In-law problems?
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DH’s family background and mine are very different. My mum and I are exact opposites to my MIL. Hence I run our household very different from my MIL. I think my MIL thinks that my household is an extension of hers, so can cannot tolerate the differences.
Usually DH is quite hands off when it comes to most things, I make most decisions but will still let him know just in case he has objections, which are very rare. So when DH starts to complain about something which is already done / decided on, I am always certain ( cos I confirmed with him on many occasions ) that MIL has voiced her displeasure through him.
These recent temper outbursts of his were most probably triggered by feedback from MIL from those occasional lunches they have been having this year. Issues on household expenditure and habits - my MIL’s favourite topics. Feeling very tired and worn out. But am trying very hard to pull myself together and make myself communicate with DH. It’s tiring to discuss these issues, especially since I have to go in a roundabout manner on sensitive matters concerning ILs. -
my mil doesn’t know how to pronounce my daughter’s english name. my daughter’s name is Claire yet she kept pronouncing as ‘clear’. Already i corrected her so many times yet she still call my daughter ‘clear’. even my hb niece & nephew also call my daughter ‘clear’. Until i fedup i told mil if u duno how to pronounce, pls call my daughter’s chinese name. she show me black face & even complain to her relatives i was making a big fuss.
Even sometimes at gathering, mil still call my daughter ‘clear’ on purpose. Hb said his mum is very very stubborn. will not admit to her mistake even though he corrected her many times.
So what do i do? each time mil calls my daughter ‘clear’ i still continue to correct her?
or just ignore her? but i feel so uneasy when she calls my daughter wrong name. -
mummyJune:
Haha! Don't get too worked up over a small thing like this. My PILs love my kids to death and they still can't get the names right all the time. We just think of those little mispronunciations as terms of endearment.....my mil doesn't know how to pronounce my daughter's english name. my daughter's name is Claire yet she kept pronouncing as 'clear'. Already i corrected her so many times yet she still call my daughter 'clear'. even my hb niece & nephew also call my daughter 'clear'. Until i fedup i told mil if u duno how to pronounce, pls call my daughter's chinese name. she show me black face & even complain to her relatives i was making a big fuss.
Even sometimes at gathering, mil still call my daughter 'clear' on purpose. Hb said his mum is very very stubborn. will not admit to her mistake even though he corrected her many times.
So what do i do? each time mil calls my daughter 'clear' i still continue to correct her?
or just ignore her? but i feel so uneasy when she calls my daughter wrong name.
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mummyJune:
Did you daughter answer her when she call wrongly? Sometimes, my mil will also called my kids name wrongly. N I simply tell the kids if that is not your name, you do not need to answer.my mil doesn't know how to pronounce my daughter's english name. my daughter's name is Claire yet she kept pronouncing as 'clear'. Already i corrected her so many times yet she still call my daughter 'clear'. even my hb niece & nephew also call my daughter 'clear'. Until i fedup i told mil if u duno how to pronounce, pls call my daughter's chinese name. she show me black face & even complain to her relatives i was making a big fuss.
Even sometimes at gathering, mil still call my daughter 'clear' on purpose. Hb said his mum is very very stubborn. will not admit to her mistake even though he corrected her many times.
So what do i do? each time mil calls my daughter 'clear' i still continue to correct her?
or just ignore her? but i feel so uneasy when she calls my daughter wrong name.
After a while, if the kid do not respond, I am sure your mil will try to call her name correctly to get your daughter's response. -
SAHM Chew:
Yes, my daughter will response to Claire & clear. Now she is 2yrs old, & my hb said at such a young age, she might not understand that her ah ma is calling her the wrong name. so she also response to the name 'clear'.
Did you daughter answer her when she call wrongly? Sometimes, my mil will also called my kids name wrongly. N I simply tell the kids if that is not your name, you do not need to answer.mummyJune:
my mil doesn't know how to pronounce my daughter's english name. my daughter's name is Claire yet she kept pronouncing as 'clear'. Already i corrected her so many times yet she still call my daughter 'clear'. even my hb niece & nephew also call my daughter 'clear'. Until i fedup i told mil if u duno how to pronounce, pls call my daughter's chinese name. she show me black face & even complain to her relatives i was making a big fuss.
Even sometimes at gathering, mil still call my daughter 'clear' on purpose. Hb said his mum is very very stubborn. will not admit to her mistake even though he corrected her many times.
So what do i do? each time mil calls my daughter 'clear' i still continue to correct her?
or just ignore her? but i feel so uneasy when she calls my daughter wrong name.
After a while, if the kid do not respond, I am sure your mil will try to call her name correctly to get your daughter's response.
with mil so stubborn & refuse to call my daughter her correct name, my hb always said just take it with a pinch of salt...sooner or later when my daughter grows up, she will correct mil... -
My student’s name is Christopher but his grandma calls him fishball. It’s a small matter. He is 10 this year. He just grins when he hears that.
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To many it is easy to pronounce words correctly and easily. But to others it could be a problem.
I have a problem with "th" so Nathan sounds totally differnet when I say it. -
mummyJune:
I think it depends on whether it is purposely or unintentionally . If it is unintentionally, eg, too difficult for them to pronounce, then it's fine n no point getting angry.
Yes, my daughter will response to Claire & clear. Now she is 2yrs old, & my hb said at such a young age, she might not understand that her ah ma is calling her the wrong name. so she also response to the name 'clear'.
with mil so stubborn & refuse to call my daughter her correct name, my hb always said just take it with a pinch of salt...sooner or later when my daughter grows up, she will correct mil...
But if she is stubborn n purposely called it wrongly on purpose, then it is another issue. -
TheAnswer:
My student's name is Christopher but his grandma calls him fishball. It's a small matter. He is 10 this year. He just grins when he hears that.
:rotflmao: How did Christopher morph into Fishball? Terms of endearment.
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jtoh:
Poor grandma pronunciation. His grandma has lesser teeth and not educated so I guess he just has to live with the fishball name.TheAnswer:
My student's name is Christopher but his grandma calls him fishball. It's a small matter. He is 10 this year. He just grins when he hears that.
:rotflmao: How did Christopher morph into Fishball? Terms of endearment.
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