Club Only Child Club

[just888]

kaitlynangelica,

I also avoid my fren who are insensitive ones, u are not the only ones. Having 1 kid he/she can have all our attentions. Let's continue to workhard who know miracle may happen. I am still trying.

monmon31,
Dun care about the family package lar... 2A2C also diffcult to stay in a room. 2A1C is so much easier. hahha.. Now our kid is older it is so much easier for us to travel with him/her.

[Supermomie]

Angelight:

It's ok...you forgot your coffee right?

Supermomie:

Sorry..i mean Angelight so sotong in the morning!

hahahah...yea!! :imcool:

[Angelight]

Indeed, mummies kaitlynangelica and just888, you both are not the only ones. But at least you can choose to avoid your friends who have more than 1 kid. For me, I can't avoid my BIL and his wife who are expecting their 3rd kid becos still have to see them during family events like christmas and CNY. :sad:


My BIL is not exactly a nice person (he is very sarcastic and curt with his words), that's why I really dread to meet him and his BIG family...

just888:

kaitlynangelica,
I also avoid my fren who are insensitive ones, u are not the only ones.

[kaitlynangelica]

Angelight:

Indeed, mummies kaitlynangelica and just888, you both are not the only ones. But at least you can choose to avoid your friends who have more than 1 kid. For me, I can't avoid my BIL and his wife who are expecting their 3rd kid becos still have to see them during family events like christmas and CNY. :sad:


My BIL is not exactly a nice person (he is very sarcastic and curt with his words), that's why I really dread to meet him and his BIG family...

just888:

kaitlynangelica,
I also avoid my fren who are insensitive ones, u are not the only ones.

Is it possible to tell your husband that you don't want to meet your BIL and ther family?

I have a friend who's baby died shortly after birth due to complications. She refuses to attend baby showers as well.

[kaitlynangelica]

Its really hard to avoid everyone. Take church for eg, I seem to be the only one that has one child. I think nearly everyone has 3 kids or more.


And then there are the neighbours downstairs…

And then there are colleagues all around me getting pregnant. Not that I am sour grapes but when ppl start congragulating them, I get very down. Its diffcult not to get affected.

The difficult part will be when the pregnant ones go on about buying baby things or their prenatal classes.

[Flowermonaster]

kaitlynangelica:

Its really hard to avoid everyone. Take church for eg, I seem to be the only one that has one child. I think nearly everyone has 3 kids or more.


And then there are the neighbours downstairs..............

And then there are colleagues all around me getting pregnant. Not that I am sour grapes but when ppl start congragulating them, I get very down. Its diffcult not to get affected.

The difficult part will be when the pregnant ones go on about buying baby things or their prenatal classes.

Hi kaitlynangelica, don't be too sad. I :snuggles: you.
Actually, on a brighter side, having one child can be envious by a lot of people. My eldest sister alway tell me that I am lucky to have only one kid. At least there is no fighting & quarreling between the siblings unlike hers. She said if given a choice now, she will want only one child. I kind of pity her when she was so stressed up by her kids. Her kids also unhappy that the furthest they go for vacation is Malaysia as they can't afford to go else where. With only one child, I can afford to give him the best that we can afford. My DS is happy & has never ask me for any sibling.
I used to want 2 kids but now I am contented to have only my DS. I am already 42, can't afford to try another Liao.

[Angelight]

I try to 'siam' on other family occasions, but Christmas and CNY how to 'siam'? Plus my MIL is so bias against me (see my other threads under 'In-law problems'), she will not let me off if I don't turn up for christmas and CNY events. Just the thought of this makes me depressed...

kaitlynangelica:

Is it possible to tell your husband that you don't want to meet your BIL and ther family?

[kaitlynangelica]

Flowermonaster:

kaitlynangelica:

Its really hard to avoid everyone. Take church for eg, I seem to be the only one that has one child. I think nearly everyone has 3 kids or more.


And then there are the neighbours downstairs..............

And then there are colleagues all around me getting pregnant. Not that I am sour grapes but when ppl start congragulating them, I get very down. Its diffcult not to get affected.

The difficult part will be when the pregnant ones go on about buying baby things or their prenatal classes.

Hi kaitlynangelica, don't be too sad. I :snuggles: you.
Actually, on a brighter side, having one child can be envious by a lot of people. My eldest sister alway tell me that I am lucky to have only one kid. At least there is no fighting & quarreling between the siblings unlike hers. She said if given a choice now, she will want only one child. I kind of pity her when she was so stressed up by her kids. Her kids also unhappy that the furthest they go for vacation is Malaysia as they can't afford to go else where. With only one child, I can afford to give him the best that we can afford. My DS is happy & has never ask me for any sibling.
I used to want 2 kids but now I am contented to have only my DS. I am already 42, can't afford to try another Liao.

Thanks dear.............actually its true.Just paying for my gal's tuition is killing me! I spend about $500 a month. Of late, she hasn't been doing well in school either and I have spent a lot of time trying to coach her. Frankly, am not too sure if I could stretch myself further if another came along.
I pity your sister. Didn't all these considerations come along in her mind when she conceived her second child?

[Flowermonaster]

kaitlynangelica:

Thanks dear.............actually its true.Just paying for my gal's tuition is killing me! I spend about $500 a month. Of late, she hasn't been doing well in school either and I have spent a lot of time trying to coach her. Frankly, am not too sure if I could stretch myself further if another came along.
I pity your sister. Didn't all these considerations come along in her mind when she conceived her second child?

At that time, my sis was still working & her DH's small family biz was still ok. So when she gave birth to her DS she decided to be SAHM as she also has problem with her DD.(another long story btw her & her DD). So instead of paying nannies/CC to take care of her 2 kids, she decided to save money & take care herself thinking that she can bond with her DD & DS. Unfortunately at later stage, her DH's biz was not so good & they have to cut down on a lot of expenses. Her kids are now in Poly & Sec 2 and she has also returned to work force 1.5years ago.
Yes, fully agreed. Nowadays, the cost of raising a child from birth to Uni is really high. With increasing standard of living & inflation rate higher than our saving interest rate in the bank, not to mention poor increment rate - even with one child is a strain to some.

[kaitlynangelica]

Flowermonaster:

kaitlynangelica:

Thanks dear.............actually its true.Just paying for my gal's tuition is killing me! I spend about $500 a month. Of late, she hasn't been doing well in school either and I have spent a lot of time trying to coach her. Frankly, am not too sure if I could stretch myself further if another came along.
I pity your sister. Didn't all these considerations come along in her mind when she conceived her second child?

At that time, my sis was still working & her DH's small family biz was still ok. So when she gave birth to her DS she decided to be SAHM as she also has problem with her DD.(another long story btw her & her DD). So instead of paying nannies/CC to take care of her 2 kids, she decided to save money & take care herself thinking that she can bond with her DD & DS. Unfortunately at later stage, her DH's biz was not so good & they have to cut down on a lot of expenses. Her kids are now in Poly & Sec 2 and she has also returned to work force 1.5years ago.
Yes, fully agreed. Nowadays, the cost of raising a child from birth to Uni is really high. With increasing standard of living & inflation rate higher than our saving interest rate in the bank, not to mention poor increment rate - even with one child is a strain to some.

Even amongst the Malays, a lot are stopping at 2.
And after sending the kids off to uni, whats left for us?