Suspect my maid has hp, advice needed
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Laptop… er…
Why does she need to use computer?
I agree with the suggestions on ‘pretend dont know and use it on the sly’!! -
Ichigokun:
not far fetched at all, two of the 3 maids worked for me before, real life story, want to see the police case report for theft ?
Your story is a bit too far-fetched.verykiasu2010:
at first no phone
then allowed to use house phone
then allowed to own a mobile phone
then spending more and more time on the mobile phone, locked in the toilet
then spending more and more time on the phone, sms-ing, chatting, morning, afternoon, evening, late at night, well past mind-nite .....
then house work standard got worse and worse and cut corners
then spending more and more $$ on phone card / prepay cards
then monthly salary no longer enough to pay for phone bills
then borrow $$ from other maids
then borrow $$ from other people / foreign workers
then start to steal money from employers .......
slippery slope of having a mobile phone ? lack of civil liberty for the maid ? lack of freedom ?
the above are true stories ..... 3 out 5 maids will have such problems, statistically
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clioclio:
I have seen maids surfing internet and so on, lying on the road side, along main road, and of course, with some male foreign workers ....... just like tourists having picnic under Eifle Tower .....:goodpost: Thanks everyone for your encouragement.
Yes, my kids like her and I am OK with her. I don't want to change a maid unless she's totally hopeless or crossed the line (bring bf back home!) So, yes i am hoping to extend her contract.
Yea my strategy right now is I am going to pretend i don't know, and she has no choice but to use it on the sly. If i acknowledge that she has a hp, i cannot deal with the scenario where she is whipping out her hp every now and then to sms or whatever. I think as long as i do not see the hp and she does her work i will just let it go.
And like what one of the replies said--if i say I know about your hp and i just let it go, there will be no end to it. What is the msg that I am sendng out to my maid? That rules can be broken? its' OK?
She's finishing her contract in July. I will renegotiate her contrac and then factor in the hp.
Last time i bought a netbook she also say, \"Ma'am can i buy one too?\" :roll: I told her no way. Last time bring her to Library with my kids , i let her borrow some Bahasa books. She end up reading dead into the night then cannot wake up in the morning? My hubby had to rush to work without b'fast. Happened a few times. In the end i told her, No books for you. coz she can't control!
Can't imagine if she had internet access.
Maybe if she asks again, i will let her use my laptop in the living room for a set period. -
I have a experienced maid who own a hp. Before she started work with me, already lay down rules. Can only use hp at nigth when she’s done with her chores. At first, she obeyed. But after a few months, she starts to break the rules. As I bring my kids to my my mum’s place every morning, told her she cannot use the hp. Now hide in the toilet frequently for about 20 mins to use the toilet. When question her, she shows black face. Middle of the night, also sms and didn’t sleep. Day time, then she’s tired and start to day dream.
So how to be a good employer? If we give her some benefits, she dont treasure it but abuse the trust and benefits given to her. Housework no heart to do. Becoming so obsess to the hp. At times neglect her responsibilties. I am in thinking of changing to another maid. We are humans and hope she will be happy here. But… -
Yes i agree with Ichigokun,indeed we’r not staying in North Korea but i really have a true self experience with my current maid taking a ruler for an inch attitude after giving her 1 thing & she continue asking for more and more never stop ending.
My maid has already way forgotten of her first objective of coming to Singapore and work.She’d mix up her needs and wants.
Will continue to share with you all her horror stories and btw she’s my first maid since started with me in yr 2008 and she’s still with me.
Her contract going to end in May and she’s decided to work for Ang Moh and truly i give her my blessing.
I’m a FTWM therefore with no help from aged parents and aged in laws and due to the nature of me and my husb job,is tough to put my child in child care.
Shall continue again.
Jain -
Actually now with the new off day rule, maids will get a Hp for sure whether employer agrees or not. Without Hp, how are they going to arrange to meet their friends on off day?? With off day, Hp will become necessary for them. So even if we talked about this whole day long, it will still happen.
For employers worried about maid spending too much time on Hp, then maybe keep the Hp and wait till she finish her chores then return the phone to her. -
Well how would one know there is only one hp? My godma’s ex maid had THREE hp and the family didn’t bar her from using. She started stealing from the family to pay for the use.
Come to think of it, with the new legislation, Hmmm, maybe it is good time to buy telco shares. Afterall there should be more revenues coming in. -
case closed, my maid just told me she wants to transfer to another employer
i did not confront her about the hp issue. (perhaps she knows that i know alreeady?)
This evening my parents took the maid & kids out. I looked thru my maid's stuff again..she has some photos of her wearing my specs, and sunglasses on her head? I know it is not as bad as those horror stories wearing underwear and all that but still...
she is wearing make up in the photos--i am HOPING she's not using my make up!!
in one photo she is posing in front of my husband's computer --looking at the screen, hand on the mouse. from all the photos i can't tell for sure if she's taken the photo herself or somebody took her photo. In the latter case, means somebody came into my house!?!?!! Arrgh.
When she tell me she wants to ask for transfer, she say, can i not transfer her back to the original agency she came from. She wants to go to Javamaids.--means what? She has been doing her homework.
Disappointed. -
Hi there,
You have PM
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clioclio:
Are you agreeable to her transfer? You can report her to MOM if you suspect that she's let someone into your home without your permission.case closed, my maid just told me she wants to transfer to another employer
i did not confront her about the hp issue. (perhaps she knows that i know alreeady?)
This evening my parents took the maid & kids out. I looked thru my maid's stuff again..she has some photos of her wearing my specs, and sunglasses on her head? I know it is not as bad as those horror stories wearing underwear and all that but still...
she is wearing make up in the photos--i am HOPING she's not using my make up!!
in one photo she is posing in front of my husband's computer --looking at the screen, hand on the mouse. from all the photos i can't tell for sure if she's taken the photo herself or somebody took her photo. In the latter case, means somebody came into my house!?!?!! Arrgh.
When she tell me she wants to ask for transfer, she say, can i not transfer her back to the original agency she came from. She wants to go to Javamaids.--means what? She has been doing her homework.
Disappointed.
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