Why are social skills important for life, not just school?
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Thank you everyone for your posting… i too am learning by unlearning many things and holding myself as the prime example to my kids… have observed often also that many kids are rather ‘wild’ and uncontrollable in public places and observed that their parents do not seem to ‘care’ … what to make of this situation if I understand parents as the ones to be able to guide and teach our children and worse, if the parents themselves have no respect for people, things and places? … how to be example to the kids then?
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So how can you tell if the person teaching specific life and social skills curriculum and courses really cares for the child>?
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lizziewine:
Thank you everyone for your posting... i too am learning by unlearning many things and holding myself as the prime example to my kids.... have observed often also that many kids are rather 'wild' and uncontrollable in public places and observed that their parents do not seem to 'care' ... what to make of this situation if I understand parents as the ones to be able to guide and teach our children and worse, if the parents themselves have no respect for people, things and places? ... how to be example to the kids then?
after having my own kids and also attending some parenthood seminars where we get to share our experiences, I come to realise that I should not be too judgmental when I see misbehaving kids!
If u have really well behave kids :imanangel: , u r really blesed! -
lizziewine:
So how can you tell if the person teaching specific life and social skills curriculum and courses really cares for the child>?
Just observe...
The kids know it themselves... Children are born perfect. The environment destroys this perfection to different extents. IF the teacher really cares for the kids, the kids will know it and bond with the teacher really fast... this bond would be very special too as young children like to have 1-to-1 connections.
Listening to the children in completion is really the first step... children know when they are wanted, when they are not wanted... and they respond without prohibition.
Angels they are... angels planted in our lives to help us be better people. -
Nebbermind:
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after having my own kids and also attending some parenthood seminars where we get to share our experiences, I come to realise that I should not be too judgmental when I see misbehaving kids! MadScientist:
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Angels they are... angels planted in our lives to help us be better people. -
Some kids need to be taught social skills as they have special needs, they need to be taught how to handle each and every situation. They simply cannot process like most of us, they are handicap in this area.
In such cases, it is in unfortunate that our current school system focuses very much on academic, cannot spend time to correct the children on the spot. In the olden days when teachers are given the power to hit the children, it deters the children though they may not understand why. An after event lecturing unfortunately does not help these children to learn even when parents are informed.
The more surprising problem is in higher education, the class sizes are much smaller than the number of class size that we have in primary schools where character building and academic foundations are more important. We do not have many teachers yet we cater for foreigners instead of turning them to the international schools. -
Social skills include etiquette too? Like fine dinning which fork / spoon to use , or make-up skills, or dress sense like are you suitable for warm or cool colours etc ?
I will not be able to teach my girls how to put on make-up LOL.
I do know there are lessons on what spoon/forks to use, how to navigate in a networking session, make-up etc. I think uni might have such lessons too.
The values, politeness, character stuff I can teach but those outside my expertise and useful I’m ok to let them take lesson. The make-up lessons may be very fun for my girls LOL, when they are older heehee -
There are social etiquette classes and personal grooming classes conducted in school.
My dd said those are common sense stuff, either I have taught her before or she learned from observation. -
SAHM_TAN:
Social skills include etiquette too? Like fine dinning which fork / spoon to use , or make-up skills, or dress sense like are you suitable for warm or cool colours etc ?
I will not be able to teach my girls how to put on make-up LOL.
I do know there are lessons on what spoon/forks to use, how to navigate in a networking session, make-up etc. I think uni might have such lessons too.
The values, politeness, character stuff I can teach but those outside my expertise and useful I'm ok to let them take lesson. The make-up lessons may be very fun for my girls LOL, when they are older heehee
I took make up classes as well as how to wear the right colour/style classes. Those are useful. I can shop alone easily because I know what colour suits me. No need someone to accompany me for 2nd opinion
I chose my girls wardrobe and plan the colour coordination. Especially if they are attending a party. I will make sure they dress appropriately and fashionably. It's my hobby coordinating styles and colour and now I get to plan 3 wardrobe, so fun
Will teach them how to apply make up when they are older. Now I just apply for them on certain occasions. The one thing I can't stand is their untrimmed eyebrow. But both refused to let me trim for them -
baobei:
Good point, baobei!Some kids need to be taught social skills as they have special needs, they need to be taught how to handle each and every situation. They simply cannot process like most of us, they are handicap in this area.
In such cases, it is in unfortunate that our current school system focuses very much on academic, cannot spend time to correct the children on the spot. In the olden days when teachers are given the power to hit the children, it deters the children though they may not understand why. An after event lecturing unfortunately does not help these children to learn even when parents are informed.
The more surprising problem is in higher education, the class sizes are much smaller than the number of class size that we have in primary schools where character building and academic foundations are more important. We do not have many teachers yet we cater for foreigners instead of turning them to the international schools.
Whether we should maintain that foreigners remain in international schools is another debatable issue, though.
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