Government, what you really want us to do?

[Oppsgal]

Some thinks SAHMs very free...


Someone ask me I nothing much to do at home, looks very free?

The only time I nothing much to do is when I kpo here. :razz:

Other time so busy. Time flies faster than working.

[BeContented]

Snow Crystal:

Melodies:

All those policies have further tightened all FTWMs' hands, legs and minds.. Just wonder how to have more babies?, how not to have tuition and how to further work with piece of mind? :slapshead:

:goodpost: Melodies, I think you have said it all for the FTWMs.
FTWM was my pre-SAHM life - it's like a clown juggling balls. Realized that no one can be superwoman. Impossible. Can't have both worlds without strong support from parents who can help in logistics and education. But very few women have such support. How to juggle demanding job and a harsh, punishing education system at the same time.

If I were still a FTWM, my wish list is simple - first and foremost, all teachers please teach properly what will be tested in exams and PSLE, and not give parents surprises in exams, don't recommend us to turn to tuition. Don't teach 50-60% knowledge and come out with a paper requiring 100% knowledge. Including PSLE. To enable that, please train the teachers properly. Beyond that, a balanced life for the kids. Like ACSJ as mentioned in newspapers, Mon and Thur no homework day - let the kids read, play or go outdoors reduce myopia. Max 2 hours homework per day for homework days. Happy kids= happy mums =happy FTWMs = Productivity = Golden Goose that lays golden eggs for the country whole year round :evil:

I hold a different view. People these days (even my era) expect a lot more & unwilling to forgo their lifestyle for kids/more kids.

Most of my friends have only 1-2 kids. Some like u mentioned, have everything settled for them (educated grandparents who help to look after the kids, coach & ferry the grandchildren in cars to Sch & tuition, a maid that most of us will envy, earns good good $) but still won't give birth to more.

Perhaps some do want more but due to certain unfavorabke factors decide to stop......but equally, many others will just simply quote all sorts of excuses but in actual fact, unwilling to give up their lifestyle. It's really a personal choice, nothing much the govt can do. I'm one :oops:
B4 my kids, I wanted 4. After 2 kids, I am reluctant to give up my current lifestyle for #3 even tho I do at times wish for another baby to hold. But if it happens, I probably will keep the baby....but to deliberately plan another is out of the question.

[mamago]

ksi:

mamago:

[quote=\"limlim\"]
3B is XY not XX.. so cannot be FTWM...... :evil:

limlim san, thank you for correcting me, now i know.... :evil: :evil: :evil: hahaha....

Why not? Full Time Working Man! :rotflmao:[/quote]
limlim san, hear? :evil:

[fightingmom]

jedamum:

How to train to do homework fast?

My boy spends one hour on dinner. 20min just to drink his cup of milo in the morning. How to eat hearty breakfast? Breakfast is on the go when walking to school as I want to give him that extra 10min sleep. He sleeps at 10.15pm and wales up at 610am . Not even 8 hours.

How to train to do homework fast? Hmm.. I used to \"challenge\" my dd when she was in lower primary to see who can solve a Maths question faster and accurately. Sometimes I win, sometimes I \"lose\" so the winner gets to decide what board game to play next. (oh, my dd loves board games)

I guess probably all these years of \"training\" , she tends to do her homework quickly as she wants to play or read her fav book afterwards.

Listing down all her homework for the day helps also. She can clearly see what she has to complete and she usually put a timing to it. When she completes one homework, she would put a big tick at the side.

[Oppsgal]

BeContented:

Snow Crystal:

[quote=\"Melodies\"]
All those policies have further tightened all FTWMs' hands, legs and minds.. Just wonder how to have more babies?, how not to have tuition and how to further work with piece of mind? :slapshead:

:goodpost: Melodies, I think you have said it all for the FTWMs.
FTWM was my pre-SAHM life - it's like a clown juggling balls. Realized that no one can be superwoman. Impossible. Can't have both worlds without strong support from parents who can help in logistics and education. But very few women have such support. How to juggle demanding job and a harsh, punishing education system at the same time.

If I were still a FTWM, my wish list is simple - first and foremost, all teachers please teach properly what will be tested in exams and PSLE, and not give parents surprises in exams, don't recommend us to turn to tuition. Don't teach 50-60% knowledge and come out with a paper requiring 100% knowledge. Including PSLE. To enable that, please train the teachers properly. Beyond that, a balanced life for the kids. Like ACSJ as mentioned in newspapers, Mon and Thur no homework day - let the kids read, play or go outdoors reduce myopia. Max 2 hours homework per day for homework days. Happy kids= happy mums =happy FTWMs = Productivity = Golden Goose that lays golden eggs for the country whole year round :evil:

I hold a different view. People these days (even my era) expect a lot more & unwillingly to forgo their lifestyle for kids/more kids.

Most of my friends have only 1-2 kids. Some like u mentioned, have everything settled for them (educated grandparents who help to look after the kids, coach & ferry the grandchildren in cars to Sch & tuition, a maid that most of us will envy, earns good good $) but still won't give birth to more.

Perhaps some do want more but due to certain unfavorabke factors decide to stop......but equally, many others will just simply quote all sorts of excuses but in actual fact, unwilling to give up their lifestyle. It's really a personal choice, nothing much the govt can do. I'm one :oops:
B4 my kids, I wanted 4. After 2 kids, I am reluctant to give up my current lifestyle for #3 even tho I do at times wish for another baby to hold. But if it happens, I probably will keep the baby....but to deliberately plan another is out of the question.[/quote]
Not sure what you mean by \"unwilling to give up their lifestyle\"?

Once married lifestyle change.

After married, give birth to kids, lifestyle will change again. Have to wake up wee hours to feed baby, have to change nappies.

[corneyAmber]

Oppsgal:

Some thinks SAHMs very free...


Someone ask me I nothing much to do at home, looks very free?

The only time I nothing much to do is when I kpo here. :razz:

Other time so busy. Time flies faster than working.

Not at all. SAHM is 24/7, 365 days and unpaid....by rewarding in other ways...

[BeContented]

limlim:

Mychildren:

[quote=\"Oppsgal\"]I find that there are not enough home based jobs around or even flexible jobs (2-3 days workdays).


Want to return to be \"part-time\" working mother also difficult. Only mostly full time jobs.

Oppsgal,
Hey got lobang let me know. I'll checked with u again probably 4-5 years down the road if I still here to KSP.

I may have lobang for part time job..

working hours like 6pm ~ 10pm. Easy, relaxed and Honest job but not maybe not many pple wanna do. Guess it's like $10/hr or something like that.[/quote]Timing not suitable. I believe Most SAHM are 'free-er' during daytime when kids are in school. Night is dinner/family/coaching time......

[Oppsgal]

BeContented:

Timing not suitable. I believe Most SAHM are 'free-er' during daytime when kids are in school. Night is dinner/family/coaching time......

Morning is laundry time or market time. Housework in afternoon time.

[concern2]

Daddy

I think government will say... Our parents can do it, can afford it... So what's the problem? :faint: :siam:

Simple.
One, who was the one who encouraged graduate moms to have more children in the first place?

Second, do you think most women who'd received a generous amount of education would choose to utilize more of their brains or their bodies? Child birth is beyond the 9 months of carrying the baby. It is all the care-taking and time dedication, heart and soul, more than half your life-time taken away from what you've invested in yourself (or what your parents have invested in you) for the first quarter of your life.

Third - our parents could do it, and they did it, to ensure we do not have to go through what they have gone through - if they have a choice.

Fourth - My ah gong used to say, \"I can bring up 10 children with just one rake.\" He was a farmer. Tell me who can bring up 10 children with just one rake now.

Seriously, how much thinking do Singaporeans do?

[BeContented]

Oppsgal:

Not sure what you mean by \"unwilling to give up their lifestyle\"?

Once married lifestyle change.

After married, give birth to kids, lifestyle will change again. Have to wake up wee hours to feed baby, have to change nappies.

Married without kids - lifestyle change - yes,but unlikely to be too drastic.
Married with kids - change will be big. But with each child, more adjustment needed & logistically more & more challenging. Unless u have unlimited resources/help.

I'll just use myself as example (not sure if it's applicable)
- 2 kids. After tahaning for first few years, life has become easier - financially & physically. Also now easier to go out with hubby & leave kids alone at home for a few hours at night, plan longer trips as family, can bring my parents to short overseas trip etc
Frankly, at this point, I can have more kids.....but I am not willing to forgo current lifestyle/convenience. I dun want to go thru whole cycle of diaper, night feed etc. i want to go trips & not be home-bound etc (ok, I'm one who is rather hands-on with my own kids, I can't really let go to others). Financially, will be tighter again. I would consider all these as lifestyle changes with more kids.......no?