Zen 禅悟人生 -My way of Seeking a Balance life
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11.04.2012
Carrying the weight of the (your) world on your shoulders
Author: Sim Pern Yiau
One day i said to XY: “You have been doing yoga 10 years. You have been doing Taiji gong for 2 years. You go for frequent massages. Either your Yoga teacher and I are really lousy teachers, or there is something else deeper that is causing that great tension in your shoulders.”
From observing her, listening to her and sensing between the lines, i have started to guess as much. Clues to her personality and psychology. She cares. She is responsible. To her work. To her children. To her elders parents.
But there is no balance. Fullfilling your duties is not the same as holding yourself responsible for everything. To care is not the same as to carry.
There are more forces, more interconnectedness in the way of things that contribute to their success or failure. When we do something, not all of its success is due to us alone. Not all of its failure too.
Even whether it is going to succeed, whether it is going to fail. Whether the company will thrive, whether it will fall. Whether our loved one will live, whether they will die. Whether if they are happy, whether if they are sad. We have a part to play, but a part, that’s all.
Back to XY. She started to tear. She said: “My husband has been saying the same to me. He said: “I tell you but you don’t believe me. Now your Shifu tells you. Are you going to listen?’ ”
But in the end, it is up to herself, not husband or Shifu. Until she stops carrying the weight of the world on her shoulders, her body will always be tense despite Yoga despite Taiji. Until she sees that it is not her world to carry at all. -
cfan, that was a wonderful sharing!
Thank you.
\"To care is not the same as to carry\"
Something many of us here ,in this forum, would benefit from . -
Sun_2010:
:oops: :thankyou:cfan, that was a wonderful sharing!
Thank you.
\"To care is not the same as to carry\"
Something many of us here ,in this forum, would benefit from . -
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dolphinsiah, thanks for sharing. Keep it coming!
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dolphinsiah:
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