Need an advice on office relationship matters
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BeContented:
有道理
I told dh (jokingly!) if we ever end up in divorce, I will definitely start shopping for a new husband :evil: So maybe should dump him the kids afterall
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chrismei:
chrismei,
Just to share- friend's sis committed suicide recently cos hb had an affair and insisted on divorce. She left behind 2 sons and was SAHM for 2 years. Hb moved back to his mum's place after requesting for divorce. Before she committed suicide, she left a note that identified the 3rd party,hb's friends who encouraged him to divorce n also requested her hb's uncle to celebrate hb birthday after she gone...she loved him so much n wasted 16 yrs with him just becos of this 3rd party..
Thanks for sharing. Then I share what I c. I went to take some course when I had no kids & was married. There, I met A & B (both she). A sometimes can blew up temper easily, very impatient. I was wondering why she was like that. Later after the course, she called me on information regarding oversea course related to the course we took. I told her some website & asked her to check online. However, she told me her sis told her that the PC can't be used cause scrared got virus. A is ignorant in PC & I told her no such things. I then printed out the stuffs she wanted & mailed to her.
Few years later, B wedded & A & me & some of us who took the course together went. U know what I c??? A was not there but instead two people. But later, I recognised one of them is A's husband (she shown us her wedding photo before) & the other lady beside him, I don't know.
They behaved intimately. OK, I described the intimacy, the lady can picked up the food with chopstick & put into A's husband mouth.
So politely I asked that guy are u A's husband & he said Yes. Then he told me the one beside him is A's sister. I asked where is A then, u know what he did, he dialed the phone & passed it to me.
A talked to me very tirely, she was in hospital, her don't know how many times miscarriage. I was so :mad: , wondering how come the husband like that enjoying the dinner with A's sister & left A in hospital alone. A told me, she had asked her sister to go with the DH.
Then after talking, I passed the phone back to A's husband, couldn't stand it. Some who came to know (same table) walked away to talked among themselves on this matter.
So now, I understand why A has turned to be like that impatient & easily angry. By the way, 3 of them lived in the same house. After that, no more calls from A & I didn't make an attempt to call her either.
Really feel very sorry for her to think that she still trust her DH and sister at that moment.
(Sorri, no time to check grammar mistakes) -
Mychildren:
:yikes: This is too much! The worst thing is the 小三 is your own sister! :slapshead:
chrismei,
Thanks for sharing. Then I share what I c. I went to take some course when I had no kids & was married. There, I met A & B (both she). A sometimes can blew up temper easily, very impatient. I was wondering why she was like that. Later after the course, she called me on information regarding oversea course related to the course we took. I told her some website & asked her to check online. However, she told me her sis told her that the PC can't be used cause scrared got virus. A is ignorant in PC & I told her no such things. I then printed out the stuffs she wanted & mailed to her.
Few years later, B wedded & A & me & some of us who took the course together went. U know what I c??? A was not there but instead two people. But later, I recognised one of them is A's husband (she shown us her wedding photo before) & the other lady beside him, I don't know.
They behaved intimately. OK, I described the intimacy, the lady can picked up the food with chopstick & put into A's husband mouth.
So politely I asked that guy are u A's husband & he said Yes. Then he told me the one beside him is A's sister. I asked where is A then, u know what he did, he dialed the phone & passed it to me.
A talked to me very tirely, she was in hospital, her don't know how many times miscarriage. I was so :mad: , wondering how come the husband like that enjoying the dinner with A's sister & left A in hospital alone. A told me, she had asked her sister to go with the DH.
Then after talking, I passed the phone back to A's husband, couldn't stand it. Some who came to know (same table) walked away to talked among themselves on this matter.
So now, I understand why A has turned to be like that impatient & easily angry. By the way, 3 of them lived in the same house. After that, no more calls from A & I didn't make an attempt to call her either.
Really feel very sorry for her to think that she still trust her DH and sister at that moment.
(Sorri, no time to check grammar mistakes) -
Flowermonaster:
Hei! This story is similar to the taiwan show, the shrewd wife.
:yikes: This is too much! The worst thing is the 小三 is your own sister! :slapshead:Mychildren:
chrismei,
Thanks for sharing. Then I share what I c. I went to take some course when I had no kids & was married. There, I met A & B (both she). A sometimes can blew up temper easily, very impatient. I was wondering why she was like that. Later after the course, she called me on information regarding oversea course related to the course we took. I told her some website & asked her to check online. However, she told me her sis told her that the PC can't be used cause scrared got virus. A is ignorant in PC & I told her no such things. I then printed out the stuffs she wanted & mailed to her.
Few years later, B wedded & A & me & some of us who took the course together went. U know what I c??? A was not there but instead two people. But later, I recognised one of them is A's husband (she shown us her wedding photo before) & the other lady beside him, I don't know.
They behaved intimately. OK, I described the intimacy, the lady can picked up the food with chopstick & put into A's husband mouth.
So politely I asked that guy are u A's husband & he said Yes. Then he told me the one beside him is A's sister. I asked where is A then, u know what he did, he dialed the phone & passed it to me.
A talked to me very tirely, she was in hospital, her don't know how many times miscarriage. I was so :mad: , wondering how come the husband like that enjoying the dinner with A's sister & left A in hospital alone. A told me, she had asked her sister to go with the DH.
Then after talking, I passed the phone back to A's husband, couldn't stand it. Some who came to know (same table) walked away to talked among themselves on this matter.
So now, I understand why A has turned to be like that impatient & easily angry. By the way, 3 of them lived in the same house. After that, no more calls from A & I didn't make an attempt to call her either.
Really feel very sorry for her to think that she still trust her DH and sister at that moment.
(Sorri, no time to check grammar mistakes)
The sis that lives with them stole her hubby. -
Herbie:
Hei! This story is similar to the taiwan show, the shrewd wife.
:yikes: This is too much! The worst thing is the 小三 is your own sister! :slapshead:Flowermonaster:
[quote=\"Mychildren\"]
chrismei,
Thanks for sharing. Then I share what I c. I went to take some course when I had no kids & was married. There, I met A & B (both she). A sometimes can blew up temper easily, very impatient. I was wondering why she was like that. Later after the course, she called me on information regarding oversea course related to the course we took. I told her some website & asked her to check online. However, she told me her sis told her that the PC can't be used cause scrared got virus. A is ignorant in PC & I told her no such things. I then printed out the stuffs she wanted & mailed to her.
Few years later, B wedded & A & me & some of us who took the course together went. U know what I c??? A was not there but instead two people. But later, I recognised one of them is A's husband (she shown us her wedding photo before) & the other lady beside him, I don't know.
They behaved intimately. OK, I described the intimacy, the lady can picked up the food with chopstick & put into A's husband mouth.
So politely I asked that guy are u A's husband & he said Yes. Then he told me the one beside him is A's sister. I asked where is A then, u know what he did, he dialed the phone & passed it to me.
A talked to me very tirely, she was in hospital, her don't know how many times miscarriage. I was so :mad: , wondering how come the husband like that enjoying the dinner with A's sister & left A in hospital alone. A told me, she had asked her sister to go with the DH.
Then after talking, I passed the phone back to A's husband, couldn't stand it. Some who came to know (same table) walked away to talked among themselves on this matter.
So now, I understand why A has turned to be like that impatient & easily angry. By the way, 3 of them lived in the same house. After that, no more calls from A & I didn't make an attempt to call her either.
Really feel very sorry for her to think that she still trust her DH and sister at that moment.
(Sorri, no time to check grammar mistakes)
The sis that lives with them stole her hubby.[/quote]人生如戏，戏如人生！ :roll: -
what is EMA? now, i just standby this thread and refresh when i received notification of new reply lol.
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chrismei:
Do not pity the dead but the living. Poor kids.
Just to share- friend's sis committed suicide recently cos hb had an affair and insisted on divorce. She left behind 2 sons and was SAHM for 2 years. Hb moved back to his mum's place after requesting for divorce. Before she committed suicide, she left a note that identified the 3rd party,hb's friends who encouraged him to divorce n also requested her hb's uncle to celebrate hb birthday after she gone...she loved him so much n wasted 16 yrs with him just becos of this 3rd party..
There is NO POINT looking back unless it is to see how far you have come or to recheck direction. We move forward in life. If she was able to pull herself together and build a new life for herself and her children, I am sure she will win the admiration and respect of her children and regain her self-esteem. If she had wanted to shame the third party, she could have just gone to kick up a ruckus since she knew who that woman was.
I called and scolded the women, and in one case, threatened to go down to the office and track down her parents. She was so scared she hung up on me but I forced her to call me again. I told her to take my husband, I don't want him, but I'm going to make sure that everyone in her office and her family knows about it. I was ready to burn bridges. Two calls. She quit and left.
Wives! Take pride in yourself and your abilities! The world will not, does not, end just because your husband cheat on you! I walk with my head high. We have done nothing wrong, we do not owe anyone an explanation. If you must take revenge, take it out on the credit card, the car, the cheating couple, but never spite yourself and your kids.
Anyway, we are side tracking. Valveestate's saga continues. -
Spiderlily:
Nah, it's all right. Sidetracking is good to also hear some similar stories and learn how to avoid those situation.
Anyway, we are side tracking. Valveestate's saga continues. -
/observation
somehow when EMA ends in divorce, the wife seem to always loogi (be on losing end) when she is awarded custody of the kids.
men seem to handle divorce much better than women - within months they will be dating younger ladies and drive their own cars and go back to their parents home or rent. worse still, they would be shacking up with their lovers. No anecdotal on long term so far.
from reading forum here it seems that EMA is more common among men but I am sure women would stray too. However, since the demographic of people here seem to be majority women and quite a proportion of SAHMs, chances for cheating are more limited…
somehow it’s always China women. Do they know something local women don’t? (why no korean? Japanese? mongolian - getting exotic here)
side joke. No thai EMAs because cannot confirm if man or not (kor-tod)
The office romances and failed attempts make me crack up with laughter
Recommendation. If you have man with EMA. Watch Oldboy starring Park Chan Wook. Follow methods accordingly.
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chrismei:
Just to share- friend's sis committed suicide recently cos hb had an affair and insisted on divorce. She left behind 2 sons and was SAHM for 2 years. Hb moved back to his mum's place after requesting for divorce. Before she committed suicide, she left a note that identified the 3rd party,hb's friends who encouraged him to divorce n also requested her hb's uncle to celebrate hb birthday after she gone...she loved him so much n wasted 16 yrs with him just becos of this 3rd party..Spiderlily:
Actually I do feel sad for all involved with the children the most. Not every one are strong enough to take on the fight...
Do not pity the dead but the living. Poor kids.Spiderlily:
I called and scolded the women, and in one case, threatened to go down to the office and track down her parents. She was so scared she hung up on me but I forced her to call me again. I told her to take my husband, I don't want him, but I'm going to make sure that everyone in her office and her family knows about it. I was ready to burn bridges. Two calls. She quit and left.
:udawoman:Spiderlily:
Yes , the irony is that often the wife while being the victim often lands up feeling guilty.
Wives! Take pride in yourself and your abilities! The world will not, does not, end just because your husband cheat on you! I walk with my head high. We have done nothing wrong, we do not owe anyone an explanation. If you must take revenge, take it out on the credit card, the car, the cheating couple, but never spite yourself and your kids.
Keep up the spirit. :hugs:
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