Parents, not enrichment centres, are key to result

[LadyInBlack]

I dunnu if im out of topic…but i always feel teachers are very powerful people besides parents…and they have so much power with their words…to motivate or demotivate the children in their charges. sometimes a child may not be doing well…but when the teacher believes in them and encourages them…that may be all that the child needs.

My kids are finishing their ca today…and i hardly had the time to revise with them…im not expecting their results to be good…but really…is marks the only thing in life? i intend to recognise their effort and encourage them to try harder…even if they fail! ( i expect them to fail their MT)
I dunnu…i just felt like saying this…if im off topic…sorry!!

[Chenonceau]

LadyInBlack:

I dunnu if im out of topic...but i always feel teachers are very powerful people besides parents...and they have so much power with their words..to motivate or demotivate the children in their charges. sometimes a child may not be doing well..but when the teacher believes in them and encourages them...that may be all that the child needs.

My kids are finishing their ca today...and i hardly had the time to revise with them..im not expecting their results to be good..but really...is marks the only thing in life? i intend to recognise their effort and encourage them to try harder...even if they fail! ( i expect them to fail their MT)
I dunnu..i just felt like saying this..if im off topic..sorry!!

I've come to a point where I lift my child's chin upwards so that I can look in his eyes and say \"I don't care WHAT your Teacher says you can or cannot do. I don't care that your Teacher thinks you are slow and lazy. I am your MOTHER. I am more important than ANY Teacher. I, and only I, have the competence to judge whether you are good. Follow Mommy and I will guide you there. Wherever we end up, it will already be better than here.\"

In the beginning, it was tough because he thought I was biased. But after I guided him through to some successes, my DS realized that I was right to believe in him... and he learnt to believe in himself.

[LadyInBlack]

Im thankful that my boys teachers have not put them down yet…but my daughter yes…shes labelled as a slow learner and i take it with a pinch of salt…as in my eyes…shes doing really well! and yes…at the end of the day…if we are not fortunate to have encouraging teachers…its up to the parents to encourage and motivate and uplift their kids…

im sure our kids will get where they need to with us…after all, teachers are not constant…but parents are…and our kids become wat we believe them to be!

[larkspur]

blessed777:

larkspur:

[quote=\"Chenonceau\"]

Yes... this happened to my DS. He came home crying because he was taunted for being a poor student. Well... now he isn't anymore.

My girl lagi best. She comes home, tells me that she did not get full marks for her maths test, her maths teacher tells her\" i thought you are a smart/ clever girl but you are not.'i was like :mad: i asked her what makes the teacher thinks you are smart, she says dun know

could it be the case of selective hearing of an upset kid ? it happens sometimes with my kid. Perhaps what the teacher tried to tell is : I believe that u r a smart kid, it's just doesn't show yet in this test (meaning that yr dd has potential to improve).
At first my reaction was anger whenever my kid come home telling me something 'not nice' that her teacher told her/class, but then when I prompted my dd to elaborate what her teacher really said, i sometimes find out that is not really what her teacher saying but it sometimes my dd pick up wrongly or dd has different understanding/perception of what her teacher trying to tell, or sometimes it is her who give wrong wording when trying to tell me what her teacher told her. However, there r also teachers who are not good in motivating kids, or even bad & insensitive teachers.[/quote]Actually my girl is not upset with her marks cos she dun really care. The only subject that can get her upset is Art class , ie if she does not get an A for her art. i asked her the whole process and what the teacher says and why the teacher says that.She told me the teacher says that when she hands the test paper to my girl. i asked why teacher says that then she told me cos during everyday maths lesson, when teacher wrote the questions on the board, explain and ask them to do. She and a few other girls can do and get all correct. Then teacher think she and a few other girls are clever cos the rest got them wrong.My girl is what i call the \"parrot\" kind, she can literally repeat every word, exact to the point if you says 10 sentences, she can repeat the words of all the 10 sentences.She used to tell me what the teachers say in Childcare about certain things and i normally check with the teachers if what she says is true and the teachers always say yes.hmmm... for me i dun mind if she get full marks or not, cos without the full marks, i realised which part of maths she is weak in and i am working with her on the concept but what the teacher says is not nice especially to a P1 kid

[1amber]

Chenonceau:

24hr-mum:

my p4 gal got jus 65 for math ca. i was shock cos she used to get 80. any hope? i m devastated

Boy... I've been there where you are. I completely understand the word \"devastated\".

(1) Keep all devastation out of your voice. Look at the script without emotion and say \"Hmmmmmm... How odd\". Meanwhile, inside you, scream all you want. Just keep the screaming silent and smile at your child through your silent screams. Then, come to KSP and .

...


The journey to excellence is long but at every step, the child must feel success. So, structure the journey in such a way as to never test the child more than he/she can bear (which by the way is a useful biblical principle to apply to kids when the going gets tough).

Yeah boy, well said. Even I feel calm already. I was also devastated some time back when a teacher said lousy things about my kid to me IN FRONT of her. I am sure my kid though young could feel the stab wound and was equally devastated. I wanted to pick up my poor little darling and cry. When a mother fights back, she will do all possible to regain the child's confidence at whatever cost. That incident prompted me to switch her to an international pre school but the point is - eversince, I have been singing praises about her to make feel she is superb and successful already. Today she knows I think the world of her, even if she came home with \"eggs\". She is a human BEING not a human DOING. Like the song that goes, Nothing you can do can make Him love you more...

[concern2]

BeContented:

At this rate, tuition market for parents (for parents not kids) will be a booming business soon..... :roll:

It is already a booming business. Keeps unemployment rate lower. Good what.

[1amber]

If parents get retrenched for spending too much time having tuition then how? :evil:

[BeContented]

concern2:

BeContented:

At this rate, tuition market for parents (for parents not kids) will be a booming business soon..... :roll:

It is already a booming business. Keeps unemployment rate lower. Good what.

Errrrhhhh, maybe I'm not clear enough
The students' tuition/enrichment market is booming for sure.
I'm referring to the market for parents' workshop which I believe has started only recently. Parents will be attending all these workshop to learn all the models/heuristics/creative writing etc so that they can go home & coach their own kids..... I tried to join a P6 creative writing but was rejected, so maybe next time they might come up with a tuition class for parents.

[HAPPYH]

BeContented:

concern2:

[quote=\"BeContented\"]At this rate, tuition market for parents (for parents not kids) will be a booming business soon..... :roll:

It is already a booming business. Keeps unemployment rate lower. Good what.

Errrrhhhh, maybe I'm not clear enough
The students' tuition/enrichment market is booming for sure.
I'm referring to the market for parents' workshop which I believe has started only recently. Parents will be attending all these workshop to learn all the models/heuristics/creative writing etc so that they can go home & coach their own kids..... I tried to join a P6 creative writing but was rejected, so maybe next time they might come up with a tuition class for parents.[/quote]I like your post.

[concern2]

BeContented:

concern2:

[quote=\"BeContented\"]At this rate, tuition market for parents (for parents not kids) will be a booming business soon..... :roll:

It is already a booming business. Keeps unemployment rate lower. Good what.

Errrrhhhh, maybe I'm not clear enough
The students' tuition/enrichment market is booming for sure.
I'm referring to the market for parents' workshop which I believe has started only recently. Parents will be attending all these workshop to learn all the models/heuristics/creative writing etc so that they can go home & coach their own kids..... I tried to join a P6 creative writing but was rejected, so maybe next time they might come up with a tuition class for parents.[/quote] :booboo: Ooops, sorry! Didn't read your post carefully, thought you meant the tuition business!