Club SAHM
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I think a child should play whatever he/she’s interested in. So long as everything is played in moderation (PC games, toy guns, dolls, cooking, macdonalds cashier, etc) there should be no issue.
But yes there’s the matter of gender inequality. Boys are boring. They are expected to play boy stuff only, no dolls, etc. girls can play anything and get away with it. This is why I say being female is better than being male.
OK with regards to staying at home and playing with the child, it all depends on the parent. Admittedly I fall into the "wah lao this is SOOOOO boring, can I go now?.. I got gundam to build…" when my DD insists I play house/cashier/school with her. My brain often chokes with boredom when I have to play with her.
I believe some parents are less demanding, so they don’t mind playing all sorts of things with the child. I can’t.
Things were better when my DD got older and can handle Lego, which is more intellectual. My DD is also good at Uno. She also enjoys jenga or whatever the falling wooden tower thing is called; battleships and Chinese checkers.
But I must correct schellen on one thing - our DD still suffers from sore loser syndrome, so very often before the start of a match I have to make her sign pinkie contract not to whine if she loses. (Then I kelong and make sure she wins at least a game or two).
One "game" I enjoy is drawing together. It’s not only fun, but allows your child to reveal certain things about her world view, and also you get a very nice souvenir at the end. Also very cheap. Just get a few pieces of paper, two pencils and each person takes turn to suggest something to draw, eg. animals. You draw one, she draws one. Laughter and delight usually ensues.
I Spy books are also fun. -
sashimi:
If it is once per game for pretend play, then not so bad cos I usually don't play the mundane, realistic way with her. I use her favourite teddybear (which her classmates at sch had the fortune of meetingOK with regards to staying at home and playing with the child, it all depends on the parent. Admittedly I fall into the \"wah lao this is SOOOOO boring, can I go now?.... I got gundam to build....\" when my DD insists I play house/cashier/school with her. My brain often chokes with boredom when I have to play with her.
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I Spy books are also fun.
) to act out the role of customer/patient/doctor/salesperson, etc. I will add in fantastical things like having an illness that makes the bear does funny things, being an absent-minded cashier (to test her memory and maths skills mah) or a demanding customer (well, we have to learn how to compromise in real life anyway). Since the bear is involved, I don't feel paisei about acting silly and she and I have already enacted many silly stories about its encounters for years. I think can write epic liao.
I Spy books are also expensive but worth the money as they are printed with good quality paper, prints and colours. The binding is also lasting. Therefore, they only have hardcover copies. You can always go the cheaper way by borrowing them from the library (availability and quality of books not guaranteed) or buy the CD-ROM game which is about S$20 each. BUT they don't seem to work on WinXP. -
mm... my daughter's kind of pretend play is actually more towards the extreme side. it doesn't really involve any physical thing. it only needs the imagination. LOTS of it.
for example. we pretend to be pirates (yes, she likes playing pirates). our pirate ship is the balcony floor. our handphone is our thumb and pinkie. our treasure chest is an imaginary box. everything is 'pretend'. including the binoculars, flag, parrot, bad guys, the sea, the moon and the sun. my mind is tired just thinking about it!
that's probably the kinda game she likes best. the thing is, whenever we play pretend like that, she needs me to play with her. she becomes clueless when i'm not free to play with her, say when i'm cooking. i then ask her to go ahead and play with her own toys, to which she refuses, most of the time.
these days she likes to tell me, when i'm busy cooking, that she wants to paint. so i stop my cooking halfway to prepare her painting stuff, only to have her finish her masterpiece 5 mins later. when asked if she'd like another piece of paper, she says no. hmpf! i probably took more time preparing the painting stuff than her doing the actual painting.
after that, it's back to 'i want you to play with me... have you finished... who's going to play with me...' i can even feel the quality of my cooking deteriorating.
and here i am still considering doing volunteer work??!
i'm thinking, maybe, if i have something like that to do, i can give my daughter a valid reason to give me a break. listen to this. 'mommy needs to send this letter to so and so, dear... there are so many hungry children out there and if we can help them we should. you want to help these children too don't you? so please try to play on your own for 15 mins so i can do something to help these children. by helping me, you're helping them too!' does that sound credible? -
Would u sent yr child to childcare centre or take care of him yrself?
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I have the choice and the time, I will take care of my 3 kids myself.
But people will say that the choice is up to me…haha -
if i have the choice and time to source for good materials plus plan my lessons, i would love to homeschool
but very often, hard to make my dd stick to my schedule. easier for her to follow routine in school to take nap, eat, learn and play in school so end up i think best is to find a good childcare and enhance learning at home using storybooks etc.
i find that at home, wil end up watching lots of TV while cc at least can engage them in meaningful activities. cos i stil have to do housework and cook etc. -
foreverj:
Im really in a dilemma, i sent my child to a CCC when he is 18 mth old, for consecutively 3 mths, he has been falling sick so often (even though i knew this is very common when a child learn to adapt to new envir + viruses from other children also) however the principal has been calling us so often even the child has loose stools (once a day!) and demand us to bring him back IMMEDIATELY, if not she keep hoarding after u, call and call every 15 mins and until we finally decided to withdraw him out.if i have the choice and time to source for good materials plus plan my lessons, i would love to homeschool
but very often, hard to make my dd stick to my schedule. easier for her to follow routine in school to take nap, eat, learn and play in school so end up i think best is to find a good childcare and enhance learning at home using storybooks etc.
i find that at home, wil end up watching lots of TV while cc at least can engage them in meaningful activities. cos i stil have to do housework and cook etc.
We made a switch to another CCC and my boy was very happy in this new sch, however after 6 mths, i was informed that the sch will be closing down in Dec. :stupid: :stupid: I visited almost all the nearby CCC, only to be inform that intake for 2010 is full and for those CCC which had available vacancy, i was quite reluctant to put him there as i saw the children always watching TV, (morning before and during breakfast, lunch and after lunchtime while waiting for bath-time and even after naps!) I cant imagine what my child will be learning in such a kind of envir.
I decided not to work, i can keep him occupied the whole days with lots of books, brain training activites, drawing, writing (however it gets boring to me as i am repeating the same thing every day even though my child enjoy it) and even bring him out on alternate days for curriculum like swimming, phonics and berries... However i worry that he is not getting enough exposure and interaction and will be very dependent on me since we are almost together everyday.. -
sunset_dae,
where do u stay ? East, West, Central, North, or South ?
If West, I have some suggestions of CCC that you can look at. Other places then I can’t help. -
Yeah, do tell us which area you're stay. Perhaps, those staying near you can give some suggestions.
If you're staying in the north east area, perhaps I can help -
Hi, I'm a SAHM with two kids. My K1 has been attending half day CC since Nursery 2, and I plan to send my No.2 to half day CC next year for N2 class too.
As a SAHM, I have the choice and time, but I still send my kids to half day CC cos I have no maid/ part-time cleaner. I need the time in the morning to settle as much housework as possible so that I can spend more quality time with them when they're back from CC. Now with my No.2 still at home, I'm guilty of letting her watch too much TV while I do housework. :oops: Another reason for sending them to CC is for the social interactions with kids their age
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