Mom call police and MOE : Teacher force son for a haircut

[2ppaamm]

EN:

[quote]Instead of being teased by his peers and being the joke of the year... he apparently was lauded for being bold. Teacher was investigated & called upon for closed door mediation with him. Words were exchanged and things did improve. Guess different schools will do things differently and yes of course, different schools would give different style haircut.

I can just imagine, your bro at that time must be the hero of his gang for being brave enough to be stubborn. Salute him man! :rotflmao:

Yeap, different schools have different level of tolerance. DS is much happier now than before. Different school, different rules, different expectation, different allowance.[/quote]EN, your boy changed school? Why? I thought all schools are about the same, I have given up on schools.

[2ppaamm]

Zermatt:

Both my boys in the same school had their hair cut out a patch on stage. The reason being, the hair touched the collar. However, they were already having hair cut every 1 month + 1 week. It is because their hair lines are very low and even after a hair cut, it is around the collar.

I believe some teachers only follow the book. They should see if the boys are defiant to rules or other reasons. The incident left my elder boy a bad impression of the otherwise popular school such that he pledged not to send his future children there. The younger boy who is a diligent student was always uncomfortable with his hair that he always secretly cut his fringe. Such harm done to young souls.

Did the school cut your boys' hair?

[verykiasu2010]

wah, so much hairy experiences and hairy talk in this thread

[en107rn.01056yahoo.01056com.01056sg]

[quote]I believe some teachers only follow the book. They should see if the boys are defiant to rules or other reasons. The incident left my elder boy a bad impression of the otherwise popular school such that he pledged not to send his future children there. The younger boy who is a diligent student was always uncomfortable with his hair that he always secretly cut his fringe. Such harm done to young souls.[/quote]
I second that thought! My boy mind was disturbed by the teacher shouting at him while he walking back to his class after assembly due to his hair length. He was embarrassed by the indicident. He believes that there should be a better way to approach a child. Mutual respect. Anyway, he was in primary two back then. If his hair is long, the one to be blamed will be me or his dad. Why must it be him that has gotten to be screamed at in public.
[quote]EN, your boy changed school? Why? I thought all schools are about the same, I have given up on schools. [/quote]Some pros and some cons in whichever school the child moves to. But DS really like his second school. He loves to be in an environment where he can mixed with the non-Singaporean as well.

[2ppaamm]

When I was a little girl, the place I lived in was a third world country. My mother had no education, like 90% of my classmates. We were so happy for an opportunity to go to school. We had teachers who had 40+ per class, we were nobodies and had no souls, after all, we were children of poor folks in a third world country, no expectation. My mother told me that if I wanted to be successful, I had to study hard, and I did. I did well and ended up with very good credentials. My country succeeded in educating my friends and me. It was ok to lose some of the souls along the way for the greater good.


Now, I am the parent. I am not like my mother, I'm educated. I understand what is good English and good Math. I find that sometimes the teachers teach my children broken English, cliche writing, bad Maths methods. The class size is still 40+, and my children are still expected to behave and question nothing even though they sometimes know more. I am asked to shut up like my mother, even though I do a lot more research than many of them, I am told my knowledge about my kids do not matter, even though I brought them up. I am told that my kids cannot have this hairstyle, because the same was expected of me. I don't understand why when they have educated me and given me knowledge, they refuse to tap on what I know to improve on what is already there. I am still expected to have no soul.

The country has moved on. Infrastructure changed, people smarter, machines faster. But nobody is kinder, more reasonable or more civil. The system is the same, because we are still in the third world mentality - for survival. There is still only one way of doing things, so that things get moved faster. There's still no soul. :roll:

First world country on steroids.

[Daddy D]

U still thinking ah.... :razz:

[2ppaamm]

Daddy

U still thinking ah.... :razz:

Not thinking. Done already. http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?f=23&t=25139&p=684825&hilit=homeschool#p684825 :pokeeye:

[Daddy D]

2ppaamm:

Daddy

U still thinking ah.... :razz:

Not thinking. Done already. http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?f=23&t=25139&p=684825&hilit=homeschool#p684825 :pokeeye:

Wah..... :udawoman:

[spanly]

I read with amazement of the same topic but almost totally different view from different forum sites...


Over here most are of the view that the teacher in question is wrong & more respect should be given to the 'disobeying' boy.
Over at another forum, the boy is slammed upside down with remarks that I believe most parents will find too hard to swallow.

Without knowing the true details, I would not want to side which party is right or wrong...

Personally, I would still like to see discipline being instill in school & respect by the students on the rules... I don't agreed parents to be over protective; esp the boys... I can't imagine how these over-protected boys will grow up & in time of needs, can they be relied on to carry arms & protect our nation??? :xedfingers:

[atrecord]

There are always going to be problems regardless which way it swings. The schools do it the way they think will work best, i.e. discipline the kids, and there will be danger that teachers/schools abuse the power they have, and the kids lose interest, self-esteem, self-respect, human rights, etc. These are real.


Go the other way, if teachers are not given the power to discipline the students, especially those who are errant, what might happen is that the schools will no longer be able to function effectively and efficiently. Every single ‘incident’ will mean teachers having to take up time to deal with it (i’m not going to delve much into how much time is needed to do what, in order for the students & parents to be treated with respect, and eventually resolving the incident such that things can go on normally). This will likely mean our school lessons will move much slower and less can be covered in a year. Alternatively, many more teachers will have to be hired to resolve all these issues…

Both ways are not perfect. We will have to choose one and rationalise that it’s the better/best one.