Recommendation of changes to reduce Stress for PSLE

[janet88]

Champion dear,

You are very 'hands-on' even though you are a FTWM :salute:
Parents today cannot afford to be like before, especially kancheong mummies. We just have to give our kids moral support...and tell ourselves we have done what we can at the end of it.

[peapot]

Hearing all these makes me feel nervous. Being a FTWM means spending less time on yrself and more time on our kids. The only time I have for her is sat and sun. Before I can decide whether to bring my kid out over the weekend is actually decided by the school. First, they give a lot of homework. If not there may be a test on Monday. Then I remember there some topics which we need to revisit. If all is clear, then we can go out and enjoy ourselves.


What about people who has to work 5 and a half week? That means sat is almost gone by the time u reach home. So with such limited time we still need to teach those topics not covered by school. Why test the kids when they are only exposed to such question during exams. It becomes the parents job to find the time and help for the kid. If the parents don’t know how to teach then need to turn to tuition. So weekend becomes tuition time. At the end of the day, it’s the school that decide how I should my weekend with my kid.

[Nebbermind]

That’s why we must push for workday to end by 6pm!

[janet88]

When my son was in kindy, Sundays meant outings.

After he went to P1, it was still possible to go out on Sundays if there were no CA/SA. But those outings were meant to give him time to relax.
As he moved up, those outings were replaced by revision, either Math or Science since hubby was free. It was sickening to have our time dictated by homework or exams. Weekends are so precious and yet the time spent is not bonding over ice cream or outing but over books.

We tried to coach him as much as possible…hence I do pity those kids whose parents are unable to coach them. It can be so frustrating when we parents want so much to fill in the gaps but could not.

[Brenda10]

janet_lee88:

When my son was in kindy, Sundays meant outings.

After he went to P1, it was still possible to go out on Sundays if there were no CA/SA. But those outings were meant to give him time to relax.
As he moved up, those outings were replaced by revision, either Math or Science since hubby was free. It was sickening to have our time dictated by homework or exams. Weekends are so precious and yet the time spent is not bonding over ice cream or outing but over books.

We tried to coach him as much as possible...hence I do pity those kids whose parents are unable to coach them. It can be so frustrating when we parents want so much to fill in the gaps but could not.

Hi Janet

Think the stress level is more on primary school. When come to Sec 1 it seems that we have more free time and unlike in primary school that lot of past year papers have to be practice in order to get a reasonable mark.

FYI, like the CL compo. and email for Secondary One exam is two hours vs the P5/P6 50 munities.

[janet88]

Ha Brenda,

Glad to see your post !
You are the perfect parent to seek advice.

I thought there are 8-9 subjects to manage at sec level...how is it possible to have more free time? :?
Will need to ask you for advice soon.

[DKWhy]

One can choose to be kancheong or even kiasu or whatever.


If one has chosen to be so, then perhaps he/she should take up all the stress and pressure instead of keep harping and harping and harping non-stop.

This forum seems like lacking balance views from parents who are more ‘relaxed’ and more level-headed and the KC and KS ones are much more vocal. Therefore, not-so-KC and KS parents have to note that this forum is not a balanced one when you read about how difficult and how tough the whatsoever and whatsoever is. It is NOT THE TRUTH (unless you are going after results for super sec schools then maybe you need to be KC and KS to that extent else please, there is really plenty of time to smell roses instead of burying your nose in schoolwork).

I wonder why no parents whose kids enjoy schooling participate more in this forum to give this forum a more balanced view instead of making it so lop-sided. It’s just a PSLE and why it sounds like it’s a major war?

[Nebbermind]

Coz there are just too few such parents…and they wonn’t even bother to preach coz no one will listen

[DKWhy]

First World Problems are not problems.


http://www.businessinsider.com/ddbs-firstworldproblems-haiti-water-ad-2012-10#ooid=BzbW4zNjoikHTvAgiyizvurN86sOUkjO

[mamago]

DKWhy:

One can choose to be kancheong or even kiasu or whatever.


If one has chosen to be so, then perhaps he/she should take up all the stress and pressure instead of keep harping and harping and harping non-stop.

This forum seems like lacking balance views from parents who are more ‘relaxed’ and more level-headed and the KC and KS ones are much more vocal. Therefore, not-so-KC and KS parents have to note that this forum is not a balanced one when you read about how difficult and how tough the whatsoever and whatsoever is. It is NOT THE TRUTH (unless you are going after results for super sec schools then maybe you need to be KC and KS to that extent else please, there is really plenty of time to smell roses instead of burying your nose in schoolwork).

I wonder why no parents whose kids enjoy schooling participate more in this forum to give this forum a more balanced view instead of making it so lop-sided. It’s just a PSLE and why it sounds like it’s a major war?

:goodpost:

I am one of the non KC/KS one; but like Nebbernind said, the typical non KC/KS ones just cannot be bother to engage in these topics.