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    In-law problems?

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      fifiyeo
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      janet_lee88:
      Hi fifiyeo, I read your earlier posts about your in-laws who love to compare. Don't patch up relationship...PSLE results out soon. Don't bother with them lah. Oh yes, mine here also scared shit of my eldest SIL.


      Oh yah Janet, you know even offer to give big $$ to go vacation. Trying to look like they treat us very well hor! Well, $$ can't buy alot of things in life. Maybe if $$ can buy back time, they can rewrite history and change the outcome.

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        janet88
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        hey fifi,

        don’t bother lah…with results out in 2 weeks time, i am more worried how my son did than THEM…just couldn’t be bothered with them. i have more important things to do…for eg having fun and enjoying time with kids.

        to them, nothing is important, other than money. they don’t give a damn about their health. 2 of them sharing one economy rice $3 just to skimp and save to buy cigarettes and stout…hubby said they are skin and bones.
        they seem to think they are going anyday, so puff and smoke without care.

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          fifiyeo
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          Janet, I don’t think your PIL will change their habits. Stay out of the way will be the best.


          Me here also the same. We don’t need their $$ to go for vacation. Must be trying to get close so can try and put their weight down on us when results are out in 2 weeks. Every time they are nice (this time super nice) means up to no good!

          Can’t wait for them to taste their own medicine when precious DIL move in with them soon. Haha! That one is a bossy bloodsucker, gold digger … but they happy so good for them lor! Now Bossy DIL vs Bossy MIL. None of my business.

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            janet88
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            fifiyeo:
            Janet, I don't think your PIL will change their habits. Stay out of the way will be the best.
            they will not change their mindset...if they get sick, problems will arise.
            puffing like a chimney at health expense, really no brain...the other one breathing in 2nd hand smoke, as good as smoking.

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              nightlone
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              verykiasumummy:
              Sunflower03:

              [quote=\"nightlone]

              i doubt they don't understand. i think they just DON'T CARE. You are not her blood what. you're no one to her what. just her son's 'nu ren', that's all. why must she listen to you?


              Not her blood really reminded me of my mil. At times, when I'm not well, I will ask her what to eat or boil to drink, she will say not sure.

              Then few days later, my sil got the same illness, mil knows what to cook or boil for her. See different standard. Heart-ache..

              Frankly speaking, I treated my mil better than my late mother. Because she helps to look after my kids. I tried my best to take over the chores whenever I'm at in law house. But this is the treatment I get. I don't even think of asking her to cook or boil for me. I just ask for any other alternative beside seeing western doctor.

              ask her dear daughter to look after her when she's old... lets see if she would...

              being dil, we cannot defy our mil, if we do, we r labelled as bad, evil, unfilial!
              when their own dd defy them, they are just being wild, not sensible enough...

              afterall, i sometimes wonder why i need to be so upset about having such pil... they should be insignificant in my life...[/quote][/quote][/quote][/quote][/quote]

              i already stopped caring long time ago. Whatever I do, it's never right/won't make everyone happy, so i decided that i will make MYSELF happy. (At least ONE person is happy right?) As long as it doesn't affect me or my baby, then I don't care. Life is too short to care about this kind of wu liao things.

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                nightlone
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                verykiasumummy:
                just last night, my mil very vaguely mentioned (thinking that i couldnt hear her), about the diamond ring that my dh bought me donkey yrs ago when he proposed to me... and if u r guessing, yes money matters again!!


                part of the toilet wall is stained and old and now spoiled because of the leaking pipe.... so my mil was blah blah blah talking about it and purposely mention my diamond ring, asking me to pay for it... oh pls, will u pawn ur proposal ring just because of that stupid damn wall in the toilet?? its not like its gonna collapsed!!

                and why of all things, mention my diamond ring??
                u tell her... diamond after leave the shop bu zhi qian one.... pawn also no money so might as well keep lol

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                  verykiasumummy
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                  nightlone:
                  verykiasumummy:

                  [quote=\"Sunflower03\"][quote=\"nightlone]

                  i doubt they don't understand. i think they just DON'T CARE. You are not her blood what. you're no one to her what. just her son's 'nu ren', that's all. why must she listen to you?


                  Not her blood really reminded me of my mil. At times, when I'm not well, I will ask her what to eat or boil to drink, she will say not sure.

                  Then few days later, my sil got the same illness, mil knows what to cook or boil for her. See different standard. Heart-ache..

                  Frankly speaking, I treated my mil better than my late mother. Because she helps to look after my kids. I tried my best to take over the chores whenever I'm at in law house. But this is the treatment I get. I don't even think of asking her to cook or boil for me. I just ask for any other alternative beside seeing western doctor.

                  ask her dear daughter to look after her when she's old... lets see if she would...

                  being dil, we cannot defy our mil, if we do, we r labelled as bad, evil, unfilial!
                  when their own dd defy them, they are just being wild, not sensible enough...

                  afterall, i sometimes wonder why i need to be so upset about having such pil... they should be insignificant in my life...[/quote][/quote][/quote][/quote][/quote]

                  i already stopped caring long time ago. Whatever I do, it's never right/won't make everyone happy, so i decided that i will make MYSELF happy. (At least ONE person is happy right?) As long as it doesn't affect me or my baby, then I don't care. Life is too short to care about this kind of wu liao things.[/quote][/quote][/quote][/quote]

                  u also have my kind of in-laws?? whatever i do also wrong??

                  if wanna talk about the history... from the time both side parents meet, already accumulate problems till now... history of the in-laws...

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                    verykiasumummy
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                    nightlone:
                    verykiasumummy:

                    just last night, my mil very vaguely mentioned (thinking that i couldnt hear her), about the diamond ring that my dh bought me donkey yrs ago when he proposed to me... and if u r guessing, yes money matters again!!


                    part of the toilet wall is stained and old and now spoiled because of the leaking pipe.... so my mil was blah blah blah talking about it and purposely mention my diamond ring, asking me to pay for it... oh pls, will u pawn ur proposal ring just because of that stupid damn wall in the toilet?? its not like its gonna collapsed!!

                    and why of all things, mention my diamond ring??

                    u tell her... diamond after leave the shop bu zhi qian one.... pawn also no money so might as well keep lol

                    if i tell her that, she will say, then last time why buy it if it is not worth much?? waste money... next time ask my grandson not to buy ok...

                    :stupid: :stupid: :stupid:

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                      janet88
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                      Diamonds are supposed to be forever…this is why they cannot have resale value. They are girl’s best friend. Hubby’s sister married angmoh and gone Liao…but will fly back to remind her parents not to leave out her share of the flat.

                      Get her to look after them…fly kite man.

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                        verykiasumummy
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                        janet_lee88:
                        Diamonds are supposed to be forever...this is why they cannot have resale value. They are girl's best friend. Hubby's sister married angmoh and gone Liao...but will fly back to remind her parents not to leave out her share of the flat.

                        Get her to look after them...fly kite man.
                        very happy now?? i will be if i were u...

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