Need an advice on office relationship matters

[Lilac66]

mamago:

Lilac66:

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My DH handsome enough like Andy Lau, don't need to kiss another one la. Don''t tell Mamago, she like Andy.

:rotflmao:

Serious no joke but I cannot show him to u all, later I'll be in trouble.

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Wah, keep this from mamago.. a replica she also won't mind..

For this, I must hi-5 with Lilac...[/quote]
Aiyah still can't keep if from you..mychildren , she'll track you down.. :nailbite:

[Lilac66]

Deep down inside his heart, valvestate is a faithful man or he would not have asked for help here. For that I salute your courage in sharing something so personal. Most other men will be revelling in this attention.


Where there's a will, there's a way(cliche as it may sound..). If you're serious in wanting to avold any further relationship with this lady, I'm sure it can be done with all the very sound advice given here.

[verykiasumummy]

Lilac66:

Deep down inside his heart, valvestate is a faithful man or he would not have asked for help here. For that I salute your courage in sharing something so personal. Most other men will be revelling in this attention.


Where there's a will, there's a way(cliche as it may sound..). If you're serious in wanting to avold any further relationship with this lady, I'm sure it can be done with all the very sound advice given here.

yes, valvestate must be faithful if not he would hv embraced the PRC instead of telling us in KSP.. haha...

but pls dun hurt ur wife by keeping from her... she has the right to know and care for u...

[smartmummy]

Lilac66:

Deep down inside his heart, valvestate is a faithful man or he would not have asked for help here. For that I salute your courage in sharing something so personal. Most other men will be revelling in this attention.


Where there's a will, there's a way(cliche as it may sound..). If you're serious in wanting to avold any further relationship with this lady, I'm sure it can be done with all the very sound advice given here.

i agree with lilac66!
don't be ego with ur wife.at home u r not a manager, good friend/spouse/father.
if u addicted to this lady,please away from her,i mean go somewhere with ur family for the coming weekends.don't hesitate to avoid her for lunch. don't mind whatever she thinks.if u avoid her for few times then she would understand that u r not interested on her.
at the same time spice up ur marriage life.talk to ur wife, ask her opinions.

[mamago]

Lilac66:

Deep down inside his heart, valvestate is a faithful man or he would not have asked for help here. For that I salute your courage in sharing something so personal. Most other men will be revelling in this attention.


Where there's a will, there's a way(cliche as it may sound..). If you're serious in wanting to avold any further relationship with this lady, I'm sure it can be done with all the very sound advice given here.

Cher, :salute: , very sensible statement.... (can I call you Cher too?)

[smartmummy]

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[Flowermonaster]

Being unfaithful is not acceptable but which is worst - spiritually or physically? I always believe that if someone 精神出轨, it’s 99.9% goner.

[corneyAmber]

Flowermonaster:

Being unfaithful is not acceptable but which is worst - spiritually or physically? I always believe that if someone 精神出轨, it's 99.9% goner.

Actually it is true that 精神出轨, it already signals a serious problem. How about the case where a guy watches a movie and fantasizes with the movie actress? That is also 精神出轨.....

Perhaps if we layer the 精神 into 2 parts, usually such 精神出轨 is driven by lust, i.e. not really loving the person.... So I think there is still hope. Having said this, men being men, lust can also rule everything!!! That's what a friend shared with me when her now ex-hub was lured away by lust for a younger girl.... *sigh*

[valvestate]

Lilac66:

Deep down inside his heart, valvestate is a faithful man or he would not have asked for help here. For that I salute your courage in sharing something so personal. Most other men will be revelling in this attention.


... If you're serious in wanting to avold any further relationship with this lady, I'm sure it can be done with all the very sound advice given here.

verykiasumummy:

yes, valvestate must be faithful if not he would hv embraced the PRC instead of telling us in KSP.. haha...

Thank you very much Lilac & verykiasumummy! Yes, I had to think 5 times before posting this very personal feelings that I was reluctant since this is still a public domain on the Internet and can easily be searched on Google (I will have the MODS delete this when this is over ).I Though, given the fact that this should be entirely a secret, I decided to do so. I was thinking to perhaps make my post like a 'fiction' just like the other guy did but it will be really obvious... LOL.

All your posts really did help me a lot to somewhat 'control' myself. I cannot quote all the wonderful messages but I really want to thank you guys.

Btw, a very good blessed morning to all the beautiful people of Kiasu community!

[friendship]

you are having fantasy with this mainlander. how old are you now?

teenager?

be far-sighted, think if you are 60-70 yrs old. All sort of sickness, diabetes, heart attack, loss of memory, etc. Who’s going to take care of you? That stupid mainlander?

Your wife will just send you to old folks’ home and let your body rot. No one is going to give you a decent burial. Your children? they will forgive you for hurting their mum?

go and visit the old folks’ home, see yourself in 30-40 years down the road when nobody is taking care of them.

GOOD LUCK.