In-law problems?

[coolit]

My father-in-law would just keep quiet and my dad has also given up after a long time.

The 2 mothers would just smile but keep their distance. I wish they can get along a bit
better but since they only see each other about 1-2 a year, it is a tolerable situation.

[kittybank]

My mil asked why my parents nvr go and hv meal with her. So i said they r old and weak. She said can take taxi. :stompfeet:


She thinks she is dowager but i was nvr treated like a empress

[janet88]

wormy:

My mil asked why my parents nvr go and hv meal with her. So i said they r old and weak. She said can take taxi. :stompfeet:


She thinks she is dowager but i was nvr treated like a empress

I don't see any reason why my parents should entertain her. She can dream on if she wants my parents to lick her boots.

[ectanz]

janet_lee88:

wormy:

My mil asked why my parents nvr go and hv meal with her. So i said they r old and weak. She said can take taxi. :stompfeet:


She thinks she is dowager but i was nvr treated like a empress

I don't see any reason why my parents should entertain her. She can dream on if she wants my parents to lick her boots.

During my dd's birthday party, my MIL will mingle with guests except for my parents. She will treat them as if they were \"transparent\". She not even acknowledged my parents when they arrived at the party. As for my FIl, he gave my parents juz a perfunctory nod.

This is one of the reason why I disliked my il so much as they looked down on my parents n treated them without any respect.

[wongsansan]

I have a great story to share for those that have issues with your in-laws.


my hubby and i have been married for 6 years and i am really really really glad that i have mu mil and fil.

they were they best peace maker when i had a fight with my hubby. they were the best playmate and 'partime maid' for my baby when i have to go back work.

few years back, before i was having the baby, i had a lot of fights with my hubby. both of us kind of work late and we very much lived our own lives apart from the home.

we dread going home, it was always empty and the only thing that is great about the house is that it is dead quiet. we kind of drifted apart for a while. but that time, my mil was always sms me to be this to be that. at first i would just reply for the sake of replying, my relationship with my mil were not that great then...

but when the relationship between me and my hubby got so bad that we started to have fights every now and then, my mil spoke to me. she was really nice, offering to help in so many aspect, she spoke to my hubby too. oh my hubby was really some stubborn freak from mars!!

things got better, he came home one day with flowers and everything.. we sat down and basically started the whole relationship all over again.

looking back, that was all because of my mil. she showed me the way to be a wife and she made my hubby understand what it takes to be a husband. if we did not see the importance of the roles, we might have just D****** then...

after i was pregnant, my in-laws basically became my 'part time maid' =P
seriously!! my mil would be at my place on the dot every weekend morning, sometimes we have our own program or we have to work, they would just clean up the home and prepare food and leave it in plastic containers.

but i think this is not just luck that i have such a wonderful pair of in laws. it takes time to slowly know them and understand them, in-laws are 'strangers' at first, but through problems and bonding that we finally see them as family

[janet88]

wongsansan:

I have a great story to share for those that have issues with your in-laws.


my hubby and i have been married for 6 years and i am really really really glad that i have mu mil and fil.

they were they best peace maker when i had a fight with my hubby. they were the best playmate and 'partime maid' for my baby when i have to go back work.

looking back, that was all because of my mil. she showed me the way to be a wife and she made my hubby understand what it takes to be a husband. if we did not see the importance of the roles, we might have just D****** then...

You are one lucky woman !!! Having a mil who doesn't blindly defend her son and the best part is teaching him how to be a husband.

[coolit]

wongsansan, your MIL is really one of the rare few who are impartial and who really cares about their daughters in law. Well, at least my bad experience with my mil will hopefully teach me how to treat my own dil in the future.

[sall]

What do you get when you rearrange the letters in 'MOTHER IN LAW'?

Ans: ' WOMAN HITLER'.
( Only applicable for some mil, there are still some nice mil around)

[coolit]

Haha, that is a good one. But only strictly applicable to some mil, mine is almost

one. On her good days, she is just cranky but on her bad..she can be :yikes:

[racoon12]

Wong San San,

Yr MIL is godsend.... one in a million....