Need an advice on office relationship matters

[smartmummy]

hahaha....not that difficult.its under my \"view ur posts\".its my pleasure concern2!.thanks.

concern2:

smartmummy:

Just wanted to share the following threads,may be useful for some members here.

EMA - Extramartial Affairs
http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?f=36&t=4725&start=360

How do u maintain ur relationship with ur spouse,
http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?f=36&t=3380&start=230

I heard we have two types of IQ.
a)Intelligence IQ
b)Imotional IQ
Men always(most of the times) use \"a\"
Women always(most of the times) use \"b\"
When we are fighting to listen between \"a\" and \"b\" we get stress.
\"a\" says its wrong, don't do, \"b\" says its ok just do.We have to follow \"a\" and make decision, is good for long term.I attended a motivational talk for parents.I learnt the above theory.

whenever I ask peoples' opinions to change my habbit, I welcome to most harsh comments so that I can change my attitude.

Smartmummy! Thanks for dusting the cobwebs off those old threads!

[Blessedwife]

Hi Valvestate,


Have been reading your "love story" and I am thankful to god that you are not my hubby !!

Really feel like slapping you in the face to wake u up.

How I wish I knew your wife and I can tell her about it.

You should feel shameful of yourself instead of coming here to brag about a young pretty girl has fallen for you ?

You should look up to one of the daddy here (3boys) who is always so faithful and loving to his wife.

[Strparent]

Blessedwife:

Hi Valvestate,


Have been reading your \"love story\" and I am thankful to god that you are not my hubby !!

Really feel like slapping you in the face to wake u up.

How I wish I knew your wife and I can tell her about it.

You should feel shameful of yourself instead of coming here to brag about a young pretty girl has fallen for you ?

You should look up to one of the daddy here (3boys) who is always so faithful and loving to his wife.

LOL :rotflmao:

have not read the whole thread, but i think valvestate is just seeking attention in this forum......... or approval ?!!!

[Mawar]

You know what happens when you poo & pee & play in your office pool.

[3Boys]

Blessedwife:

You should look up to one of the daddy here (3boys) who is always so faithful and loving to his wife.

Errr.....yes.....but......

quite pantang for people to say such things hor....

I only make a strong statement because I know how weak we humans are, we can only plead with God that we are not led into temptation.

[Blessedwife]

3Boys:

Blessedwife:

You should look up to one of the daddy here (3boys) who is always so faithful and loving to his wife.

Errr.....yes.....but......

quite pantang for people to say such things hor....

I only make a strong statement because I know how weak we humans are, we can only plead with God that we are not led into temptation.

Oops *touch wood*
Choi choi choi

Sorry hor didn't know u will pantang...
But almost everyone if not all knows that you are the best hubby in here sI I just thought of u when I want to quote an example

:imsorry:

[3Boys]

Blessedwife, no apology necessary. There are probably many better husbands out there, it’s just that I am more open and to some it will come across as bragging. I don’t take my marriage for granted because I know how easy it is for things to so sour.


Cheers.

[mdmlow]

Stay faithful

[phtthp]

Blessedwife:

Hi Valvestate,


Have been reading your \"love story\" and I am thankful to god that you are not my hubby !!

Really feel like slapping you in the face to wake u up.

How I wish I knew your wife and I can tell her about it.

You should feel shameful of yourself instead of coming here to brag about a young pretty girl has fallen for you ?

valvestate can be a script writer for a TV drama or an author of romantic novel(s).
his topic of Interest:-
did you notice that his stunt of writing is biased / leaning towards or he sems to be determined to press on - seeking ways & means to gain approval on \"Extra martial affair\" (EMA) ?

remind me of some angmo romantic novelist.

EMA is immoral -
teaching young teenagers bad, unhealthy things in life, about marriage(s) / relationship. IT destroy a happy family. It destroys a happy marriage.
It is teaching our kids UNFaithfulness towards our spouse - whom we look deep lovingly into his / her eyes on wedding day (once a life time), and promise \"I do\" in front of so many wedding guests witnesses.

Groom: I,____, take thee,_____, to be my lawful wedded Wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part , according to God's holy ordinance; and thereto I plight thee my troth.

Bride: I,_____, take thee,_____, to be my lawful wedded Husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love, cherish, and to obey, till death us do part, according to God's holy ordinance; and thereto I give thee my troth.

The building block of any society is a happy, intact cohesive, harmonious family. Not allowing any third party any chance to step in, wreck & destroy a loving family unit (which take so much hard effort to build up).

valvestate may come here under disguise, seek attention / approval / consultation ....
ie. to source for help / hints / ideas on -
providing him some inspiration on How to continue his next story line twist & plot, from KSP parents.
If he/she can find someone from this forum to approve / support what he's doing, is like a stepping stone towards helping him develop or opening up another source of new idea for his script / novel.

Thus, we see his/her determination & persistance in constantly driving this thread promoting, keep harping on topic EMA ... in my opinion should stop, since many school going teenage children are also reading this thread. Not good, not healthy for them to continue reading. It is not funny to keep promoting EMA ... esp. when SG had turned into a notorious sex scandal nation this year in newspapers.

as KSP parents, do you want your children to grow up in the next era / generation - where your children or your kids' spouse engaged in immoral EMA ?

valvestate,
at this point may i ask:-
how many children do you have ?
do you want to see your own kids in future and their future spouse(s) enaged in any sort of immoral EMA ? As a father or a mother, what is your stand ?

if You do not -
then it is high time for you to show to your own kids -
what is an example of a good father, or a good mother ?

don't forget -
monkeys see, monkeys copycat rightaway!
your children will become your immediate testimony ... future mirror image one fine day ! They bear witnesses to your current behavior.
do you ask for blessings or curses - upon your own children ?

[Dreamaurora]

3Boys:

Blessedwife, no apology necessary. There are probably many better husbands out there, it's just that I am more open and to some it will come across as bragging. I don't take my marriage for granted because I know how easy it is for things to so sour.


Cheers.

Yes, the temptations are always there, especially if our professions have high number of attractive females. I notice now sometimes even some mundane comment from my wife can set me off and vice versa. I think the change in the dynamics of relationship is something many married couples do not expect, especially those who did not go for marriage prep course before. I have to be honest I have been tempted many many times before, but my conscience and principle reined me in (and also the thought of fire and brimstone in hell).