Do you bring yr parents/inlaws for tours/travelling?
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I like travelling with my mom. My dad doesn’t like travelling coz he has gone to most of the countries in the past. Mom prefers to tag along with me so she doesn’t need to think. I usually pay for the flight and accommodation and she pays for the rest of the expenses.
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we do. we like it coz it helps to have more hands to help with children.
in terms of expenses, my family v zi dong one.
we pay first they oso will transfer back.
IL not so sure. think my Dh pays first but not sure if they pay back. i guess sometimes? -
Usually we just bring my parents for holidays. Most of the time we pay for their accomodation, flights or coaches. For parents in law…never went holiday with them before. Guess they always decline and not free and have 1001 reasons so me and hubby decided just forget it. Me and my sis will take our turn to bring our parents for holiday. But most of the time its just me who will bring them for short trips.This year will bring them to Bali in December. Its kinda year end treat afterall they help to look after my son.
The sad part…sometimes my PIL will ask questions where i go with whom bla bla bla but when we ask they always say ‘its ok’ or 'dun wan’t…wat to do…haiz… sigh -
I now seldom bring my mum to holiday with me and my DH anymore. Coz the last previous trip, i brought her to Australia, i had actually checked with my elder sister whether she can chip in a little but she declined. She pointed out that since i initiated to bring her along, so i should be the one who to pay the whole fare and everything. I was a little upset coz she and her DH was doing very well in their career and they can afford to go for expensive meals and holidays probably twice a year or more. My mum had helped to care for their three kids since they are borned, but yet they had never brought her along to any holidays except those one day Malaysia trip. It is even zero now , coz her kids are all grown up now and need not to have extra help to care for them during holiday trips.
The reason why i stop bringing my mum since that last trip is when i complaint to my mum that sis declined to chip in for her trip, she still defend her that she is financial not so good…OMG…and my mum look sad throughout the trip coz she missed her three grandchildren…thats why i decided to not to bring her to any trip anymore. Furthermore, i knew that sis also nvr give her any pocket money to bring along to the trip with me then. yet my mum still think very highly of my sis and feels that she is filial…despite she seldom or worse now never bring out her out for meals or shopping since all her kids have all grown up…Sigh…my mum is a "filial mum"…indeed. -
If there is one thing I learnt from my father, was that loving your own children is unconditional, and in that aspect, so should filial piety be. He always do all the chores for his parents, buy them any good food when he could afford, bring them to watch shows, bring them on short holidays, etc, and each time never expecting any gratitude back or appreciation. Why ? I think he is just returning whatever he can back, for their efforts when he was growing up.
Likewise, my brothers and I do the same - we bring our parents ( and in-laws ) on holidays when we can. Sometimes to places we want to go, and sometimes to places they want to go, or even sometimes to places where we can only afford to go
. It doesnt matter where - one brother likes to to go Japan, Taiwan, Australia, one likes to go Europe, China, HK, and one may only can afford to go Thailand, Malaysia, Bali, etc, and sometimes we go all together in a big group of 15 to 20 ppl. But it doesnt matter where, you can always tell the parents are very happy to be with their child and their grandchildren.
We have to ask ourselves - why we bring our own parents overseas, or just for a nice dinner ? To gain gratitude ? Envy ? :scratchhead:
I thought it is because we do it, because we appreciate all they have done before and still doing as grandparents. Without them, we wont be here, and nothing we can do, will ever repay back everything they have done. The best thing is, our kids also see this action and reasoning, and hopefully ( but not necessary ) they will want to do the same for us in future.
Just my own thoughts. I feel that it should just come naturally and unconditionally.
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It's fun to travel with families, along with my sis family, we brought our parents to Taiwan last Christmas, the feeling was great and kids love it too
would like to do this more often when we can -
With my parents, definitely yes. But no way with hubby’s side.
Holiday will be ruined spending 24/7 with them. A holiday is meant to be enjoyed. Besides they don’t like to fly. The last time they went to US (early this year), they were so reluctant…even though tickets already issued. Bags not even packed the day b4 flight. -
Strparent, good post.
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My 6 years old recently told us that she will bring us for holidays when she is a grown up. She would help us to carry our luggage and pay for the trip as we are old then. I told her that mummy loves to go countries like Europe and US
Sure our our offsprings grow up to be filial kids. -
My parent has been travelling with me at least once or twice a year. Usually total expenses will be share among the siblings or at lease me and my sis.
And irregardless who bring, all os us will try to chip in…after all both of them in 60’s jor…if now dont travel, in future maybe difficult to walk or enjoy if too old.
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