Government, what you really want us to do?

[BabyRR]

I am slightly surprised to see that so far in this debate regarding TFR, there’s been no mention about the domestic helper situation.

I feel that unless one has fantastic family support network ie. grandparents helping out with kids, a reliable domestic helper is immensely helpful especially when you are talking about a dual income family with very young kids. ie< 2years. And I feel the current luck of draw system in selection of domestic helper, as well as the limited supply of good helpers is a big impediment to couples who may otherwise have considered more than 1 or 2 kids.

[Oppsgal]

BabyRR:

I am slightly surprised to see that so far in this debate regarding TFR, there's been no mention about the domestic helper situation.

I feel that unless one has fantastic family support network ie. grandparents helping out with kids, a reliable domestic helper is immensely helpful especially when you are talking about a dual income family with very young kids. ie< 2years. And I feel the current luck of draw system in selection of domestic helper, as well as the limited supply of good helpers is a big impediment to couples who may otherwise have considered more than 1 or 2 kids.

I don't dare to depend on maids to look after my kid.

[nightlone]

Oppsgal:

BabyRR:

I am slightly surprised to see that so far in this debate regarding TFR, there's been no mention about the domestic helper situation.

I feel that unless one has fantastic family support network ie. grandparents helping out with kids, a reliable domestic helper is immensely helpful especially when you are talking about a dual income family with very young kids. ie< 2years. And I feel the current luck of draw system in selection of domestic helper, as well as the limited supply of good helpers is a big impediment to couples who may otherwise have considered more than 1 or 2 kids.

I don't dare to depend on maids to look after my kid.

yah i also don't dare. Even when I was a single mum, I rather put him in day care than hire a maid.
Some maids very terok one. I'm not going to risk finding out with my kid.
My friend's maid left the baby in the sarong and went downstairs somewhere. Then forget to take key. So she became scared lah, called the locksmith, then my friend realised she always left the baby alone in the house.

[sunset_dae]

maids have broke my trust in them, I will never rely on them to take care of my kids.

I rather leave my child with a baby sitter than maid.

nightlone:

Oppsgal:

[quote=\"BabyRR\"]I am slightly surprised to see that so far in this debate regarding TFR, there's been no mention about the domestic helper situation.
I feel that unless one has fantastic family support network ie. grandparents helping out with kids, a reliable domestic helper is immensely helpful especially when you are talking about a dual income family with very young kids. ie< 2years. And I feel the current luck of draw system in selection of domestic helper, as well as the limited supply of good helpers is a big impediment to couples who may otherwise have considered more than 1 or 2 kids.

I don't dare to depend on maids to look after my kid.

yah i also don't dare. Even when I was a single mum, I rather put him in day care than hire a maid.
Some maids very terok one. I'm not going to risk finding out with my kid.
My friend's maid left the baby in the sarong and went downstairs somewhere. Then forget to take key. So she became scared lah, called the locksmith, then my friend realised she always left the baby alone in the house.[/quote]

[Lilac66]

BabyRR:

I am slightly surprised to see that so far in this debate regarding TFR, there's been no mention about the domestic helper situation.

I feel that unless one has fantastic family support network ie. grandparents helping out with kids, a reliable domestic helper is immensely helpful especially when you are talking about a dual income family with very young kids. ie< 2years. And I feel the current luck of draw system in selection of domestic helper, as well as the limited supply of good helpers is a big impediment to couples who may otherwise have considered more than 1 or 2 kids.

In the past, with extended families staying within the same household and also we have a strong network support from neighbours , taking care of children was not that immense a problem.

I remember as a child , my siblings and I spent quite a fair bit of time at my neighbour's house as our parents were working long hours just to make ends meet.

[corneyAmber]

Lilac66:

BabyRR:

I am slightly surprised to see that so far in this debate regarding TFR, there's been no mention about the domestic helper situation.

I feel that unless one has fantastic family support network ie. grandparents helping out with kids, a reliable domestic helper is immensely helpful especially when you are talking about a dual income family with very young kids. ie< 2years. And I feel the current luck of draw system in selection of domestic helper, as well as the limited supply of good helpers is a big impediment to couples who may otherwise have considered more than 1 or 2 kids.

In the past, with extended families staying within the same household and also we have a strong network support from neighbours , taking care of children was not that immense a problem.

I remember as a child , my siblings and I spent quite a fair bit of time at my neighbour's house as our parents were working long hours just to make ends meet.

Government tries to promote neighbourliness but somehow it failed compared to the past because people like to keep to themselves these days.

[Lilac66]

ksi:

Lilac66:

In the past, with extended families staying within the same household and also we have a strong network support from neighbours , taking care of children was not that immense a problem.

I remember as a child , my siblings and I spent quite a fair bit of time at my neighbour's house as our parents were working long hours just to make ends meet.

Government tries to promote neighbourliness but somehow it failed compared to the past because people like to keep to themselves these days.

Yes, it's true. I really miss my childhood days! Somehow our games were not sophiscated but so much more creative.

[corneyAmber]

Lilac66:

ksi:

[quote=\"Lilac66\"]
In the past, with extended families staying within the same household and also we have a strong network support from neighbours , taking care of children was not that immense a problem.

I remember as a child , my siblings and I spent quite a fair bit of time at my neighbour's house as our parents were working long hours just to make ends meet.

Government tries to promote neighbourliness but somehow it failed compared to the past because people like to keep to themselves these days.

Yes, it's true. I really miss my childhood days! Somehow our games were not sophiscated but so much more creative.[/quote]Yalor... :hi5: . Curry Yong Tau Hu....no need anything also can play...just need space!!!

[Dora1]

Lilac66:

BabyRR:

I am slightly surprised to see that so far in this debate regarding TFR, there's been no mention about the domestic helper situation.

I feel that unless one has fantastic family support network ie. grandparents helping out with kids, a reliable domestic helper is immensely helpful especially when you are talking about a dual income family with very young kids. ie< 2years. And I feel the current luck of draw system in selection of domestic helper, as well as the limited supply of good helpers is a big impediment to couples who may otherwise have considered more than 1 or 2 kids.

In the past, with extended families staying within the same household and also we have a strong network support from neighbours , taking care of children was not that immense a problem.

I remember as a child , my siblings and I spent quite a fair bit of time at my neighbour's house as our parents were working long hours just to make ends meet.

But but but... last time majority are SAHMs.... working parents were the minority. But now FTWM is the norm wor.... then which neighbour is available to take care of the kids?? :siam:
I know... there are limited SAHM's who are willing to take care of your kids - its called nanny lor!!! Service must come with :moneyflies:

[nightlone]

i don’t think neighbourliness can be ‘promoted’. it has to come from within. Like being kind, happy… all the intangible things.