i too am learning by unlearning many things and holding myself as the prime example to my kids… have observed often also that many kids are rather ‘wild’ and uncontrollable in public places and observed that their parents do not seem to ‘care’ … what to make of this situation if I understand parents as the ones to be able to guide and teach our children and worse, if the parents themselves have no respect for people, things and places? … how to be example to the kids then?

[lizziewine]

So how can you tell if the person teaching specific life and social skills curriculum and courses really cares for the child>?

[Nebbermind]

lizziewine:

Thank you everyone for your posting... i too am learning by unlearning many things and holding myself as the prime example to my kids.... have observed often also that many kids are rather 'wild' and uncontrollable in public places and observed that their parents do not seem to 'care' ... what to make of this situation if I understand parents as the ones to be able to guide and teach our children and worse, if the parents themselves have no respect for people, things and places? ... how to be example to the kids then?

after having my own kids and also attending some parenthood seminars where we get to share our experiences, I come to realise that I should not be too judgmental when I see misbehaving kids!

If u have really well behave kids :imanangel: , u r really blesed!

[MadScientist]

lizziewine:

So how can you tell if the person teaching specific life and social skills curriculum and courses really cares for the child>?

Just observe...

The kids know it themselves... Children are born perfect. The environment destroys this perfection to different extents. IF the teacher really cares for the kids, the kids will know it and bond with the teacher really fast... this bond would be very special too as young children like to have 1-to-1 connections.

Listening to the children in completion is really the first step... children know when they are wanted, when they are not wanted... and they respond without prohibition.

Angels they are... angels planted in our lives to help us be better people.

[jedamum]

Nebbermind:

after having my own kids and also attending some parenthood seminars where we get to share our experiences, I come to realise that I should not be too judgmental when I see misbehaving kids!

:goodpost:

MadScientist:

Angels they are... angels planted in our lives to help us be better people.

:goodpost:

[baobei]

Some kids need to be taught social skills as they have special needs, they need to be taught how to handle each and every situation. They simply cannot process like most of us, they are handicap in this area.


In such cases, it is in unfortunate that our current school system focuses very much on academic, cannot spend time to correct the children on the spot. In the olden days when teachers are given the power to hit the children, it deters the children though they may not understand why. An after event lecturing unfortunately does not help these children to learn even when parents are informed.

The more surprising problem is in higher education, the class sizes are much smaller than the number of class size that we have in primary schools where character building and academic foundations are more important. We do not have many teachers yet we cater for foreigners instead of turning them to the international schools.

[SAHM_TAN]

Social skills include etiquette too? Like fine dinning which fork / spoon to use , or make-up skills, or dress sense like are you suitable for warm or cool colours etc ?


I will not be able to teach my girls how to put on make-up LOL.

I do know there are lessons on what spoon/forks to use, how to navigate in a networking session, make-up etc. I think uni might have such lessons too.

The values, politeness, character stuff I can teach but those outside my expertise and useful I’m ok to let them take lesson. The make-up lessons may be very fun for my girls LOL, when they are older heehee

[sleepy]

There are social etiquette classes and personal grooming classes conducted in school.

My dd said those are common sense stuff, either I have taught her before or she learned from observation.