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My kids haven’t reached teenage stage yet…so I don’t know how they will turn out to be…but comparing the stages between baby, toddler, kindergarten and the present (7 and 11 year old), I definitely prefer now although they fight all the time. At the very least, I don’t have to cook porridge before we go out each time. The 1-3 year old stage was tough.
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phankao:
R u very close with ur teenage children? Do u mind to share how do u enforce rules, if any, on them to get them to do things tat is deem right in parents' eyes? :xedfingers:
No. I like that they are more independent. I have 2 teenagers 17 & 14, and another that I can't wait for him to become a teenager. He's now 12. Compare that to our 3year old - can pengsan.
Wah! Talking about 3 year old! Tink they act like when I was 5 years old last time. -
janet_lee88:
My kids haven't reached teenage stage yet...so I don't know how they will turn out to be...but comparing the stages between baby, toddler, kindergarten and the present (7 and 11 year old), I definitely prefer now although they fight all the time. At the very least, I don't have to cook porridge before we go out each time. The 1-3 year old stage was tough.
It hit the nail!! Fancy rushing to cook before we go out sometimes damper my spirits n despite our efforts, they may want to eat outside food more than the home cooked porridge :frustrated: -
phankao:
Ha, I always heard from my older friends have this saying - as kids grow older, their problems get bigger? Issues like rebellious, not listening with a mind of their own, hardly communicate or prefer friends more than family, more $$$.
I personally like the teenage years better. They tend to be more responsible. Can take care of themselves.
Mine has gone from terrible twos to an even worse threes, leh.....exactly on his birthday some more. ;(
Phankao may change my perspective.. Hehe -
LLX04:
Phankao Kids R ALL Role Models for other KSP's di-di and Mei-Mei ....
Ha, I always heard from my older friends have this saying - as kids grow older, their problems get bigger? Issues like rebellious, not listening with a mind of their own, hardly communicate or prefer friends more than family, more $$$.phankao:
I personally like the teenage years better. They tend to be more responsible. Can take care of themselves.
Mine has gone from terrible twos to an even worse threes, leh.....exactly on his birthday some more. ;(
Phankao may change my perspective.. Hehe
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janet_lee88:
My kids haven't reached teenage stage yet...so I don't know how they will turn out to be...but comparing the stages between baby, toddler, kindergarten and the present (7 and 11 year old), I definitely prefer now although they fight all the time. At the very least, I don't have to cook porridge before we go out each time. The 1-3 year old stage was tough.
Hi Janet, totally agreed. I can't wait for my dd2 to grow up. She is now approaching 9 mth old. Bringing her out really very troublesome, hv to 大包小包. The most toughest stage is to toilet-training.
My dd1 who is now 6 yo, approaching another milestone of her life which is entering to P1 next year. Coaching her on hmwk already made me feeling like knocking against the wall....really :slapshead: n :mad: .
Conclusion - I definitely prefer the age of 4 if I can turn back the clock for my dd1. -
With 2 kids now 10 & 11, I actually prefer them when they were between 3-5yo. Perhaps I'm biased, but I felt that my 2 kids were quite sweet & cute and rather 'good-tempered' in a way. Dun really remember them throwing big tantrums or sulk....quite easy to 'tame'
and cuddly too. Only had to worry about their day-to-day cos' still dependent on us......
Wonder what happen now......seems like they 'changed' after i become SAHM?!?! :oops: :scared: So I dun know what will happen when they reach teenager stage..... :nailbite: -
Funx3:
I sincerly cannot say they are model material either. Rebellious - in a way yes. Eg. if you tell them they should be studying, they won't listen to you and instead continue playing. But if you leave them be, they will realise that they SHOULD have organised their time better after all. So sometimes it's best not to plan their time too much for them. Anyway for teenagers, they don't like you to either! So in a way, it's better for me...save time.
Phankao Kids R ALL Role Models for other KSP's di-di and Mei-Mei ....LLX04:
Ha, I always heard from my older friends have this saying - as kids grow older, their problems get bigger? Issues like rebellious, not listening with a mind of their own, hardly communicate or prefer friends more than family, more $$$.
Phankao may change my perspective.. Hehe
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My kids are not top students. In fact, they are often the average and even the failing kind. Many ups and downs. But at the same time they don't like to accept help much - again, that means we are more free! They want us to mind our own business!!!
So if you want to say they listen to us? Yes, maybe to some extent, but mostly they probably don't. Maybe out of all that we advise, only 10% remains to haunt them later, the rest gets blown away with the wind!
But yes, thankfully, they seem to be turning out quite ok. Not too much bad company or influence. They seem to know what's right.
If you are talking about ages of 3 to 5. I'd think those are really hard times. We have to make sure they have their food, proper meals, someone is around to care for them at all times or else they have to follow us everywhere (I brought three of them along when I worked last time). I don't enjoy those times. Now, if I were to leave them alone, they will be on auto-pilot ... can get their own food(buy???), get to school and back themselves, arrange schedules with their friends. So well, they don't really need us all that much, except for their pocket money!!!(?!!). So less stressful in a way - until we see their term progress reports, that is!!! HAHA! -
I find the under two stage the easiest! I once travelled on my own to the US with DS1 when he was less an 2yo. My kids breastfeed, so when i go out, I don’t have to worry about milk powder. Even if they wake up in the night, I just have to let the nurse themselves back to sleep and I don’t really have to wake up. Can carry em everywhere on the sling and they won’t run away from you. No need to argue with them. Easy to get them to do what you want by clever use of inducements and distractions.
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MummyThreeStreams:
I find the under two stage the easiest! I once travelled on my own to the US with DS1 when he was less an 2yo. My kids breastfeed, so when i go out, I don't have to worry about milk powder. Even if they wake up in the night, I just have to let the nurse themselves back to sleep and I don't really have to wake up. Can carry em everywhere on the sling and they won't run away from you. No need to argue with them. Easy to get them to do what you want by clever use of inducements and distractions.
Only thing is that you have to carry them around, you have to feed them, nurse them. Aiyah....
Last night, I was having a bad time sleeping for some reason. Then my 3yo woke and was tossing/turning around in bed and finally asked to drink milk. I told him \"sky not bright yet\". Thankfully he didn't argue. *whew*. 630am and he woke and said \"mommy, sky bright already, I want to drink milk\". Oh well - can't argue with that. Am afraid my old bones really ache nursing in bed with this youngest one though. So I can no longer say it's a breeze to nurse at night without really having to wake, like how it was with the older ones. With this one, I don't find nursing in bed restful, although I still do it.
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