All About Bullying
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Snow Crystal:
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S'times i do \"role play\" with my kids - I as the bully, pulling their hair, punching their face, making fun of their names.. etc..
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DD1 (pri 5 in a all girls’ school) was slapped on the face during class just before CNY. DD1 only told me 1 week later because she was upset the bully may be elected as prefect and she actually thought the CNY celebration would help her forget this incident.
My first question to her was "Did you slap her back?"
I was relieved when she nodded.
Even as other classmates looked on and asked that damn girl "why did you slap her?"
The bully just said "because i feel like it!"
I dont care what other parents think. Everyone would said its wrong to hit back. But when this slapping incident happens to your kid, then you may understand what I mean.
My girl is rather "mild n timid" and not agressive type of girl.
Till now I have not told the form teacher because DD1 trusted me.
But I had told DD1 if that bully ever slaps her again, I expect DD1 to pin down that damn girl and knock her out.
I do not mind being called to school with a BIG GRIN on my face. -
SarChar:
I do understand how you feel. By slapping back, the bully will have think twice about bullying your girl next time.DD1 (pri 5 in a all girls' school) was slapped on the face during class just before CNY. DD1 only told me 1 week later because she was upset the bully may be elected as prefect and she actually thought the CNY celebration would help her forget this incident.
My first question to her was \"Did you slap her back?\"
I was relieved when she nodded.
Even as other classmates looked on and asked that damn girl \"why did you slap her?\"
The bully just said \"because i feel like it!\"
I dont care what other parents think. Everyone would said its wrong to hit back. But when this slapping incident happens to your kid, then you may understand what I mean.
My girl is rather \"mild n timid\" and not agressive type of girl.
Till now I have not told the form teacher because DD1 trusted me.
But I had told DD1 if that bully ever slaps her again, I expect DD1 to pin down that damn girl and knock her out.
I do not mind being called to school with a BIG GRIN on my face.
My boy was a victim last year. He was always punched and hit by a bully.
Needless to say, I was very very upset that I wanted to confront the boy. -
other than fighting back, i really want to find a way to stop this bullying...
like going to the root of the problem. why do they want to be the bullies? cos of fame? fortune? cos they are scared. most bullies are scared but they put on this front so that they feel better and not be scared. but in the process of doing this, they hurt others.
So is there a way to let them feel better and not be bullies? understand there is limited control esp when it comes to the their parents. But can we like maybe know them better and let them participate in something that they are good at in CCA so that they feel good and not resort to bullying?
any one has any ideas? :?
but another school of thought is that even if you stop this bully, there be another indian chief waiting to be the school bully. It's a never ending one.
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I would like to share this bullying incident that happened over the weekend in Timezone Hougang Mall. This boy (probably P3-P5) was bullying several kids verbally. He would ask to see other players game combination cards then comment lousy cards, yet refusing to show his own cards and shooing bad remarks while other players are in their midst of the game. When it was his turn to play, he wanted the boys behind him to shut up. This bully eventually lost the game, stood up and started to push young onlookers getting in his way. And all these happened when his father was standing nearby and in presence of 2 Timezone staffs who are facilitating the game competition.
My husband who brought my son there for the competition decided not to be a sitting duck and told the boy off. His father came forward and just brushed off that my husband shouldn’t do that as they were just "kids playing and this is normal", "don’t need you to teach my son" etc. My husband then told the father that he shouldn’t be in denial and support his son’s bullying action. However, the father just couldn’t accept it but finally walked away with his son without apologizing or whatsoever after another regular patron came to break the "talk". This patron then told my husband that he knew that boy and his son was also bullied by him before.
My husband later explained to my son about this incident and how he should handle such situation should there be no adult there. My son questioned him that there were adults there but why everyone was just rolling their eyes, yet nobody stop the bully?
My son also told me later that the bully also pushed him too and he felt pain on his arm, but he didn’t fight back as he said that was wrong… he said TKD was for self-defence and not fighting. Upon hearing those words, I wondered those being bullied were victims yet they suffered pain… whereas the bully just got away like that. I only hope the bully’s father understand what his own actions affect his child. Haiz… -
momresource:
.. I only hope the bully's father understand what his own actions affect his child. Haiz....
thats the part where i said we got no control over it. -
Found this Bully-Free campaign organised by Children Society
http://www.bullyfreecampaign.sg/
For children who need a listening ear...this is a great hotline.
TINKLE FRIEND HELPLINE
(A toll-free national helpline for all Primary school children)
Tel: 1800-2-744-788
Operating hours:
Mon - Fri: 9.30am - 11.30am; 2.30pm - 5.30pm
Weekends & Public Holidays: Closed
link:
http://www.childrensociety.org.sg/index.php?option=com_k2&view=item&layout=item&id=100&Itemid=56 -
As a principal at a new preschool in Singapore George Washington Preschool I know from first hand experience (37 years) that awareness and monitoring of students closely by staff is critical. Having a school where there are no blind spots to block the view of teachers so children are safe and having a close relationship with all students so you quickly can tell what obvious and not so obvious behaviours are setting children up for unsafe situations is critical. In my experience it is important o st up a monitoring system once a bully and victim have been identified .It can’t be a one time meeting discussion etc as once they both know you are monitoring the 2 children the bully loses power and the victim gains power .Having regular meetings allows them both to develop relationships they may not have had and it also sets the other children up to not be "bystanders as they also play a role in these situations .The difficult situations are the cyberbullying ones and then parents must play an active role in monitoring their children’s online actions as they become bystanders also and we know they are just as responsible for the situation and play a role in preventing further abuse
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As a parent, you must educate first your child from bullying others Parents can play a central role to preventing bullying and stopping it when it happens. Give children positive feedback when they behave well to help their build self-esteem. Help give them the self-confidence to stand up for what they believe in. Ask your children about their day and listen to them talk about school, social events, their classmates, and any problems they have. Take bullying seriously. Many kids are embarrassed to say they have been bullied. You may only have one chance to step in and help.
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angel89:
As a parent, you must educate first your child from bullying others Parents can play a central role to preventing bullying and stopping it when it happens. Give children positive feedback when they behave well to help their build self-esteem. Help give them the self-confidence to stand up for what they believe in. Ask your children about their day and listen to them talk about school, social events, their classmates, and any problems they have. Take bullying seriously. Many kids are embarrassed to say they have been bullied. You may only have one chance to step in and help.
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