Club SAHM

[flim]

mm... my daughter's kind of pretend play is actually more towards the extreme side. it doesn't really involve any physical thing. it only needs the imagination. LOTS of it.


for example. we pretend to be pirates (yes, she likes playing pirates). our pirate ship is the balcony floor. our handphone is our thumb and pinkie. our treasure chest is an imaginary box. everything is 'pretend'. including the binoculars, flag, parrot, bad guys, the sea, the moon and the sun. my mind is tired just thinking about it!

that's probably the kinda game she likes best. the thing is, whenever we play pretend like that, she needs me to play with her. she becomes clueless when i'm not free to play with her, say when i'm cooking. i then ask her to go ahead and play with her own toys, to which she refuses, most of the time.

these days she likes to tell me, when i'm busy cooking, that she wants to paint. so i stop my cooking halfway to prepare her painting stuff, only to have her finish her masterpiece 5 mins later. when asked if she'd like another piece of paper, she says no. hmpf! i probably took more time preparing the painting stuff than her doing the actual painting.

after that, it's back to 'i want you to play with me... have you finished... who's going to play with me...' i can even feel the quality of my cooking deteriorating.

and here i am still considering doing volunteer work??!

i'm thinking, maybe, if i have something like that to do, i can give my daughter a valid reason to give me a break. listen to this. 'mommy needs to send this letter to so and so, dear... there are so many hungry children out there and if we can help them we should. you want to help these children too don't you? so please try to play on your own for 15 mins so i can do something to help these children. by helping me, you're helping them too!' does that sound credible?

[sunset_dae]

Would u sent yr child to childcare centre or take care of him yrself?

[Emelyn]

I have the choice and the time, I will take care of my 3 kids myself.


But people will say that the choice is up to me…haha

[foreverj]

if i have the choice and time to source for good materials plus plan my lessons, i would love to homeschool but very often, hard to make my dd stick to my schedule. easier for her to follow routine in school to take nap, eat, learn and play in school so end up i think best is to find a good childcare and enhance learning at home using storybooks etc.


i find that at home, wil end up watching lots of TV while cc at least can engage them in meaningful activities. cos i stil have to do housework and cook etc.

[sunset_dae]

foreverj:

if i have the choice and time to source for good materials plus plan my lessons, i would love to homeschool but very often, hard to make my dd stick to my schedule. easier for her to follow routine in school to take nap, eat, learn and play in school so end up i think best is to find a good childcare and enhance learning at home using storybooks etc.


i find that at home, wil end up watching lots of TV while cc at least can engage them in meaningful activities. cos i stil have to do housework and cook etc.

Im really in a dilemma, i sent my child to a CCC when he is 18 mth old, for consecutively 3 mths, he has been falling sick so often (even though i knew this is very common when a child learn to adapt to new envir + viruses from other children also) however the principal has been calling us so often even the child has loose stools (once a day!) and demand us to bring him back IMMEDIATELY, if not she keep hoarding after u, call and call every 15 mins and until we finally decided to withdraw him out.

We made a switch to another CCC and my boy was very happy in this new sch, however after 6 mths, i was informed that the sch will be closing down in Dec. :stupid: :stupid: I visited almost all the nearby CCC, only to be inform that intake for 2010 is full and for those CCC which had available vacancy, i was quite reluctant to put him there as i saw the children always watching TV, (morning before and during breakfast, lunch and after lunchtime while waiting for bath-time and even after naps!) I cant imagine what my child will be learning in such a kind of envir.

I decided not to work, i can keep him occupied the whole days with lots of books, brain training activites, drawing, writing (however it gets boring to me as i am repeating the same thing every day even though my child enjoy it) and even bring him out on alternate days for curriculum like swimming, phonics and berries... However i worry that he is not getting enough exposure and interaction and will be very dependent on me since we are almost together everyday..

[Emelyn]

sunset_dae,


where do u stay ? East, West, Central, North, or South ?
If West, I have some suggestions of CCC that you can look at. Other places then I can’t help.

[heyhoe]

Yeah, do tell us which area you're stay. Perhaps, those staying near you can give some suggestions.


If you're staying in the north east area, perhaps I can help

[Mum_2Gals]

Hi, I'm a SAHM with two kids. My K1 has been attending half day CC since Nursery 2, and I plan to send my No.2 to half day CC next year for N2 class too.


As a SAHM, I have the choice and time, but I still send my kids to half day CC cos I have no maid/ part-time cleaner. I need the time in the morning to settle as much housework as possible so that I can spend more quality time with them when they're back from CC. Now with my No.2 still at home, I'm guilty of letting her watch too much TV while I do housework. :oops: Another reason for sending them to CC is for the social interactions with kids their age

[dearzen]

Mum_2Gals:

Hi, I'm a SAHM with two kids. My K1 has been attending half day CC since Nursery 2, and I plan to send my No.2 to half day CC next year for N2 class too.


As a SAHM, I have the choice and time, but I still send my kids to half day CC cos I have no maid/ part-time cleaner. I need the time in the morning to settle as much housework as possible so that I can spend more quality time with them when they're back from CC. Now with my No.2 still at home, I'm guilty of letting her watch too much TV while I do housework. :oops: Another reason for sending them to CC is for the social interactions with kids their age

Hi,

I'm currently a FTWM with 2 kids. #1 is 20mths old while #2 is 3 mths old.Am considering the option of becoming a SAHM. Hb is supportive BUT I'm worried tat I might mk the wrong decision to quit. Plus worry tat I might not be a good patient mummy to my kids. Worry tat i dunno hw 2 teach my #1.

Tot of sending #1 to CC. In fact went for 2 days trial (went 4 oni 2 hrs), my #1 alredi kena flu till nw.

I always tink tat my #1 is too young 2 go 2 CC. Hb suggested #1 go CC when she turns 18mths old which i not reluctant 2 send. I dun mind 2 send my #1 when she turns 2yo. So nw tinking gg 2 CC when she turn 2yo better or i become SAHM.. Sigh... headache lor... :stupid:

[smurf]

Mum_2Gals:

Hi, I'm a SAHM with two kids. My K1 has been attending half day CC since Nursery 2, and I plan to send my No.2 to half day CC next year for N2 class too.


As a SAHM, I have the choice and time, but I still send my kids to half day CC cos I have no maid/ part-time cleaner. I need the time in the morning to settle as much housework as possible so that I can spend more quality time with them when they're back from CC. Now with my No.2 still at home, I'm guilty of letting her watch too much TV while I do housework. :oops: Another reason for sending them to CC is for the social interactions with kids their age

I know what u mean. me in similar situation. elder goes to kindy while younger stay at home. and let him watch tv too while I cook. no choice, cos I dun have helper too.