10 per cent of S'poreans affected by mental illnesses

[jtoh]

HyperKiasu:

markfch:

I read the article as 10% of S'poreans will be affected by mental illness. I'm not surprised. When I read of kids who didn't get through GEP round 2 crying because they would get scolding from their parents, I know that it's a crazy, stressful world that some of us live in.


I asked myself what's the point of this scolding? What are those parents trying to prove? Then I realized that pride is a very dangerous thing to have. So what if we can't boost to our friends that our kids are in GEP? Why do we care so much about what others think of us? If we can let go of our pride, life will be less stressful for our kids and we can be happier as a family.

i think giftedness is by nature, and run by genes. if kids are not gifted enuf to get in GEP, then parents should blame themselves for not possessing the giftedness genes :evil:

Uh-oh! This will give some parents more reason to hothouse their kids into GEP. If their kids don't get into GEP it's a direct reflection of their poor genes. :yikes: Lagi lose face. :shock:

[HyperKiasu]

jtoh:

HyperKiasu:

[quote=\"markfch\"]I read the article as 10% of S'poreans will be affected by mental illness. I'm not surprised. When I read of kids who didn't get through GEP round 2 crying because they would get scolding from their parents, I know that it's a crazy, stressful world that some of us live in.


I asked myself what's the point of this scolding? What are those parents trying to prove? Then I realized that pride is a very dangerous thing to have. So what if we can't boost to our friends that our kids are in GEP? Why do we care so much about what others think of us? If we can let go of our pride, life will be less stressful for our kids and we can be happier as a family.

i think giftedness is by nature, and run by genes. if kids are not gifted enuf to get in GEP, then parents should blame themselves for not possessing the giftedness genes :evil:

Uh-oh! This will give some parents more reason to hothouse their kids into GEP. If their kids don't get into GEP it's a direct reflection of their poor genes. :yikes: Lagi lose face. :shock:[/quote]oh ya, these parents are among the 10%, ..... :siao: :sick:
pity their kids...

[peapot]

Its a sad sad world that we live in. Singapore is quite a stressful country to live in. I know Norway is a place with lots of happy citizens. The mothers can take 1 year off paid leave to care for their babies and fathers get 3 weeks off too, I think. I m very sure their education system is unlike ours. Our kids are educated in a way that they can never think out of their box.


China is also another stressful place to live in.

[MadScientist]

It’s really not so much about the place, but more about the people.


We can choose… Choose not to live like the others, choose the more important things in life, choose your own destiny…

Indeed there are more (child) cases, but you know what? A lot of these cases (in IMH) are referred from schools, and when they review the case, a significant number are due to the parents being the cause of it. The parents have the mental illness and "pass it down" to the next generation by perpetuating it all.

Take home message here… The children are not to be blamed, the parents never too the responsibility, nor the choices.

[buds]

HyperKiasu:

i think giftedness is by nature, and run by genes. if kids are not gifted enuf to get in GEP, then parents should blame themselves for not possessing the giftedness genes :evil:

:idea:

:evil:

jtoh:

Uh-oh! This will give some parents more reason to hothouse their kids into GEP. If their kids don't get into GEP it's a direct reflection of their poor genes. :yikes: Lagi lose face. :shock:

:yikes:

:faint:

[buds]

MadScientist:

It's really not so much about the place, but more about the people.


We can choose... Choose not to live like the others, choose the more important things in life, choose your own destiny...

:goodpost: from you as usual, MadScientist.

[Nebbermind]

buds:

MadScientist:

It's really not so much about the place, but more about the people.


We can choose... Choose not to live like the others, choose the more important things in life, choose your own destiny...

:goodpost: from you as usual, MadScientist.

Sometimes we know what we want to do....but after joining the KSP forum, it's like being hit by a tsunami and we totally lost our bearings!!

On a more serious note, it's been great to see my own kids having shown a pretty good level of intelligence...well, I wld said above us (parents). But intelligence has limited 'goodness' if our child is lacking wisdom on how to use his intelligence. Think alot of us parents are also lacking in wisdom to instil wisdom is our next gen.

[markfch]

MadScientist:

Indeed there are more (child) cases, but you know what? A lot of these cases (in IMH) are referred from schools, and when they review the case, a significant number are due to the parents being the cause of it. The parents have the mental illness and \"pass it down\" to the next generation by perpetuating it all.

I personally heard of children (young kids, 6-7 years old) receiving corporal punishment when they didn't fulfill their parents' expectations in studies. I asked myself, what are these parents trying to prove?

In their zeal to groom an 'ideal' child, they have lost all perspective. Either these parents are trying to live life vicariously, or they have such a desperate need to boast to others how 'smart' their kids are, or they are simply mistaken that being average in studies equals being unsuccessful in life and vice versa.

Nebbermind:

Sometimes we know what we want to do....but after joining the KSP forum, it's like being hit by a tsunami and we totally lost our bearings!!

That's why it takes a brave soul to surf KSP and yet maintain one's perspective.

Every year around Jul-Aug period, if we take a look at the vindictiveness of some of the P1 registration posts, we'll almost be forgiven to think that being unsuccessful in balloting into one's choice school will spell doom and gloom for the rest of that unfortunate child's life.

[jtoh]

markfch:

MadScientist:

Indeed there are more (child) cases, but you know what? A lot of these cases (in IMH) are referred from schools, and when they review the case, a significant number are due to the parents being the cause of it. The parents have the mental illness and \"pass it down\" to the next generation by perpetuating it all.

I personally heard of children (young kids, 6-7 years old) receiving corporal punishment when they didn't fulfill their parents' expectations in studies. I asked myself, what are these parents trying to prove?

In their zeal to groom an 'ideal' child, they have lost all perspective. Either these parents are trying to live life vicariously, or they have such a desperate need to boast to others how 'smart' their kids are, or they are simply mistaken that being average in studies equals being unsuccessful in life and vice versa.

I've heard of kids as old as twelve who are caned by their parents when they don't come home with perfect scores on their tests. 98% isn't good enough. :yikes: If a kid is judged to be good enough only if they perform well academically, their self-worth hinges on just that one element. The consequences can be quite dire if he falls from that pedestal in later years.

markfch:

Nebbermind:

Sometimes we know what we want to do....but after joining the KSP forum, it's like being hit by a tsunami and we totally lost our bearings!!

That's why it takes a brave soul to surf KSP and yet maintain one's perspective. :lol:

Every year around Jul-Aug period, if we take a look at the vindictiveness of some of the P1 registration posts, we'll almost be forgiven to think that being unsuccessful in balloting into one's choice school will spell doom and gloom for the rest of that unfortunate child's life.

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That's so true!

[markfch]

jtoh:

If a kid is judged to be good enough only if they perform well academically, their self-worth hinges on just that one element. The consequences can be quite dire if he falls from that pedestal in later years.

If we look at some of the suicide notes written, the underlaying message is usually I'm a failure in life. Some of these people can be considered as successful people by any measurement. Yet they end their life because they think that they're a failure.

I tell you, something is wrong.