My husband is addicted to his handphone :(

[valvestate]

I think playing games using handphone in the train or in your free time at work is still normal and healthy but, neglecting or not giving much attention to my kid is too much. Playing game should be only past time but not be too totally addicted to it... your husband 30++?? Same here... but I have other hobbies and passion like Music & photography so perhaps you can give some hints to your hubby that there are more life than playing silly Android/ IOS games.


and c'mon... we're not teenagers anymore. grow up!

[buds]

Does he still choose the handphone (games) over sex?


If yes, it's a freaking addiction.
And no, it's not a cute young at heart thingy.

Withdrawal symptoms will be anger.. stomping off somewhere else.. cold war treatment.. refusal to participate in any family stuff at all.. tantrum.. forever in a bad grumpy mood..(etc)

And nope.. asking him to read a book on anything will only make him more fed-up..

I'm a rehabilitated KiasuParents addict. :politebleah:

[sdadsmumsson]

Is he really playing games? What "Games"? I’m not trying to scare u, just my experiences. My hubby also always holding his phone, playing with the games. Day, night, outside, at home, while eating, even in the toilet, anytime everywhere. Sometimes i pass by him, he will shift his phone out of my view. Why? Other than playing games, he actually playing others phone applicatons likes whats up and so call social networking applications. Not offended just my two cents. Hope your hubby really into games.

[Laurenwkids]

Why is he always on whatsapp? Who is he talking to? I will be very suspicious if my hubby is always on his phone checking his whatsapp or on facebook. Why need to consistently check unless there is someone they are frequently talking to.

[sdadsmumsson]

I didn’t mention the social flirt networking application - skout. There are plenty of man, girls and woman online. Can chat anytime everywhere. From decent chat to very intimate.

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missk:

In my definition, it means that there are important things to do (e.g ensure safety of the child, sleeping, driving etc) but someone chooses the phone over that, that looks addicted to me. 1-2 hours is definitely ok, if there is nothing else more important to do.

hi missk,
just a suggestion, if you think it still worth the effort: maybe you can try to subtly get your dh to replace the undesirable \"hobby\" with a more healthy one that he already had some interest in..?

eg. was he into photography or music or building model race cars in his school days? maybe you can offer to go shopping with him for a really good camera or a guitar etc.. tell him how good he used to be at that hobby, and that your son is really keen to learn from him and develop the hobbies..

hopefully it can also create some good bonding time between them, and make him see how much the kid needs him and enjoys being with him.

i was also addicted to the internet chatroom some years ago. being a sahm, can feel quite \"out-of-things\" and even lonely sometimes, being at home mostly doing monotonous housework, and with no adults to talk to. then i picked up photography for a hobby, and as the interest develops, the fascination of online chatting kind of wore itself out gradually.

take care ~ really hope things get better for you soon.

[Idono]

Why will gals feel "lonely" when there’s so much to be done, ie housework, care for kids, teach them etc… As a guy, i still don’t quite get it. Maybe I might find some answers here? Any gals can put it in simple english? I really dislike it when like there’s dirty laundry, clothes to iron etc and wife is just whatsapp with someone else. For me, i prefer to call when there’s something to be discussed during the day. Only whatsapp when its really really urgent (ie arranging meetups, outings etc), or when the family have gone to bed, and i’m still full of energy. So i might end up gaming / watching movie or whatsapp.

[valvestate]

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eg. was he into photography or music or building model race cars in his school days? maybe you can offer to go shopping with him for a really good camera or a guitar etc.. tell him how good he used to be at that hobby, and that your son is really keen to learn from him and develop the hobbies..

:goodpost: Good answer!

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Idono:

Why will gals feel \"lonely\" when there's so much to be done, ie housework, care for kids, teach them etc..... As a guy, i still don't quite get it. Maybe I might find some answers here? Any gals can put it in simple english? I really dislike it when like there's dirty laundry, clothes to iron etc and wife is just whatsapp with someone else. For me, i prefer to call when there's something to be discussed during the day. Only whatsapp when its really really urgent (ie arranging meetups, outings etc), or when the family have gone to bed, and i'm still full of energy. So i might end up gaming / watching movie or whatsapp.

for me it's the transition from a career that i like, with good friends in the office, to sahm.
i guess chatroom is not so bad, because people you like talking to might not be there same time as you. but being sahm, there's no one at home to \"monitor\" / scold me, so that's the difficult part.
anyway, managed to pull out of the addiction completely in under a year.

i never used whatsapp, so dunno how it works.. but i gather it can be lots more problematic..?

really hope you can find some way to help your wife.. she needs you..
all the best ~

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valvestate:

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eg. was he into photography or music or building model race cars in his school days? maybe you can offer to go shopping with him for a really good camera or a guitar etc.. tell him how good he used to be at that hobby, and that your son is really keen to learn from him and develop the hobbies..

:goodpost: Good answer!

thanks valvestate ~
it's encouraging to know that a guy thinks this might work..