Please read n help me if u can, urgent advise needed...

[UncleLim]

Ok, everyone. This thread has gone on long enough. Let’s not post anymore and do something practical for urgenthelp. Can we pool some cash together and extend it to her as an interest-free loan to help her get on her feet? No amount is too small or too big. I will personally match dollar-for-dollar to double the total amount collected. Can some veteran member or councillor or mod do the collection?


@urgenthelp: I hope you do not mind. It is a bit humbling but once your loan is lifted you will feel better and have the frame of mind to move forward.

[ChiefKiasu]

Dear UncleLim,


While the threadstarter’s posts depict a heart-rending story, do keep in mind that there are regulatory guidelines to the collection of funds for charity. KiasuParents.com is not a registered entity for such an activity, and we cannot vouch for the authenticity of any call to action nor the safeguarding of any funds collected. The threadstarter should seek help from one of the many institutions (as listed by some members in this thread) that were set up to professionally handle such situations, or talk to her MP.

[UncleLim]

Hi ChiefKiasu,


Thanks and your stand noted. Will extend help privately.

Urgenthelp, please check your PM inbox.

[dicky]

Great that Uncle Lim is helping. Unfortunately we are salaried employee, with spare cash only last us 5 months if one of us not working. As what our elders advise, we should help within our means (Liang Li Er Wei)


May we suggest that both financial help and guidance is given. More emphasis on the guidance part. Because we had past bad experiences sticking our necks extending financial help. We counted 6 in total, 3 relatives, 1 friend, 1 neighbour and 1 tenant. We tried advising on their financial part too, sad to say they weren't better off than if we didn't help... Worst we started blaming ourselves that we didn't tried harder...

All the best

[teh_oh]

Hi Urgenthelp,


Do your parents know that you are in debt?
Do you have any siblings or relatives to help you?
How about your husband’s side?
Have you and your husband thought about changing to a higher paid job or job with more overtime potential? Or taking up a second job to supplement income?
Sorry, i didn’t read your history.

If your mum can still care for the child, there is no need to send the child to CC to cut down on costs. However, if you feel that you must, you can try out cheaper alternatives or opt for 3hrs PAP Community Foundation Kindergarten to give your mum a breather.

And for those who are not in the know, I believe that there is no need to loan from bank to repay hospital bills. Approach hospital’[s billing department to work out an instalment repayment plan. I still hope to believe that in SG, no one who is in need, will be denied basic healthcare.

It is still best to approach a professional counselor before you sink into depression. Don’t worry about not knowing what to talk about, they are professional and have seen a lot of cases and hence will be able to help you in some ways.

All the best.

[dicky]

Unfortunately depression wasn’t easily defined, unless we see doctors. If fact, I did not come across as depressed to DH and my closet friends after child birth. They thought I was tired and temperamental after harrowing difficult childbirth. I only learnt from doctor later who suspected my condition when I brought DS for appts. It was confirmed weeks later in follow-up medical and was prescribed medication.


General misconception was that alot of people thought they have depression when they turn moody and such. If they self-realise it or tried some survey questions, unlikely depression because depression usually have self-denial thoughts or resist the idea of depressions, at early stage.

I may be wrong, though that what I learnt from doctor’s comments and my subsequent readup on depression after I recovered…

[urgenthelp]

Dear All,


I am Sorry for not logging in and view all the msgs that you all post and PM me, you guys are supportive and yet I went missing… Truely sorry. I will reply all one by one…

[urgenthelp]

Hi dicky,


Thanks for supporting me. I will try my best to walk out of depression… I did called counselling helplines and cried out of my heart… But all they could do is to console me. But I feel thats good enough. At least they listens to my cries.

[urgenthelp]

Hi UncleLim,


Thank you so much for helping me posting here to raise funds to help me. I do not know how to put my words, but i greatly appreciate you.

I have pm you too…


Thanks unclelim.

[urgenthelp]

Hi ChiefKiasu @ site admin,


Thanks for giving me suggestions where to seek for help, I do not and will not blame the site, as I understand every house will have its rules.

Anyway I know all here are parents with kids and family to feed, all money are hard earn, using blood, sweat and time to earn back. I do not dare to dream that money will drop from sky as I know this will nv come true in my life.


Thanks so much.