Cold Wars (with your spouse)

[kaitlynangelica]

I always wonder, with all these cold wars and whatever, how do the babies come about?


So often I hear of mothers divorced with 2 or 3 kids…and I just wonder…am sure conflicts don’t happen in a split second or overnight…along the way still got mood to make babies?

[cherrygal]

Yup, pple forget that they were once in love… haiz


And sometimes, kids can cause the friction too…

So, if we are not the motherly or fatherly type, try not to have any kids or just have one at most. Sometimes I think many of my disagreements with DH would be non-existent if we didn’t have kids.

[Sun_2010]

kaitlynangelica:

I always wonder, with all these cold wars and whatever, how do the babies come about?


So often I hear of mothers divorced with 2 or 3 kids.......and I just wonder........am sure conflicts don't happen in a split second or overnight......along the way still got mood to make babies?

2 reasons
1. Hormones: powerful things these :evil:
2. Hope: Much more powerful thing.
There is always hope that one spouse will change for the better, things will work out , everything will be ok. quite often things get better, not perfect but to varying degrees. But sometimes they dont. Sad. But all said Thank God there is always hope.

[kaitlynangelica]

Sun_2010:

kaitlynangelica:

I always wonder, with all these cold wars and whatever, how do the babies come about?


So often I hear of mothers divorced with 2 or 3 kids.......and I just wonder........am sure conflicts don't happen in a split second or overnight......along the way still got mood to make babies?

2 reasons
1. Hormones: powerful things these :evil:
2. Hope: Much more powerful thing.
There is always hope that one spouse will change for the better, things will work out , everything will be ok. quite often things get better, not perfect but to varying degrees. But sometimes they dont. Sad. But all said Thank God there is always hope.

The part about hope is so very true.....

I know of women who have told me....they gave into their husband's request for sex in the hope that it will better the relationship.

But what lifetime of grief when the desired outcome isn't reached and you are saddled with a bunch of kids.

[Mychildren]

mommy2two,


If u feel like letting out your frustration & have no one to speak to, just write here. Its a form of letting out. I think there are many kind souls here who will read & respond back. :grphug:

[mommy2two]

thank you for your kind gesture... sometimes it's much easier to \"talk\" to pple who have similar experience and who wun judge you.

it gets harder to share such feelings with family and close friends. every family has their problems, some are just lucky that both adults have the same goals and expectations.

to those who are still in the same situation as me --> :hugs:
and those who managed to reconcile. i'm happy for you

Mychildren:

mommy2two,

If u feel like letting out your frustration & have no one to speak to, just write here. Its a form of letting out. I think there are many kind souls here who will read & respond back. :grphug:

[verykiasumummy]

mommy2two:

thank you for your kind gesture... sometimes it's much easier to \"talk\" to pple who have similar experience and who wun judge you.

it gets harder to share such feelings with family and close friends. every family has their problems, some are just lucky that both adults have the same goals and expectations.

to those who are still in the same situation as me --> :hugs:
and those who managed to reconcile. i'm happy for you

Mychildren:

mommy2two,

If u feel like letting out your frustration & have no one to speak to, just write here. Its a form of letting out. I think there are many kind souls here who will read & respond back. :grphug:

i certainly agree... i find it hard to tell even my close friends because they may tell one another n the whole group will know about it sooner or later...

its better to tell it all here....

[Imami]

:grphug: Come and pour your frustration here, if u need. Chances are, you will get responses from folks in the same boat. Acceptance and understanding is impt. And you get both from people who are in similar situations like you.

[Mychildren]

mommy2two & verykiasumummy,


Ya, nowadays everyone busy with their own life. The nearest to reach maybe our PC. Kekeke. But the replies need sometime to come back even when online.
At least, better write here than talking to a wall.
U might be surprised if u c me, I look quiet & shy but here I'm talkative & bossy.
Hope after writing out here, all of u feel better.
Happy Day & remember the sun'll always rise! (Positive thinking)

[Mychildren]

One song I learned to sing from my children cartoon \"Noddy\" cd,

(I've translate the song from cantonese to english myself cause my cd is in cantonese):

Try once more, if u can, must try once more.
When u meet with difficulties, don't need to be scare, don't give up!
U must remember by heart, if u can, must try once more.
When u meet with difficulties, don't need to be scare.
Yes, Yes, Yes!