ST 23/8 Teacher cuts pupil's hair, mum files police report

[Dreamaurora]

Time for me to wax my philiosophical eloquence :please:


I've read the comments here and some more comments at the other threads. Frankly I am disturbed by some of the comments made and this incident highlights the various degrees parents instill morality in their children.

We form our morality and principle by virtue of observing the positive and negative consequences of people's actions around us. Although our society has placed laws and rules to tell us what is right and what is wrong, we don't exactly based our morality on these laws and rules. For example, let's say that you regularly pirate movies and softwares from the internet. It is clearly a criminal act according to our law. Your children, however, seeing that there is no VISIBLE negative consequences to pirating softwares i.e. arrested and thrown into jail, will deem that pirating software is okay and hence will continue the practice when they become an adult. Our actions will be subconsciously programmed into our children. This is the reason why we are very likely to bring up children the same way our parents brought us up.

Much has been said that moral training should start from home. While I agree this ideally should be the case, it may not be the perfect solution as a lot of parents themselves have questionable morals. How many of us can honestly say we NEVER ever broken a law or rule or act ungraciously before in front our kids? It need not be something drastic such as robbing a bank. It can be subtle actions e.g. speeding on lane 1 in expressway, pirating softwares, jaywalking, using vulgar language, shouting at your maid, etc. Doing all this will send a message to your kids that not all laws and rules need to be respected. Whether we feel the laws and rules are stupid and unnecessary is a moot point; we need to instill respect towards authority in our kids.

[MR06]

ponyo:

actually there are 2 more issues that I find disturbing:


1) I wonder if the mum truly understood the damage of her selfish love for her boy boy. When the ah-boy goes back to school, I am quite sure he will be teased to no end by his other classmates or worse still, even ostracised by his class for giving his teacher/school/principal a bad name. Wouldn't he feel more stressed and upset and maybe even victimised? If not addressed properly e.g. he grows up blaming everyone including his mum how he turned out, then we have just created a potential problem? no? (machiam those hk/taiwan soap opera, 这不是我的错， 是你们害我这样做的！)

2) Where is the father in this entire episode? Did not the mum consult her hubby before she filed the police report? If yes,how come she is alone answering to the media? Where is the man to support his wife if the decision was collective? Filing a report is not a trivial matter so if the father is not consulted, it does say something about the balance of power in their relationship right?

The boy is in need of a good/strong father figure to grow up to be a man.

If I am the man I :siam: long ago but I would have grabbed my son along. :siam:

[verykiasu2010]

ponyo:

actually there are 2 more issues that I find disturbing:


1) I wonder if the mum truly understood the damage of her selfish love for her boy boy. When the ah-boy goes back to school, I am quite sure he will be teased to no end by his other classmates or worse still, even ostracised by his class for giving his teacher/school/principal a bad name. Wouldn't he feel more stressed and upset and maybe even victimised? If not addressed properly e.g. he grows up blaming everyone including his mum how he turned out, then we have just created a potential problem? no? (machiam those hk/taiwan soap opera, 这不是我的错， 是你们害我这样做的！)

2) Where is the father in this entire episode? Did not the mum consult her hubby before she filed the police report? If yes,how come she is alone answering to the media? Where is the man to support his wife if the decision was collective? Filing a report is not a trivial matter so if the father is not consulted, it does say something about the balance of power in their relationship right?

The boy is in need of a good/strong father figure to grow up to be a man.

may be the father is some big shot.....trying very hard to remain anonymous ?

[ponyo]

verykiasu2010:

ponyo:

actually there are 2 more issues that I find disturbing:


1) I wonder if the mum truly understood the damage of her selfish love for her boy boy. When the ah-boy goes back to school, I am quite sure he will be teased to no end by his other classmates or worse still, even ostracised by his class for giving his teacher/school/principal a bad name. Wouldn't he feel more stressed and upset and maybe even victimised? If not addressed properly e.g. he grows up blaming everyone including his mum how he turned out, then we have just created a potential problem? no? (machiam those hk/taiwan soap opera, 这不是我的错， 是你们害我这样做的！)

2) Where is the father in this entire episode? Did not the mum consult her hubby before she filed the police report? If yes,how come she is alone answering to the media? Where is the man to support his wife if the decision was collective? Filing a report is not a trivial matter so if the father is not consulted, it does say something about the balance of power in their relationship right?

The boy is in need of a good/strong father figure to grow up to be a man.

may be the father is some big shot.....trying very hard to remain anonymous ?

hmmmm.... 敢做不敢当:siam:

[Imami]

tutormum:

Beware, she may file a police report on you taking her photo without consent.

:evil:

Oops :siam:[/quote]
She may be a member of KSP :spank: :spank:[/quote]
Don't think so... This report mata incident shows that she is someone who does nit hesitate to \"make it big\". She would not hesitate to \"tell us off\" if we are not in her camp.

[limlim]

ksi:

limlim:

Teacher cut student hair.. created a big fuss..


Not long ago there was a saga on male photographer cut xmm model's pubic hair.. guess it didn't even made it to the straits times..

Maybe because pubic hair is hidden? :siam:

Maybe not hidden by the cloth or under sized bikini or underwear, so photographer want to cut.

[Imami]

MR06:

ponyo:

actually there are 2 more issues that I find disturbing:


1) I wonder if the mum truly understood the damage of her selfish love for her boy boy. When the ah-boy goes back to school, I am quite sure he will be teased to no end by his other classmates or worse still, even ostracised by his class for giving his teacher/school/principal a bad name. Wouldn't he feel more stressed and upset and maybe even victimised? If not addressed properly e.g. he grows up blaming everyone including his mum how he turned out, then we have just created a potential problem? no? (machiam those hk/taiwan soap opera, 这不是我的错， 是你们害我这样做的！)

2) Where is the father in this entire episode? Did not the mum consult her hubby before she filed the police report? If yes,how come she is alone answering to the media? Where is the man to support his wife if the decision was collective? Filing a report is not a trivial matter so if the father is not consulted, it does say something about the balance of power in their relationship right?

The boy is in need of a good/strong father figure to grow up to be a man.

If I am the man I :siam: long ago but I would have grabbed my son along. :siam:

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: that was what my hubby said too. The only diff was, he said, he would Siam alone....

[hsm]

I would be very angry too if the teacher simply cut my child’s hair without giving any pre-warning to the kids, and worst to do it just before the crucial PSLE oral exam! It was similar to the recent incident of Joseph Schooling who was told that his swimming cap is not approved before his major competition.


Personally, cutting someone’s hair without consent is interfering into a personal boundary esp to a child. I’m not sure if the boy was really misbehave / naughty that the teacher needs to go to this extend.

On the other hand, i agree the mother may have overdone it to report police. But perhaps she was too angry at that point??

Well, i still think the teacher is the one who did not handle this matter in an appropriate manner…

[corneyAmber]

limlim:

ksi:

[quote=\"limlim\"]Teacher cut student hair.. created a big fuss..


Not long ago there was a saga on male photographer cut xmm model's pubic hair.. guess it didn't even made it to the straits times..

Maybe because pubic hair is hidden? :siam:

Maybe not hidden by the cloth or under sized bikini or underwear, so photographer want to cut.[/quote]Both bleaching and Brazilian wax takes time hor... Anyway, if it is Brazilian wax he did for her, it definitely won't make it to news...stylo milo what is there to complain? :siam:

[corneyAmber]

hsm:

I would be very angry too if the teacher simply cut my child's hair without giving any pre-warning to the kids, and worst to do it just before the crucial PSLE oral exam! It was similar to the recent incident of Joseph Schooling who was told that his swimming cap is not approved before his major competition.


Personally, cutting someone's hair without consent is interfering into a personal boundary esp to a child. I'm not sure if the boy was really misbehave / naughty that the teacher needs to go to this extend.

On the other hand, i agree the mother may have overdone it to report police. But perhaps she was too angry at that point??

Well, i still think the teacher is the one who did not handle this matter in an appropriate manner..

I think she should make a police report only if her son fails the PSLE oral because of the psychological trauma on him ma....otherwise if he scores very well, she should give that teacher a treat instead for helping the son appear proper for the exam. Seriously, a phone call to the parents to explain why the teacher had to do it would have avoided this hoo-ha.

I am just wondering if it is not PSLE oral exam day, would she have hit the roof in her behaviour? :? Of course there is still no excuse that as a mum, she cannot see that his hair was \"out of place\"...