Parents, not enrichment centres, are key to result

[Mychildren]

Insider,


Cute & interesting article! But I still encourage my children to study smart and play hard and need to work in order to have meals at home (housework)!

Ya, most children are taught all days to study hard instead of learning to face problems in life and solve them. When they grow up and difficulties come, they may not be able to handle them themselves and not able to take setbacks easily.

[sleepy]

responding to the subject title… I think both played a part. Parents may not be able to come up with the materials to coach, so enrichment centers are useful in the sense there are ready materials & parents can reinforce at home especially for their preschoolers. Once in primary school, parents may be in sync with tedious science and maths syllabus so again, enrichment & tuition can relieve some load from parents. Ultimately, child must be motivated too. Otherwise no amount of parents coaching or tuition would help

[Chenonceau]

Like Sun_2010, I find the PSLE experience invaluable in building character…


(1) diligence
(2) hard work
(3) be open to new methods of doing things
(4) persistence in the face of daunting difficulties
(5) stress management
(6) fail but keep trying

[Chenonceau]

sleepy:

responding to the subject title... I think both played a part. Parents may not be able to come up with the materials to coach, so enrichment centers are useful in the sense there are ready materials & parents can reinforce at home especially for their preschoolers. Once in primary school, parents may be in sync with tedious science and maths syllabus so again, enrichment & tuition can relieve some load from parents. Ultimately, child must be motivated too. Otherwise no amount of parents coaching or tuition would help

:goodpost: So succinct. Says it all in a few words!! You're good!

[Funz]

Chenonceau:

Like Sun_2010, I find the PSLE experience invaluable in building character...


(1) diligence
(2) hard work
(3) be open to new methods of doing things
(4) persistence in the face of daunting difficulties
(5) stress management
(6) fail but keep trying

You mean for the parents..... :siam:

[Chenonceau]

Funz:

Chenonceau:

Like Sun_2010, I find the PSLE experience invaluable in building character...


(1) diligence
(2) hard work
(3) be open to new methods of doing things
(4) persistence in the face of daunting difficulties
(5) stress management
(6) fail but keep trying

You mean for the parents..... :siam:

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: Yeah... parents too!

But in our journey, I think my son worked a lot harder. I was only in charge for getting resources and generating crazy ideas like Potato Chinese. But he still had to be open to trying... In fact, I didn't give a pontianak performance all of P5 (you know hair tearing, big time yelling...).

I did so 2 days back because he maintained that jogging everyday was a waste of time... and we've been arguing about this for about 6 months. I began to have visions of a fat potato son who would collapse and die in NS.

DS: I see no sense in...
Me: Youuuuuuuu see no sense in? Who are YOUUUUUUU to see no sense in? Have YOUUUUUU gone through NS before?

Blah blah blah... banshee + pontianak + Mother dragon

I think the whole street heard me.

[buds]

I bet they did... :frustrated:

[Chenonceau]

At CNY, people make small talk. In the course of small talk, I learnt that a married couple (1 Teacher, the other HOD... and both working in different top schools... i.e., top school papers sort of top schools), send their 2 younger children to Learning Lab to prepare them better for PSLE.


One of the 2 teaches Math. DS was stuck at a problem sum so he asked for help. This person declined saying that since the problem was from another school, one may not know how to do.

:yikes: :yikes: :yikes: :yikes: :yikes:

So... we have a pair of educators, familiar with the inner workings of what is taught and not taught, who have demonstrated by action (i.e., entrusting their kids to Learning Lab) that they themselves have no confidence in the system that employs them to teach other people's kids.

[sall]

Chenonceau:

At CNY, people make small talk. In the course of small talk, I learnt that a married couple (1 Teacher, the other HOD... and both working in different top schools... i.e., top school papers sort of top schools), send their 2 younger children to Learning Lab to prepare them better for PSLE.


One of the 2 teaches Math. DS was stuck at a problem sum so he asked for help. This person declined saying that since the problem was from another school, one may not know how to do.

:yikes: :yikes: :yikes: :yikes: :yikes:

So... we have a pair of educators, familiar with the inner workings of what is taught and not taught, who have demonstrated by action (i.e., entrusting their kids to Learning Lab) that they themselves have no confidence in the system that employs them to teach other people's kids.

School teachers are really exhausted after a long day at sch, they don't have the energy to teach their kids. Some kids refused to be taught by their parents, they only listen to the tutors. So this could be the case of these parents. I think I also wouldn't want to solve some math problems at CNY gathering, the mood is just not there. So the parent could be politely declining and giving an excuse that maybe she couldn't solve it.

[Chenonceau]

sall:

School teachers are really exhausted after a long day at sch, they don't have the energy to teach their kids. Some kids refused to be taught by their parents, they only listen to the tutors. So this could be the case of these parents.

Yes... many parents (not just teachers) have no time to teach their kids. Everyone (not just teachers) is exhausted after a long day at work. If the system were working fine, why do so many parents have to teach their kids, or employ tutors? Parents (whether teachers or not) should be earning a living, not doing MOE's job... or subcontracting the job to tutors.

What I am trying to say is that it is irrelevant how tired the teachers are after a long day's work. What IS relevant is that teacher parents or non-teacher parents, we shouldn't have to teach our children after a long day at work. It's great if these busy parents can afford tuition. What about busy parents who CAN'T afford tuition?

sall:

I think I also wouldn't want to solve some math problems at CNY gathering, the mood is just not there. So the parent could be politely declining and giving an excuse that maybe she couldn't solve it.

I know this person very well.... 30 years. She would just have told me that it wasn't the moment. For a math teacher to say she doesn't know is an admission of professional failure. I would die before I admitted to a client that I didn't know how to resolve a problem on motivation. I would say I might need some time and that the moment is inconvenient (and we can chat another day) but I wouldn't say I don't know without trying... unless this happens so often that Teachers find it quite normal to not know.... which I suspect is what is happening.