In-law problems?

[BeContented]

Udon:

Give MIL a lot of money for monthly expenses....

Most of the MIL loves $$$$
Maybe you wives hv control the husband $$$, so she will be upset that her son being taken away.....

What an interesting theory
But may have some truth......$$$ is one thing they cannot get over with. Mine always try to push hand-me-downs over & stop me from getting new things.....well, as time went, I turned pretty resentful of her behaviour & stopped being so obedient. Realised once we have the support of DH, they will not be so pushy. :roll:

But I will not give MIL anymore $$. By letting her stay with us & rent out her whole flat (endup I have to bear & suffer all her nonsense), she is already making thousands extra per month with zero outlay.

[chloecube]

I gave my MIL big angbao during CNY, buy her diamond n branded wallet during Xmas n birthday, in fact I m more generous towards her than her own children. Yet, I was mistreated by her. I dun think money is the issue here, she simply think I snatch her son from her n jealous when DH treats me well

[janet88]

That old one asked my maid to accompany her to the toilet…obviously it is more like fishing info…the toilet was nearby, and she was fit enough to go by herself. I called my maid and asked her where she was going. She said she was asked by old one to accompany her to loo. After that, the old one said she doesn’t need to use the loo.

From that incident, I told all my maids to answer only 2 questions when they happened to meet old one:
1) name
2) maid’s age
Anything else, ask me. Tell her I do not like them to talk so much.

[CookiesMonster]

when i feel bogged down by my ILs's problems, i will come in & read what has been shared here & still managed to feel better though i can't share my story to get it off my chest.


so, thanks for sharing

[fifiyeo]

Being trapped with all the IL problems feels terrible.


As long as it makes you feel better, read on…

Many of us here have horror tales to tell.

[janet88]

CookiesMonster:

when i feel bogged down by my ILs's problems, i will come in & read what has been shared here & still managed to feel better though i can't share my story to get it off my chest.


so, thanks for sharing

This particular thread is a punching bag.
Release your frustrations here...we have loads to share too...some are horror but real.

[CookiesMonster]

thank you…fifi & janet


i say too much to my ILs over their biased treatment also no use cos if they think they are right, there is no way to make them see their error.

so i always console myself…ren zhai zhuo, tian zhai kan (What Men do, Heaven can see)

[fifiyeo]

:yikes: Oh CookiesMonter,


Don't bother ironing out anything with your ILs. They won't listen, maybe you might even get into more trouble.

Your DH is the only one who can try to knock some sense into them. If he has already tried or does not agree with your thinking, then forget it. It's better to ignore, avoid your ILs rather than to confront them with such issues unless you are courting \"death\"!

[janet88]

fifiyeo:

:yikes: Oh CookiesMonter,


Don't bother ironing out anything with your ILs. They won't listen, maybe you might even get into more trouble.

Your DH is the only one who can try to knock some sense into them. If he has already tried or does not agree with your thinking, then forget it. It's better to ignore, avoid your ILs rather than to confront them with such issues unless you are courting \"death\"!

Yes, agree. Their mindset is stuck...nothing can get in and nobody can change them. Can't teach an old dog(s) new tricks. Even my hubby, the favorite son has given up.

[fifiyeo]

:pokeeye:


It's worse if you DH is not the favourite. Then they pile all the blame on you... ...

ILs issues better stay far far away. Act blur and avoid! I'm sure Janet agrees too.