Is there a time when you are simply fed-up with your child?

[iRabbit]

2ppaamm,


Mine definitely doesn't read 80 books a month. :yikes: Less than 20 in fact.
Thankfully some were Chinese books. His tuition ctr has a library with a good selection of boy's books and he picked one titled Eragon yesterday which has got to be thicker than any book I've ever read in my life. :evil:

You are right when you mentioned that I have a small problem. I've friends whose kids are adverse to reading and it gives them headache. So putting things into perspective, I'm consoled.

Btw, my ds is also myopic at 100+ degrees. So now besides the weekly swimming sessions, we also try to make it a point to have weekly roller blading sessions and he signed up for track & field as CCA too. Hopefully all these will allow him to train his eye muscles to look far and stabilize his condition. Better late than never. :xedfingers:

[iRabbit]

smurf:

ds1 is totally opp. hates reading. totally hates it...gives him his favorite books, don't want to read. haha...

A lot has been said about the correlation between music and reading. For my ds, I strongly suspect that his early training in learning to play the piano - he started before 4 - conditioned him to sit still and focus on the task at hand. It's definitely not easy learning something requiring multi-tasking, more so for a child.

So I'm grateful that ds has the patience to sit still and read a book. I just have to keep repeating this pt in my internal dialogue and I won't be angry with him anymore.

[smurf]

I think it has something to do with the child character lah, not whether he started music or anything that required to sit still for 30 mins or so...


when i give ds1 his favorite 'toy', he can play for hours sitting...if book happens to be his favorite 'toy', i think he will sit still reading for hrs too...:)

[ahkeong]

i explode almost on a daily basis…


bought lego for them and assemble together, next day some parts missing
just bought a luigi toy car for him and the next moment, he crash it against the wall

really is losing my patience…

[Snow Crystal]

ahkeong:

i explode almost on a daily basis..

bought lego for them and assemble together, next day some parts missing
just bought a luigi toy car for him and the next moment, he crash it against the wall
really is losing my patience..

The next time before you explode, think first: at least your kid knows how to assemble Lego and play with toy car. His motor skills are fine and not slow or lacking - think of the special needs parents. Some wish that their DSs have good motor skills like your son

[ahkeong]

Snow Crystal:

The next time before you explode, think first: at least your kid knows how to assemble Lego and play with toy car. His motor skills are fine and not slow or lacking - think of the special needs parents. Some wish that their DSs have good motor skills like your son

i am really trying hard to think positively abt them too

given the kinda temper i have, previously would be worse..
the 2 boys are simply making us very tired with their energy..

[Canvas]

Snow Crystal:

ahkeong:

i explode almost on a daily basis..

bought lego for them and assemble together, next day some parts missing
just bought a luigi toy car for him and the next moment, he crash it against the wall
really is losing my patience..

The next time before you explode, think first: at least your kid knows how to assemble Lego and play with toy car. His motor skills are fine and not slow or lacking - think of the special needs parents. Some wish that their DSs have good motor skills like your son

Totally agree especially when I have 2 autistic nephews. Watching how worried their parents are reminds me to look past little flaws in my children. I mean, I am not zen most of the time. My blood boils each time I see my son's worksheets all crumpled up like salted vegetables, books all dog-eared etc yet he is a sweet boy who helps me heaps with caring for his sister and I guess I rather he has crumpled worksheets than getting overly neat and pretty, like a girl. *cough*

I also go ballistic because my 2yo DD doesn't sleep much. And she still scream the building down when I leave her in school for 3 hours, even after 1.5 months. She is like her father, always active and needs little sleep. Even when she does, she wakes up like 4 times a night. That said, I haven't slept much since she was born. BUT she's healthy and learns things fast so I try to keep my cool.

Was reminded by a friend that it is a privilege to be able to stay at home with the children. Indeed. When I was working, I was always wishing I was at home instead. Now that I am at my \"dream job\", looking after 2 healthy kids, I really shouldn't complain at all.

[bebe]

dd2 lost the right side of her ballet shoes once..and it drove me mad? I kept asking her, how can u lose a shoe??? And she kept telling me she put them in her bag after her dance lesson.. :skeptical:


She has lost her bus pass once...almost lost it again last month but subsequently found it a week later...and this time I keep the pass at home. She also lost her waterbottles and lunch boxes countless time..and almost lost her watches thrice!!

After every blow up, I will get upset, not over the misplaced items. But her attitudes..she took them so lightly and easily..dh said she is just trying to put up a strong front..n she knew I will be mad anyway..so no point crying over spilled milk..I said she is just simply irresponsible. Dh reminded me that I shd actually learn from her..to take thing easy and not so uptight abt everything! It was never her intention to misplace the items in the first place mad:

[Nebbermind]

I'm glad I WAS far from a perfect kid.


When my kids act badly or fall short of our expectations, I always reflect on my own childhood days and ask myself \"Wasn't I also like that?\"

[linden2000]

2ppaamm:

I think your little one sounds like my DS2, who is now 12. Really loves to read, and books are always in his hands. Hm... he needs to learn how to meet the expectations in schools, because teachers don't like that. So I'd make sure he knows the rules:

1. No reading at any dinning table
2. When I say stop reading, it means stop reading, no such thing as reading till the end of the page etc (because in school, the teachers expect that)
3. Don't read in the car
4. Train him to look out for good lighting before he reads. For his eyes' sake.
5. No reading in the middle of the night, or wake up to read.
6. Keep books away from him during birthday parties.
7. Talk to people, not to books. Engage in conversations.

Reading is a fantastic habit, but for DS2, I feel that he is just too engrossed and he reads 80 novels in a month. His eyesight is the poorest in the family, he is myopic at 300 degrees. He slouches and reads the whole day, which is bad for his posture, so he must now read only on certain chairs, and upright. He now has a Kindle, that Kindle becomes his best friend and never leaves his hands.

He also does two sports, training 6 times a week in total, of 2 hours each.

And yes, he has to pick up after himself, do the dishes, wipe the table, hang up his towels, put clothes into the laundry and pack his room and bed everyday. These are minimum we should expect of our kids.

Too much of a good thing (reading), and I don't want it to turn bad. I guess as a parent, we want them to have a balanced and healthy life.

My son's very similar. We also enforce similar rules at home because we feel that he's too preoccupied with reading. Used to find him exhausted in the mornings and later discover books hidden under pillow (waking up in the middle of the night to read). Had his FT calling to tell me that he was caught reading storybooks during lessons. When he was younger, had various people telling me he may be ADHD but to me, never thought so because he can be hunched over his books for hours at a time. And yes, he has bad eyesight. Have given up buying books for him unless they are those that he will re-read many times. Otherwise he just finishes reading the book in a few hours and it's money down the drain. He's also banned from bringing books when we go out because otherwise he will be reading in the car, on the escalator, in the lift and 'blur' his way around because his mind's still on the book. For him, we also feel it's too much of a good thing.