In-law problems?

[northernstar]

aurorin:

This is exactly the difference between my family and DH's family too! Even if wanna say something, must make sure frame in a super nice way.. cannot be upfront and honest w/i the family... i guess on one level, it is like wanting to just maintain peace so dont want to confront anything possible 'negative' things but also in a way, quite an escapist/ostrich in the sand way of dealing with things..

maybe, with my in-laws, i need voice out personally so that they can remember. but doing so will make me feel awkward when seeing them next time. i dunno how long i can endure... :faint:

[auntieM]

This year was the battle of Mother's day makan..

MIL tried 'siaming' all other days and in the end, not successful de..
Tempted but didn't want to ask DH what happened, so for once, Happy day for me at last..

[janet88]

newuser:

macaron12:

how do you celebrate mother's day with your mum & your MIL?

This year is easy choice for me. Celebration cancelled.
Sorry My son SA1, told both of them everyday is mothers' day.

Although son's SA1 was already over last week, I was not in the mood for mothers' day celebration bcos son didn't do well :mad: Celebrate with HER ? Dream on.

[fifiyeo]

janet_lee88:

newuser:

[quote=\"macaron12\"]how do you celebrate mother's day with your mum & your MIL?

This year is easy choice for me. Celebration cancelled.
Sorry My son SA1, told both of them everyday is mothers' day.

Although son's SA1 was already over last week, I was not in the mood for mothers' day celebration bcos son didn't do well :mad: Celebrate with HER ? Dream on.[/quote]
Lets all just hope for the best for our DSs. My DS also produces roller-coaster results all the time.

Since not in the mood then just avoid ILs. Otherwise more trouble to add onto the current stress.

[janet88]

Hi fifiyeo,

Yeah if seeing them only adds to more frustration, better not. For their own safety :evil:
Told hubby I swallowed a barrel of gun powder. Anyone who gets on my nerves will get it from me. :wrongmove: last night, my son did his work obediently till 11...not a single sound.

[fifiyeo]

HI Janet,


Maybe if your ILs get on your nerves and get it from you now, they’ll never forget and stay far, far away. I’m sure it’s highly explosive!!

Understand how you feel. Me feeling just the same with all the "news" report from DS today.

[janet88]

fifiyeo:

HI Janet,


Maybe if your ILs get on your nerves and get it from you now, they'll never forget and stay far, far away. I'm sure it's highly explosive!!

Understand how you feel. Me feeling just the same with all the \"news\" report from DS today.

Problem is if I blow my top at them, I will be blamed when SHE sobs buckets.
As it is, they stay miles away...and they have never seen my black face.

[ningning]

Hi! everyone, i have been kept busy for the past few months on my humble business and have not log in for a while.


Since i have left working for my evils PILs, things have been looking better and better for me. my humble business also seem more promising now. Life is breatheable now. I do not have to succumb to their evils acts anymore and kana bully by that evil SIL.

But recently my hubby came home oneday and told me that his mum had returned from a PRC holiday (they only goes china for holiday, so boring) and passed him a teddy bear that she said is a gift for my DD from my hubby’s prc cousin(my FIL is born in PRC but came to singapore in his early years before 1965). She did not get any gift for my DD. My hubby said he is very disappointed with his mum , is not that he care for any gift she buy for our DD, is the thought that is missing. A distant cousin has the thought of giving a small gift to our DD but her own paternal grandma chose not to buy her any gift. So he had purposely left that teddy bear on his parents office table before he left their office. he did not want to bring the fur toy home. I kept silent upon hearing this.

I knew that old evil woman did so to hurt her own son by doing so is like telling him, they did not love our DD. Why one can try so hard even using little things such as something like that to hurt own son?? why so so evil??

MY DD NEED NOT TO HAVE SUCH A EVIL WOMAN AS HER GRANDMA. PUI…

[janet88]

ningning:

She did not get any gift for my DD. My hubby said he is very disappointed with his mum , is not that he care for any gift she buy for our DD, is the thought that she is missing. A distant cousin has the thought of giving a small gift to our DD but her own paternal grandma chose not to buy her any gift.

Sometimes it looks as though we expect, but it's more like the thought we expect from them FOR the grand kids. When the paternal grandparents went to US last year for 3 months, they didn't even get anything for the kids, not even sweets or souvenir. Believe my hubby gave them some ang pao before he sent them to airport. It's ok, I am not desperate, just disappointed. Even though my hubby goes to Malaysia for out station tour, he will get lots of food. I will ask him to give them more. Bcos I am not a tidbits person and the cookies will be wasted.

[kooky83]

ningning:

Hi! everyone, i have been kept busy for the past few months on my humble business and have not log in for a while.


Since i have left working for my evils PILs, things have been looking better and better for me. my humble business also seem more promising now. Life is breatheable now. I do not have to succumb to their evils acts anymore and kana bully by that evil SIL.

But recently my hubby came home oneday and told me that his mum had returned from a PRC holiday (they only goes china for holiday, so boring) and passed him a teddy bear that she said is a gift for my DD from my hubby's prc cousin(my FIL is born in PRC but came to singapore in his early years before 1965). She did not get any gift for my DD. My hubby said he is very disappointed with his mum , is not that he care for any gift she buy for our DD, is the thought that is missing. A distant cousin has the thought of giving a small gift to our DD but her own paternal grandma chose not to buy her any gift. So he had purposely left that teddy bear on his parents office table before he left their office. he did not want to bring the fur toy home. I kept silent upon hearing this.

I knew that old evil woman did so to hurt her own son by doing so is like telling him, they did not love our DD. Why one can try so hard even using little things such as something like that to hurt own son?? why so so evil??

MY DD NEED NOT TO HAVE SUCH A EVIL WOMAN AS HER GRANDMA. PUI....

both your hubby and his mum are not in good terms? luckily you alll are not staying tgt