10 per cent of S'poreans affected by mental illnesses

[jtoh]

markfch:

MadScientist:

Indeed there are more (child) cases, but you know what? A lot of these cases (in IMH) are referred from schools, and when they review the case, a significant number are due to the parents being the cause of it. The parents have the mental illness and \"pass it down\" to the next generation by perpetuating it all.

I personally heard of children (young kids, 6-7 years old) receiving corporal punishment when they didn't fulfill their parents' expectations in studies. I asked myself, what are these parents trying to prove?

In their zeal to groom an 'ideal' child, they have lost all perspective. Either these parents are trying to live life vicariously, or they have such a desperate need to boast to others how 'smart' their kids are, or they are simply mistaken that being average in studies equals being unsuccessful in life and vice versa.

I've heard of kids as old as twelve who are caned by their parents when they don't come home with perfect scores on their tests. 98% isn't good enough. :yikes: If a kid is judged to be good enough only if they perform well academically, their self-worth hinges on just that one element. The consequences can be quite dire if he falls from that pedestal in later years.

markfch:

Nebbermind:

Sometimes we know what we want to do....but after joining the KSP forum, it's like being hit by a tsunami and we totally lost our bearings!!

That's why it takes a brave soul to surf KSP and yet maintain one's perspective. :lol:

Every year around Jul-Aug period, if we take a look at the vindictiveness of some of the P1 registration posts, we'll almost be forgiven to think that being unsuccessful in balloting into one's choice school will spell doom and gloom for the rest of that unfortunate child's life.

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That's so true!

[markfch]

jtoh:

If a kid is judged to be good enough only if they perform well academically, their self-worth hinges on just that one element. The consequences can be quite dire if he falls from that pedestal in later years.

If we look at some of the suicide notes written, the underlaying message is usually I'm a failure in life. Some of these people can be considered as successful people by any measurement. Yet they end their life because they think that they're a failure.

I tell you, something is wrong.

[jtoh]

markfch:

jtoh:

If a kid is judged to be good enough only if they perform well academically, their self-worth hinges on just that one element. The consequences can be quite dire if he falls from that pedestal in later years.

If we look at some of the suicide notes written, the underlaying message is usually I'm a failure in life. Some of these people can be considered as successful people by any measurement. Yet they end their life because they think that they're a failure.

I tell you, something is wrong.

In their minds, what they do is never good enough. :sad:

[MadScientist]

jtoh:

markfch:

[quote=\"MadScientist\"]
Indeed there are more (child) cases, but you know what? A lot of these cases (in IMH) are referred from schools, and when they review the case, a significant number are due to the parents being the cause of it. The parents have the mental illness and \"pass it down\" to the next generation by perpetuating it all.

I personally heard of children (young kids, 6-7 years old) receiving corporal punishment when they didn't fulfill their parents' expectations in studies. I asked myself, what are these parents trying to prove?

In their zeal to groom an 'ideal' child, they have lost all perspective. Either these parents are trying to live life vicariously, or they have such a desperate need to boast to others how 'smart' their kids are, or they are simply mistaken that being average in studies equals being unsuccessful in life and vice versa.

I've heard of kids as old as twelve who are caned by their parents when they don't come home with perfect scores on their tests. 98% isn't good enough. :yikes: If a kid is judged to be good enough only if they perform well academically, their self-worth hinges on just that one element. The consequences can be quite dire if he falls from that pedestal in later years.

markfch:

Nebbermind:

Sometimes we know what we want to do....but after joining the KSP forum, it's like being hit by a tsunami and we totally lost our bearings!!

That's why it takes a brave soul to surf KSP and yet maintain one's perspective. :lol:

Every year around Jul-Aug period, if we take a look at the vindictiveness of some of the P1 registration posts, we'll almost be forgiven to think that being unsuccessful in balloting into one's choice school will spell doom and gloom for the rest of that unfortunate child's life.

That's so true![/quote]Indeed it is... and I would be 95% sure (pls dun cane me!) that the parents themselves were never able to achieve it. Thus, they are actually projecting their dreams onto their children, and wanting their children to succeed in their own failures... it is all an ego trip, deep deep down inside.

Yes, there are some rather disturbing posts around here... but it is the freedom of each parent to make their own choices. Hopefully, more will learn that there is probably only one way to help your children... to help yourself first as a parent.

Cheers!

[pinky]

pray that there will not be too 'dramatic' reactions after the release of the

PSLE results this afternoon I believe every child has done his/her
best.

[MadScientist]

buds:

MadScientist:

It's really not so much about the place, but more about the people.


We can choose... Choose not to live like the others, choose the more important things in life, choose your own destiny...

:goodpost: from you as usual, MadScientist.

Thanks for the compliments buds! :celebrate:

I really do aim to convert that good post into good fatherhood.