The Real Reason Why We Send Our Children to Tuition
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The tuition our kids attend is not to boost morale...it's genuine case of coping with higher standard now.
Daughter's picture compo seems tough for her level (p3). When i enquired, I was informed that it is tougher for the purpose of scaffolding :?
Son's PSLE compo last year...2 choose 1, be it continuous (strange sound in the library) or picture composition...Easy to write out of point. Asked my son what does 'strange' sound refer to...he said definitely cannot be a cry...so it is like sound of robot or snake hissing.
So with such PSLE questions, kids need tuition. -
janet_lee88:
I actually beg to differ tuition is used to boost morale and it really depends on the parents' perception and the ability of the kids as well.The tuition our kids attend is not to boost morale...it's genuine case of coping with higher standard now.
Daughter's picture compo seems tough for her level (p3). When i enquired, I was informed that it is tougher for the purpose of scaffolding :?
Son's PSLE compo last year...2 choose 1, be it continuous (strange sound in the library) or picture composition...Easy to write out of point. Asked my son what does 'strange' sound refer to...he said definitely cannot be a cry...so it is like sound of robot or snake hissing.
So with such PSLE questions, kids need tuition.
Unless the teachers are talking down the child then having tuition isnt the solution to boost morale.
IMO, I don't find \"Strange Sound in the library\" easy to write out of point\". A strange sound would just refer to an unusual sound which you do not normally hear in a library so the story can be written in a manner where the person in the library realised it wasnt your normal flipping of pages , light foot steps but a thud thud which makes your skin crawl. That is why i dont see the need for English tuition, reading and comprehending what you read is key and noting down the flow of passages , the vocabulary used.
So even now, with my P1 and P2. with the use of picture compositions. The main thing the teacher tells them in focus on what is in the picture and use vocabulary to expand. -
I would very much like to agree but English standards today are definitely tougher.
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I don’t think that Eng std is higher now rather the kids are expected to gain competency of the Lang at an earlier age.
I think whether parents think tuition is a need or not, we must be aware that tuition is driving up the stds for all subjects. I’m not blaming hor, this is my observation without judgement.
Why do parents send kids for tuition? I’m referring to primary level.
1. Fear - fear of not catching up with others who have tuition, who are naturally intelligent, fear of not in the best class, fear of not passing, fear of achieving less than 100 or less than band 1.
2. Intelligence - parents feel their kids are intelligent and they are not able to challenge them so outsource the stimulant in the form of tuition. There are tuition centres that cater to high ability kids.
3. Learning style - the teachers cannot cater to the learning style of the kids. These cases might go for 1-1 tuition or parents step in.
4. Teachers - I have not met any yet but I do not reject the idea that there are teachers who might not be able to teach effectively.
My one fear of tuition is that tuition will rob the kids of their thinking skills. I also fear of life-long tuition. -
I’m playing with an idea here that I’m trying to decide.
If tuition manage to "force" the marks out of the child and the child has many choices becos of the results, are they real choices? -
SAHM_TAN:
Competency in English is extremely crucial...it is used as a means of understanding the other subjects like Math and Science which is not straightforward.
Why do parents send kids for tuition? I'm referring to primary level.
1. Fear - fear of not catching up with others who have tuition, who are naturally intelligent, fear of not in the best class, fear of not passing, fear of achieving less than 100 or less than band 1.
2. Intelligence - parents feel their kids are intelligent and they are not able to challenge them so outsource the stimulant in the form of tuition. There are tuition centres that cater to high ability kids.
3. Learning style - the teachers cannot cater to the learning style of the kids. These cases might go for 1-1 tuition or parents step in.
4. Teachers - I have not met any yet but I do not reject the idea that there are teachers who might not be able to teach effectively.
My one fear of tuition is that tuition will rob the kids of their thinking skills. I also fear of life-long tuition.
English covers a wide aspect...composition, oral and language.
Teachers have limited time everyday...even if there is a responsible teacher who is able to teach well, she is not able to cover so much.
The fear of not being able to catch up in class as well as failing the subject is sufficient to make parents worry.
I have a similar worry too...that kids become dependent on tuition. -
janet_lee88:
I don't see the standard being much higher. My view on languages is that it shouldn't be bounded by the p1 p2 henceforth but rather by the learning ability of the child. On another note, dont we see parents stating how young their kids start reading, wouldn't that also increase the bench mark?
English covers a wide aspect...composition, oral and language.
Teachers have limited time everyday...even if there is a responsible teacher who is able to teach well, she is not able to cover so much.
The fear of not being able to catch up in class as well as failing the subject is sufficient to make parents worry.
I have a similar worry too...that kids become dependent on tuition.
I do agree that there is so much teachers can cover but surely they don't need to cover oral? If the child has issues communicating verbally, then as a parent I would be jumping on it also.
I would expect the teachers to offer key points, tips, resources where the child can build on their creativity. Mark their work and provide recommendations. Unless this isn't what is done at the moment.
I really dont expect hand holding coz then my dds will stop how to learn and expect to be told each time where they are wrong.
What I am getting at and worry for the future parents is, it is more of the fear of parents which is leading the children to tuition rather than the children themselves.
Children could live without tuition if we could accept certain failures with our kids if not yes, they would always have to depend on tuition if they have to attain both parent's and school expectations especially if the kids are not strong academically. This is where no matter how much tuition there is, some kids won't absorb since it is a mind set itself.
Some kids will bloom later and some kids do well early and worse later. There are various learning abilities hence each exam is a bench mark but that shouldnt become the noose.
My DDs are completely different. My DD1 has comprehension issues and creative juices, hmm not so great. but she is studious and does well in grammar/vocab. My DD2 (P1) is able to comprehend maths and English better than her sister but her spelling and grammar still needs work. Both of them are mainly taught by the school.
Will I enrol my DD1 for English?
No, think I have accepted by paying for tuition to stuff her mind with creative phrases and model essays isn't what I really want for her. For that, I must also be prepared for her to come back with a lacklustre score. -
SAHM_TAN:
Depends, if the child can select their choice and maintain it on their own. If they selectes their choice and still need tuition then, i am afraid the marks are only a false front.I'm playing with an idea here that I'm trying to decide.
If tuition manage to \"force\" the marks out of the child and the child has many choices becos of the results, are they real choices?
chicken and egg :rotflmao:
if don't provide tuition, wonder if the child will ever say \"mummy your fault , you didn't pay for my tuition.\"
Tuition and enrichments are so glorified nowadays, I remembered my times where we studied harder to avoid tuition as it was a social embarrassment among the peers LOL -
My DS1 still says that tuition is for those who don't pay attention to teachers
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Kissgurami:
My boy does not have math tuition. We leave it for him to self advance study syllabus and teacher to teach, with his dad to clarify his doubts. Heuristic math we leave it to school to cover. Come p5, suddenly we are press for time and his learning curve became steep overnight, demanding him to grasp heuristics questions yet refusing him the luxury of time to work by himself and learn at his pace as time are needed for his weaker subjects. Overnight, his strongest subject becomes his weakest.
if don't provide tuition, wonder if the child will ever say \"mummy your fault , you didn't pay for my tuition.\"
I asked him if I should have signed him up for math enrichment at lower primary despite his good subject grades, like I did now for his younger brother. He said he wished that I had as he would have bigger lead time to tackle heuristics when its focus were not so much in lower primary.
We may or may not know what is best for our kids. Turning to tuition prematurely could be what parents are willing to pay for so they won't live to regret when it is too late.
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