2013 Sec 1 Discussions

[Peony]

janet_lee88:

Regarding academic work, his school teachers seem to be teaching well... hope this continues into rest of his secondary school life. Getting homework done alone is insufficient...he has to revise. So, he will get written work done first and then continue with revision after dinner and bath. It's a new ball game at secondary level...very very different. He has to learn to ask teachers if he doesn't understand.

Same in my case - much better teaching and learning... no tuition for now and my wallet feels happier!!

[kwcllf]

janet_lee88:

kwcllf:

After my DS finished his game session in school on Tuesday, and when his group make their way home, they saw a couple in the same school uniforms smoking near their school.


One of them told the rest sensibly - \"don't look at them!\" - and walked past them quickly.

My son was upset as there were some Malay boys who called him names...they asked him to say vulgar words. I taught him not to make enemies...if they speak vulgar words, don't join in but be gracious.
Whichever school it is, there are going to be some form of bullying...he has to learn to handle the situation.

Regarding academic work, his school teachers seem to be teaching well... hope this continues into rest of his secondary school life. Getting homework done alone is insufficient...he has to revise. So, he will get written work done first and then continue with revision after dinner and bath. It's a new ball game at secondary level...very very different. He has to learn to ask teachers if he doesn't understand.

My DS stayed back in school yesterday to help with some project to do up their classroom with several of his classmates. He came back and told us that some of his female classmates used the F word when they had some disagreement. He said in secondary school, \"it is like this one, mah!\".

We told him it is not true and it doesn't mean that if someone uses the F word, he should follow.

[fifiyeo]

slmkhoo:

kwcllf:

[quote=\"fifiyeo\"]Yes, I've seen that happening outside some sec schools when I was shopping for DS's future school last year.


Heard from my boy his classmate kena bullied by some bigger boys in school yesterday. Wonder how can schools control the situation once the pupil leaves the school grounds.

Best is to report to the school and hope this will stop the bullying.

What sort of bullying? If there is no physical harm and it's a one-off, I would not advise reporting immediately. Let the boys find ways to handle such situations themselves by either speaking firmly to the bullies, defending themselves, avoiding or whatever.[/quote]
Heard some bigger boys pushed the sec 1 boy. But another sec 1 boy (quite big size) came along and scolded them, and they left.

[janet88]

I taught my son NOT to ignore the Malay boys…some are good ones…of course there are always black sheep. Befriend them but no need to stoop to their level of saying vulgar words. Be humble too.


I monitor his work quietly. But I must say the quality of teaching now is much better…really hope this goes on till Sec 4.

[mummy so kiasu]

janet_lee88:

I taught my son NOT to ignore the Malay boys...some are good ones...of course there are always black sheep. Befriend them but no need to stoop to their level of saying vulgar words. Be humble too.


I monitor his work quietly. But I must say the quality of teaching now is much better...really hope this goes on till Sec 4.

We are not able to guide them with their school work anymore. They have to learn to be more responsible & revise their work regularly rather than last minute. Since the teachers are doing a great job, just keep an eye on the friends they make. Ensure they do not mix with the bad ones or being bully by them.

[mummy so kiasu]

janet_lee88:

I taught my son NOT to ignore the Malay boys...some are good ones...of course there are always black sheep. Befriend them but no need to stoop to their level of saying vulgar words. Be humble too.


I monitor his work quietly. But I must say the quality of teaching now is much better...really hope this goes on till Sec 4.

We are not able to guide them with their school work anymore. They have to learn to be more responsible & revise their work regularly rather than last minute. Since the teachers are doing a great job, just keep an eye on the friends they make. Ensure they do not mix with the bad ones or being bully by them.

[janet88]

mummy so kiasu:

janet_lee88:

I monitor his work quietly. But I must say the quality of teaching now is much better...really hope this goes on till Sec 4.

We are not able to guide them with their school work anymore. They have to learn to be more responsible & revise their work regularly rather than last minute. Since the teachers are doing a great job, just keep an eye on the friends they make. Ensure they do not mix with the bad ones or being bully by them.

:hi5:
Now have to spend more time listening to him and what goes on in school.
But I am able to dedicate more time to my younger one.

[fifiyeo]

I have actually read part of DS's Sci, Literature textbooks and went through some stuff with him over the weekend. Somehow, myabe my DS is still very immature, he still requires mommy to study with him.


I remembered my mom had to stay with me until Sec 2. She would challenge me to see who memorises the history passage 1st etc. :celebrate:

[beanbear]

DS is bringing home his friends to do their school project. I told DS that I prefer to have him bring his friends to our home as I can arrange to be at home to guide them and monitor them while they use the internet. At first DS’ friends wanted to go to their home instead but there are no adult supervision so I said "no". This way I get to see what kind of friends DS has.

[kwcllf]

fifiyeo:

I have actually read part of DS's Sci, Literature textbooks and went through some stuff with him over the weekend. Somehow, myabe my DS is still very immature, he still requires mommy to study with him.


I remembered my mom had to stay with me until Sec 2. She would challenge me to see who memorises the history passage 1st etc. :celebrate:

Hi fifiyeo,

I think it is OK if your DS wants you around. Having and nurturing a strong bond is important in our DC's education journey, even though we may not be able to cope with their school work.

You will be more worried if he DON'T WANT you around. :yikes: