In-law problems?

[Harlequin]

Maybe she longs to see you/her son/her grandchildren but ran out of \"acceptable\" excuses?


I know I would, I would missed my grown up children, no matter how far they will be and how their lives take them... but I would probably hone my EQ first, before I am being accused of stalking.... for whatever worth there maybe.

We are all parents.... the day will come

[Sun_2010]

Harlequin:

Maybe she longs to see you/her son/her grandchildren but ran out of \"acceptable\" excuses?


I know I would, I would missed my grown up children, no matter how far they will be and how their lives take them... but I would probably hone my EQ first, before I am being accused of stalking.... for whatever worth there maybe.

We are all parents.... the day will come

I know. I always try to remember that my MIL is a mother who loves her son as all mothers do. Fiercely. Just as I do. So I try not to sweat the small stuff...
Hopefully I will be able to handle this better, without stepping on toes, when it is my turn :xedfingers: .
Afterall, now our life revolves around the kids/DH to a large extent, so one day if DIL or Son-in-law feels that the I, the MIL is an outsider who should just butt out and keep out of their family , it would hurt. And possible make my life seem not worth it .

[straffan23]

Urm… no leh… this stalking business is in addition to coming over to my place up to 5 times a day! She has the keys to my place and comes over anytime, never have a problem with running out of excuse!

[janet88]

straffan23:

Urm... no leh.. this stalking business is in addition to coming over to my place up to 5 times a day! She has the keys to my place and comes over anytime, never have a problem with running out of excuse!

5 times a day :yikes:
I will have a shock if someone opens the gate other than hubby.

[TheAnswer]

janet_lee88:

straffan23:

Urm... no leh.. this stalking business is in addition to coming over to my place up to 5 times a day! She has the keys to my place and comes over anytime, never have a problem with running out of excuse!

5 times a day :yikes:
I will have a shock if someone opens the gate other than hubby.

My parents and in laws do not have my house keys.

[janet88]

I do not like surprises. If in laws pops up unexpectedly or opens the gate to my place, I will be unhappy.

[Imami]

straffan23:

Last weekend, a friend came to get something from me and wanted some plants from the coridor. So we stood there talking - and sure enough... MIL happen to \"drop by\". And of course she would make her appearance known. To my friend that she has not seen in her life... she just stood there between the 2 of us and started going \"What are you doing? Cut plants ah? For what ah? You also like plants ah? You stay nearby? You always come over? How many you take? Can grow ah? Got space? I am the husband's mother. I live opposite..... \" My friend was like :yikes: :yikes: :yikes:

:rotflmao: this one is funny!

[Imami]

Harlequin:

Maybe she longs to see you/her son/her grandchildren but ran out of \"acceptable\" excuses?


I know I would, I would missed my grown up children, no matter how far they will be and how their lives take them... but I would probably hone my EQ first, before I am being accused of stalking.... for whatever worth there maybe.

We are all parents.... the day will come

The thing is they don't come clean!? Why can't they just open door see mountain and say,\" I come by to see xx.\"

Yup, there will come a day when we become someone's parent in law, when someone call us \"the old one\" or worse \"the sickening (wo)man\" etc.

I would probably have a dil in future... :sad: If seeing how our parents live/talk/think steers our way of life, I better buck up and be nicer to my parents in law.

[Imami]

Sun_2010:

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I know. I always try to remember that my MIL is a mother who loves her son as all mothers do. Fiercely. Just as I do. So I try not to sweat the small stuff...
Hopefully I will be able to handle this better, without stepping on toes, when it is my turn :xedfingers: .
Afterall, now our life revolves around the kids/DH to a large extent, so one day if DIL or Son-in-law feels that the I, the MIL is an outsider who should just butt out and keep out of their family , it would hurt. And possible make my life seem not worth it .

Good post.

[buds]

Dearest straffan23, only someone who has gone through the same scenario as you are will understand what you are going through. We do not know the full picture of your family's state of affairs but just know this... that i can empathize with what you are going through. :hugs: It's :siao: really... 5 times a day. :roll:


As for your doubts in the other thread on \"Moving in with MIL?\"... I think you know the answer to that already without anyone re-affirming it for you.