Is your workplace pro-family?

[SarChar]

I have a love-hate relationship with my boss. He had given me a lot of opportunities at work. But he sure made me work hard! Today I no longer report to him but we still share a bond. He always never fail to remind me \"why did you leave me?\".........ya why....BECAUSE YOU MADE ME WORK LIKE A COW\" :rotflmao:


Actually I used to manage a team of 7 people in my current local office. At any time, only 2 persons can be out of office. I always get a heart attack when I get a SMS in the morning. It usually means someone need to take urgent leave or will be on 2 days MC. I also had to give priority to my team taking off days before I would plan mine.

Imagine once I heard Colleague A said she would have 40 days leave next yr. She meant \"20 days leave + MC 14 days + 6 days Child Leave\" to me. Really got such people okie :yikes:

As a woman, a mother and then their manager, I would not do to them what my boss did to me. To some people, a job is a job and just a job. I can understand and accept that. But for me, it is a career. :oops:

It is definitely not a glam glam job to manage people. After more than 10 yrs, I requested a transfer to another department. Today i report only to HQ and has no more reporting staff. I must say I am much happier. :evil:

[Imami]

jedamum:

My immediate boss and most colleagues were very kind throughout my two pregnancies. On average, I report late for 1-1.5hours and immediate boss just help me endorsed when computer dept issued late scan in reports weekly. I reciprocate by giving back the hours via shorter lunches and over time. Colleagues no complaints as it is better that I late and still do my share than I quit and they need to take over my load

So when my fellow colleague got pregnant,I extended my help willingly as I had received the same kind of support from others. But this is not workplace family friendly.it only appliesto our team as different managers handle their team differently. I was so lucky!

Yes definitely. From what I see, it is always from some individuals. My ex-boss was one such person. He is married but no kid. So there are gaps of understandings when it comes to childcare etc. He was clueless but he always show understanding (even when he acTually didnt understand. Eg he didn't know that hfmd can mean 2 weeks mc and therefore, a working mom may have to take two weeks off work). But he always gave me and our team all the privileges he could extend wihtin his authority.

Because of how he had led by example, I followed his way of doing things. I have to say I am \"not that kind\" as compared to him. Me Being a new manager, he would always tell me to love my subordinates as if they are my siblings. He said he could sit in his place and be freed to do strategy work because he had me manning the operations. So he must treat me well and in turn, I should treat my team well because they \"cheong sua cheong hai\" with me. So I should also treat them well.

Ah..... Great wisdom and kindness.

[SarChar]

Nebbermind:

Your boss is the REAL boss har...like the business owner?


Think most of our bosses still a company employee

No he is not the big boss. He is ABC expat.

He was a boss I could scream at for 10 min and then slam his door as I walked out. He did the same many times to me. Next day we always pretended like nothing had happened.

When we argued, the accounts department next door (the ladies) told me they could feel their walls tremble!

How can every yr growth be 25% in dollars? Want my team to die working for the company huh? Why our pay only 5% increment this year? Why did you cut my budget again? Why are we organising the Asia meeting again? Ask China team to do it! etc......a lot of \"important\" issues to negotiate and see who gives in first

I also helped him with his BGR problems HAHA.

Caution : Do not try it on your boss! :rotflmao:

[Joule]

SarChar:

Imagine once I heard Colleague A said she would have 40 days leave next yr. She meant \"20 days leave + MC 14 days + 6 days Child Leave\" to me. Really got such people okie :yikes:

yes, horrible, isn't it

Really wonder which doctor they go to. Is it they buy a season pass or MC booklet beforehand....

[Funz]

Joule:

SarChar:

Imagine once I heard Colleague A said she would have 40 days leave next yr. She meant \"20 days leave + MC 14 days + 6 days Child Leave\" to me. Really got such people okie :yikes:

yes, horrible, isn't it

Really wonder which doctor they go to. Is it they buy a season pass or MC booklet beforehand....

And they play punk. Leave not approved, on the day that they applied for that leave, they will say they not well, got MC.

[SarChar]

Funz:

Joule:

[quote=\"SarChar\"]

And they play punk. Leave not approved, on the day that they applied for that leave, they will say they not well, got MC.

[/quote]Ya lor, she is exactly like that....takes urgent leave but turned up with MC the next day. If she wants to take MC tomorrow, you can hear her talk about feeling sick during lunch today!

Once this Colleague A even told another colleague \"If you are really sick, go to doctor A. But you know if just a little sick, got to doctor B. He is cheaper and can get 2 days MC.\" :mad:

Even after her new manager (she used to report to me) signs her leave form, she always forget to send the form up to HR. If HR lady doesnt take note, she would get a free OFF day.

We have a new colleague recently and local boss said to her \" We dont need you to break Colleague A's MC records ! \"

Colleague A's acted blur lor

[jedamum]

they MC their business.

but they must finish their own share of work.
so my MC my business if i can finish my own share of work. :evil:

[straffan23]

Nebbermind:

Your boss is the REAL boss har...like the business owner?


Think most of our bosses still a company employee

Mine was the HOD. He thinks I am his walking encyclopedia, dictionary, thesaurus, recepticle for all sorts of information and garbage alike. So I was always involved in discussions, meetings, etc. His wife quitted after having a kid because of workplace related stress - so they don't want me to follow her footsteps. :rotflmao:

And yes, I had colleagues too, that was branded the MC queen, MC King, and there were many Challengers.... And then, some play the pregnancy card and rise through the ranks of the MC Queens. So my boss wanted to make it clear that he will tolerate me being late or leaving early if I have to - so I don't have to play the MC card. But Administration and HR cried foul because MC must be full day, punctuality, etc. My ex-boss challenged them, \"So, you would rather she utilise all her 30 days of MC and 60 days of Hospitalisation leave, is it????\" :yikes:

He is also the sort of guy that would reschedule a meeting with his boss because \"there is a PTC at school\" So when I have to take time off for my children - MC, PTC, Nursery, Fever, whatever... he will roll his eyes .... but insists that \"of course you must go!!\" :siam:

Alas... those were the better days. Since changed job and current HOD is a DINK! I report to HOD but there is this Nazi Manager. Of course, nobody is supposed to know or ask what kind of leave she is taking (not recorded in our system!); and the other staff that has a kid has a flexi-hour hubby. So, only fellow forumers here would understand my situation...

[Imami]

jedamum:

they MC their business.

but they must finish their own share of work.
so my MC my business if i can finish my own share of work. :evil:

This is the ideal way but no lor, it is not happening at my end now.... those who have \"season pass\" just :siam: . Those who are around will spread the job lor. Hence I always say, this method is just going to promote more mc rate.

[straffan23]

My theory is this.

More flexibility = less mc.
Because mc is otherwise easy to obtain and afterall, an entitlement.