All About Bullying
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I would like to share this bullying incident that happened over the weekend in Timezone Hougang Mall. This boy (probably P3-P5) was bullying several kids verbally. He would ask to see other players game combination cards then comment lousy cards, yet refusing to show his own cards and shooing bad remarks while other players are in their midst of the game. When it was his turn to play, he wanted the boys behind him to shut up. This bully eventually lost the game, stood up and started to push young onlookers getting in his way. And all these happened when his father was standing nearby and in presence of 2 Timezone staffs who are facilitating the game competition.
My husband who brought my son there for the competition decided not to be a sitting duck and told the boy off. His father came forward and just brushed off that my husband shouldn’t do that as they were just “kids playing and this is normal”, “don’t need you to teach my son” etc. My husband then told the father that he shouldn’t be in denial and support his son’s bullying action. However, the father just couldn’t accept it but finally walked away with his son without apologizing or whatsoever after another regular patron came to break the “talk”. This patron then told my husband that he knew that boy and his son was also bullied by him before.
My husband later explained to my son about this incident and how he should handle such situation should there be no adult there. My son questioned him that there were adults there but why everyone was just rolling their eyes, yet nobody stop the bully?
My son also told me later that the bully also pushed him too and he felt pain on his arm, but he didn’t fight back as he said that was wrong… he said TKD was for self-defence and not fighting. Upon hearing those words, I wondered those being bullied were victims yet they suffered pain… whereas the bully just got away like that. I only hope the bully’s father understand what his own actions affect his child. Haiz… -
momresource:
.. I only hope the bully's father understand what his own actions affect his child. Haiz....
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Found this Bully-Free campaign organised by Children Society
http://www.bullyfreecampaign.sg/
For children who need a listening ear...this is a great hotline.
TINKLE FRIEND HELPLINE
(A toll-free national helpline for all Primary school children)
Tel: 1800-2-744-788
Operating hours:
Mon - Fri: 9.30am - 11.30am; 2.30pm - 5.30pm
Weekends & Public Holidays: Closed
link:
http://www.childrensociety.org.sg/index.php?option=com_k2&view=item&layout=item&id=100&Itemid=56 -
As a principal at a new preschool in Singapore George Washington Preschool I know from first hand experience (37 years) that awareness and monitoring of students closely by staff is critical. Having a school where there are no blind spots to block the view of teachers so children are safe and having a close relationship with all students so you quickly can tell what obvious and not so obvious behaviours are setting children up for unsafe situations is critical. In my experience it is important o st up a monitoring system once a bully and victim have been identified .It can’t be a one time meeting discussion etc as once they both know you are monitoring the 2 children the bully loses power and the victim gains power .Having regular meetings allows them both to develop relationships they may not have had and it also sets the other children up to not be "bystanders as they also play a role in these situations .The difficult situations are the cyberbullying ones and then parents must play an active role in monitoring their children’s online actions as they become bystanders also and we know they are just as responsible for the situation and play a role in preventing further abuse
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As a parent, you must educate first your child from bullying others Parents can play a central role to preventing bullying and stopping it when it happens. Give children positive feedback when they behave well to help their build self-esteem. Help give them the self-confidence to stand up for what they believe in. Ask your children about their day and listen to them talk about school, social events, their classmates, and any problems they have. Take bullying seriously. Many kids are embarrassed to say they have been bullied. You may only have one chance to step in and help.
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angel89:
As a parent, you must educate first your child from bullying others Parents can play a central role to preventing bullying and stopping it when it happens. Give children positive feedback when they behave well to help their build self-esteem. Help give them the self-confidence to stand up for what they believe in. Ask your children about their day and listen to them talk about school, social events, their classmates, and any problems they have. Take bullying seriously. Many kids are embarrassed to say they have been bullied. You may only have one chance to step in and help.
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Can I check with you whether prefect in school has authority to pull child shirt or get some other student to pull child when child did not respond to prefect?
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baobei:
Can I check with you whether prefect in school has authority to pull child shirt or get some other student to pull child when child did not respond to prefect?
in the 80s is like that...now i think maybe...guessing only...
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There's an upcoming http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/event/bully-free-forum-2013 in August organised by the Children's Society. This Forum is targeted at parents. It might be worthwhile to attend this if parents are concerned with bullying in schools.
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My son was just bullied in preschool and the school just said, i will investigate and not do anything before investigation ends.
The bully n his elder brother are in the same preschool as my son.
1st time it happened..they called my son horrible names when he did not even do anything to them.
2nd time..they were in the music room, the bully punch my son's stomach but he did not react..then the bully pushed and made my son fall and cried.
I asked the Principle to get the bully to apologise to my son infront of the class but the principle & centre manager refused!!Saying it might not be intentional?! And they will look into it...
Seriously..what's wrong with apologising? I think i am very wrong to teach my son to be gentle, he gets bullied in the end. I told him to kick & slap the bully next time if he calls him names or push him infuture...
No one wants their precious to be bullied!! Cant teach our young ones to be too nice :imanangel: too pple anymore. Enrolling him for martial arts for self defence.
the lousy preschool is LEARNING VISION, getting my son out of there already. :stompfeet: