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      SAHM Chew
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      mummyJune:
      my mil doesn't know how to pronounce my daughter's english name. my daughter's name is Claire yet she kept pronouncing as 'clear'. Already i corrected her so many times yet she still call my daughter 'clear'. even my hb niece & nephew also call my daughter 'clear'. Until i fedup i told mil if u duno how to pronounce, pls call my daughter's chinese name. she show me black face & even complain to her relatives i was making a big fuss.


      Even sometimes at gathering, mil still call my daughter 'clear' on purpose. Hb said his mum is very very stubborn. will not admit to her mistake even though he corrected her many times.

      So what do i do? each time mil calls my daughter 'clear' i still continue to correct her?
      or just ignore her? but i feel so uneasy when she calls my daughter wrong name.
      Did you daughter answer her when she call wrongly? Sometimes, my mil will also called my kids name wrongly. N I simply tell the kids if that is not your name, you do not need to answer.
      After a while, if the kid do not respond, I am sure your mil will try to call her name correctly to get your daughter's response.

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        mummyJune
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        SAHM Chew:
        mummyJune:

        my mil doesn't know how to pronounce my daughter's english name. my daughter's name is Claire yet she kept pronouncing as 'clear'. Already i corrected her so many times yet she still call my daughter 'clear'. even my hb niece & nephew also call my daughter 'clear'. Until i fedup i told mil if u duno how to pronounce, pls call my daughter's chinese name. she show me black face & even complain to her relatives i was making a big fuss.


        Even sometimes at gathering, mil still call my daughter 'clear' on purpose. Hb said his mum is very very stubborn. will not admit to her mistake even though he corrected her many times.

        So what do i do? each time mil calls my daughter 'clear' i still continue to correct her?
        or just ignore her? but i feel so uneasy when she calls my daughter wrong name.

        Did you daughter answer her when she call wrongly? Sometimes, my mil will also called my kids name wrongly. N I simply tell the kids if that is not your name, you do not need to answer.
        After a while, if the kid do not respond, I am sure your mil will try to call her name correctly to get your daughter's response.

        Yes, my daughter will response to Claire & clear. Now she is 2yrs old, & my hb said at such a young age, she might not understand that her ah ma is calling her the wrong name. so she also response to the name 'clear'.
        with mil so stubborn & refuse to call my daughter her correct name, my hb always said just take it with a pinch of salt...sooner or later when my daughter grows up, she will correct mil...

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          My student’s name is Christopher but his grandma calls him fishball. It’s a small matter. He is 10 this year. He just grins when he hears that.

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            To many it is easy to pronounce words correctly and easily. But to others it could be a problem.


            I have a problem with "th" so Nathan sounds totally differnet when I say it.

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              SAHM Chew
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              mummyJune:

              Yes, my daughter will response to Claire & clear. Now she is 2yrs old, & my hb said at such a young age, she might not understand that her ah ma is calling her the wrong name. so she also response to the name 'clear'.
              with mil so stubborn & refuse to call my daughter her correct name, my hb always said just take it with a pinch of salt...sooner or later when my daughter grows up, she will correct mil...
              I think it depends on whether it is purposely or unintentionally . If it is unintentionally, eg, too difficult for them to pronounce, then it's fine n no point getting angry.
              But if she is stubborn n purposely called it wrongly on purpose, then it is another issue.

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                jtoh
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                TheAnswer:
                My student's name is Christopher but his grandma calls him fishball. It's a small matter. He is 10 this year. He just grins when he hears that.

                :rotflmao: How did Christopher morph into Fishball? Terms of endearment. 😄

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                  TheAnswer
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                  jtoh:
                  TheAnswer:

                  My student's name is Christopher but his grandma calls him fishball. It's a small matter. He is 10 this year. He just grins when he hears that.


                  :rotflmao: How did Christopher morph into Fishball? Terms of endearment. 😄

                  Poor grandma pronunciation. His grandma has lesser teeth and not educated so I guess he just has to live with the fishball name.

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                    SAHM Chew:
                    mummyJune:


                    Yes, my daughter will response to Claire & clear. Now she is 2yrs old, & my hb said at such a young age, she might not understand that her ah ma is calling her the wrong name. so she also response to the name 'clear'.
                    with mil so stubborn & refuse to call my daughter her correct name, my hb always said just take it with a pinch of salt...sooner or later when my daughter grows up, she will correct mil...

                    I think it depends on whether it is purposely or unintentionally . If it is unintentionally, eg, too difficult for them to pronounce, then it's fine n no point getting angry.
                    But if she is stubborn n purposely called it wrongly on purpose, then it is another issue.

                    I would say forget about this mis-pronounciation, intentional or not. Not worth the time n effort to dwell on it.

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                      jedamum
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                      my late dad had difficulty pronouncing my ds1's name. and always commented why we didnt stick to the more usual name.

                      he had difficulty pronouncing my dh's and BIL's name too. they sounded like 2 girls' name by the name my dad address them. 😆

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                        smurf28
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                        My mil dont even call my coming 3 year old dc name.She will refer my dc as ‘your child’ eg’ your child is sleeping’ …i have not once hear my mil call my dc name .i not surprised if she still clueless what her grandchild name.She simply bo chup.

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