Club SAHM
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ammonite thanks for the advice. yes must really take care of myself better. bb just recovered from fever and flu. i got it from her and now she starts sniffling again. btw she got the fever from me too…sigh.
just tired and wish i can sleep at 8hrs straight. it will help if bb is not so clingy.
buds i am not in woodlands …thanks for the offer. really sweet of you. would love to meet dragon boy… i am minimising housework already. no dinner only lunch for boy now. but still cannot tahan just now and change the bedsheet and vacuum the house. haiz… -
janet_lee88:
:hugs: Hope it's not so serious.TheAnswer:
Can SAHM have annual leave from DH too? Like say 15 days of no work?
Dream on.
To make a long story short, I am having cold war with that idiotic husband.
I wanted so much to walk out to let him manage everything at home.
Cold wars with my DH don't work. He doesn't even realize I'm angry or is unaffected by it.
When I'm angry with him, I refuse to see / visit MIL ( no mood to paste on a smile ) and don't cook his favourite food. He's still unaffected.
But I'm happier cos I do whatever I like! -
Not serious…just need to teach him a lesson.
Won’t let him go so easily…or else he won’t learn.
Mum asked me not to go back or she would have to see his black face…told her he won’t be able to last till Sunday. In fact, he waved white flag this morning but I am still fuming. -
KSmom8:
Hi buds, lovvvve your GP.
I usually try to self medicate when I'm down with flu, no time to see doc, but bring the kids to visit doc once they are ill. DH always goes when he has the slightest symptom of flu. Always get scolded by doc whenever he learns that I've been ill for x days / week, when I finally visit doc.
I will self medicated too if I am sick. No time to wait in the clinic, and worst, need to bring kids along. I have not visit any doc for 4 yrs already.
Btw, my DH also placed his work above me and the kids. :rotflmao:
I remember when I am in the delivery room, he will stay with me until I delivered, and then, off he go back to his office. He will come back again at 7pm after he finished work. In the morning, he will visit me before he go to office and visit me after he finished work. I always disturbed him that work is more important than me n his kids. When I am pregnant with #2, I have to go for my monthly checkup myself. He did not even accompany me. Then when I delivered #2, same thing happened again. :rotflmao: -
What is it with these men? Why are we wives secondary to work?
So after getting married, work is utmost important?
I don’t visit doctor bcos it is painful to wait, besides if it is not serious, no point wasting money and time. My GP knows if I have to see him, it means my medication at home isn’t working.
My idiotic husband wants company when he visits his eye doctor for review at SNEC. I visited gynae for Pap smear myself. No need him to accompany. I also see psychiatrist alone…depression for anxiety prob. -
janet_lee88:
At least u r still 2nd place.I am the worst :sad: ,i am the 4th or 5th after his:What is it with these men? Why are we wives secondary to work?
So after getting married, work is utmost important?
I don't visit doctor bcos it is painful to wait, besides if it is not serious, no point wasting money and time. My GP knows if I have to see him, it means my medication at home isn't working.
My idiotic husband wants company when he visits his eye doctor for review at SNEC. I visited gynae for Pap smear myself. No need him to accompany. I also see psychiatrist alone...depression for anxiety prob.
1) work
2) children
3) parents
4) probably me??(not sure)
Whenever my DH makes me very angry,i will on \"strike\" for few days/weeks.Declare official off-days.No cooking,no nanny/maid service.Go shopping n buy something i like.Afterall, i deserve it! -
vinegar:
At least you can go on \"strike\". I cannot even do it.... Cos I am staying with my PIL. :roll:
At least u r still 2nd place.I am the worst :sad: ,i am the 4th or 5th after his:janet_lee88:
What is it with these men? Why are we wives secondary to work?
So after getting married, work is utmost important?
I don't visit doctor bcos it is painful to wait, besides if it is not serious, no point wasting money and time. My GP knows if I have to see him, it means my medication at home isn't working.
My idiotic husband wants company when he visits his eye doctor for review at SNEC. I visited gynae for Pap smear myself. No need him to accompany. I also see psychiatrist alone...depression for anxiety prob.
1) work
2) children
3) parents
4) probably me??(not sure)
Whenever my DH makes me very angry,i will on \"strike\" for few days/weeks.Declare official off-days.No cooking,no nanny/maid service.Go shopping n buy something i like.Afterall, i deserve it!
No food, he will ask MIL to buy for him. Anyway, weekdays, he do not join me and the kids for dinner, he will eat with his family, (PIL n SIL), so this do not affect him.
No clean clothes? No worries, he will ask MIL to wash for him..
So even if I go on \"strike\", he will not be the one that is affected. The ppl that are affected are my kids. And MIL is willing do all these for her precious kids. There's the reason why SIL do not do any housework even at the age of 46.
The only way that will affect him is ask him to 'sleep' on PIL's bed
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vinegar:
I was never the 1st to start with:
At least u r still 2nd place.I am the worst :sad: ,i am the 4th or 5th after his:janet_lee88:
What is it with these men? Why are we wives secondary to work?
So after getting married, work is utmost important?
I don't visit doctor bcos it is painful to wait, besides if it is not serious, no point wasting money and time. My GP knows if I have to see him, it means my medication at home isn't working.
My idiotic husband wants company when he visits his eye doctor for review at SNEC. I visited gynae for Pap smear myself. No need him to accompany. I also see psychiatrist alone...depression for anxiety prob.
1) work
2) children
3) parents
4) probably me??(not sure)
Whenever my DH makes me very angry,i will on \"strike\" for few days/weeks.Declare official off-days.No cooking,no nanny/maid service.Go shopping n buy something i like.Afterall, i deserve it!
1st: work
2nd: parents and elder sister (DH loves his sister. He loudly declared that to me when we were dating. Up till now, we still go over to his sister's place once a week to have dinner. Usually after dinner either we will play with our nephews or he will run errands or repair stuff for his dearest sister.)
3rd: maybe me/sometimes his hobbies (not obsessed about them, at least not yet) -
so going on strike will NOT work…because those sickening husbands know 1) kids will ‘save’ them because we still have to cook for kids to eat 2) for luckier ones, they have their mummy dearest to wash and cook for them if wife goes on strike.
i refuse to talk to him…Day 2 of cold war. He tried to get daughter to help him. Usually when I wash his towel, I will put a clean one on the hook…but I didn’t. -
KSmom8:
I can never win a cold war so I won't even start one. It only upsets me too much and make my mood so unpleasant whenever dh ignores me. Anyway I always think it's NOT my fault. I told him I cannot tolerate this behaviour :frustrated: And then he expects me to go pacify him first, makes me even more :frustrated:
:hugs: Hope it's not so serious.janet_lee88:
Dream on.
To make a long story short, I am having cold war with that idiotic husband.
I wanted so much to walk out to let him manage everything at home.
Cold wars with my DH don't work. He doesn't even realize I'm angry or is unaffected by it.
Rule number 1 - must pacify me first (since NOT my fault) otherwise I don't have 台阶下
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