In-law problems?

[kids_r_innocent]

ectanz:

Her mum. She complained to us 想当年 her MIL did not offer any help when she had 4 kids.

Old folks seems to talk the same way. My MIL oso always brag about how tough she went thru bringing up her children I can't be bothered as my mum and everyone else went thru even worse times than her!!

[ectanz]

kids_r_innocent:

ectanz:

Did u mistaken as dang gui, a tonic for women? Tat will be impossible. I hv married my hb for around 10 yrs, not even a glass of herbal tea fr my MIL. She will only boil for her own children. No extra for DIL.

Yup.. i tot it was dang gui!!

Mayb our own DIY herbal tea will taste better than that of our MIL. I tried boiling it before... my MIL doesnt even know how to boil herbal tea!! :skeptical:

My MIL is a Cantonese. She will boil herbal tea every wkend.

[ectanz]

Hv anyone here went holiday trip with PIL before?


I was being forced to go travelling with my PIL when my dd1 was around 3 yrs, her first trip to hong kong. Can u imagine I hv got nothing in this trip where hong kong is famous for shopping spree. I hv spending 4 days beside a day to Disneyland for my dd1, spending time with them to those sightseeings where I was least interested.

I complained to my hb but he can't simply left the old folks to travel themselves. However, my MIL especially did not help me to take care of my dd1 as promised.

I really hate it tat they really like to tag along wherever trip we went. There was 1 time, we intentionally did not inform them regarding our trip to Australia, can imagine their face when we r back to s'pore..... :rant: :mad:

[mmlim]

Hi ectanz, my PIL suggested for me and hb to move in with them. My hb was moved and I can see his wish to do so, but I am a tad worried after reading all these threads.

[bigsnoopy]

mmlim:

Hi ectanz, my PIL suggested for me and hb to move in with them. My hb was moved and I can see his wish to do so, but I am a tad worried after reading all these threads.

I would advise against it no matter how tempting it might look... I too had no problems with ILs until I moved in but then I quickly :siam: but the damage is alrdy there...

[auntieM]

mmlim:

Hi ectanz, my PIL suggested for me and hb to move in with them. My hb was moved and I can see his wish to do so, but I am a tad worried after reading all these threads.

Really have to think over very seriously.. ..living together is not so 'simple', and you will lose your privacy and freedom too.. ..

[jedamum]

you can consider moving in with them. but i would suggest you keep your house (ie dont sell your house and move in with them), in case you have second thoughts later.

i am not in the favour of selling the flat and buy a house (be it private property) with them even if it make more financial sense. not at the moment when the kids are young and potential conflict in childrearing views. but may not be a concern when the kids are all grown up and when you have aged.

[kiddo]

Not easy to move in with in-laws, all aspect very different,

my in-laws are superb to get along but still living together
is a different matter, not that they or intentionally create trouble
is just the \"too close for comfort\" .

Just my take - \"best to live peacefully\" whether together
or not ... no need another issue to solve :hi5:

[ectanz]

mmlim:

Hi ectanz, my PIL suggested for me and hb to move in with them. My hb was moved and I can see his wish to do so, but I am a tad worried after reading all these threads.

Hi mmlim, not every MIL is as \"bad\" as wat u read in those postings. I hv heard somes cases tat PIL n DIL r living together in perfect harmony. Of coz, both parties will hv to learn to give and take. No easy! Really hv to Very hard!

Btw, is yr hb the only son? If yes, then it might be quite difficult to reject their suggestion. Given a choice, better to stay near than together.

I hv a gf who was previously staying with her PIL while waiting for their flat. She was asked to do chores after work. She had to clean up all the mess in kitchen even she was not having dinner at hm. She endured for almost 3 yrs until she got her flat. Although her PIL kept dropping hints to stay with them but my gf juz act dumb n :siam:

[janet88]

mmlim:

Hi ectanz, my PIL suggested for me and hb to move in with them. My hb was moved and I can see his wish to do so, but I am a tad worried after reading all these threads.

Even if your PILs are not the scary type...it's still much better to be 'hi-and-bye' than staying together...同住难. Definitely better to have 2 households than living under one roof together.