All About Bullying

[Snow Crystal]

iLoveChubby:

My DS recently met a bully who pulled him to the side and said some REALLY nasty & crude things to him and being the youngest primary level of the session, they are usually the easiest target of the upper primary bullies.

Yes, bullies in pri sch targets the lower primary kids or the quiet timid type.
But bullies are scaredy cats themselves.
Just ask your DS to say loudly to him to shoo off but ensure that your DS is not alone or in some obscure corners of the school.
Always stay in places where there are many kids or teachers around.

[iLoveChubby]

Snow Crystal:

iLoveChubby:

My DS recently met a bully who pulled him to the side and said some REALLY nasty & crude things to him and being the youngest primary level of the session, they are usually the easiest target of the upper primary bullies.

Yes, bullies in pri sch targets the lower primary kids or the quiet timid type.
But bullies are scaredy cats themselves.
Just ask your DS to say loudly to him to shoo off but ensure that your DS is not alone or in some obscure corners of the school.
Always stay in places where there are many kids or teachers around.

I guess my DS was a random target as the big boy caught him when they were crossing paths along e corridor during recess.
And ya i told him to stick around his friends now instead of wandering around alone himself (which he normally doesnt)...

S'times i do \"role play\" with my kids - I as the bully, pulling their hair, punching their face, making fun of their names.. etc.. to let them have a taste of what bullies normally will do and tell them how to react in such situations...
Well, hopefully they dont become the bully one day... :skeptical:

[Snow Crystal]

iLoveChubby:

S'times i do \"role play\" with my kids - I as the bully, pulling their hair, punching their face, making fun of their names.. etc..

:rotflmao:

[Hiaweh]

Yes dd unable to see their names on the uniform and one of them was wearing Pe attire. We told her to shout very loudly if she ever encounter bullying again.

[vinegar]

Snow Crystal:

iLoveChubby:

S'times i do \"role play\" with my kids - I as the bully, pulling their hair, punching their face, making fun of their names.. etc..

:rotflmao:

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

[SarChar]

DD1 (pri 5 in a all girls’ school) was slapped on the face during class just before CNY. DD1 only told me 1 week later because she was upset the bully may be elected as prefect and she actually thought the CNY celebration would help her forget this incident.


My first question to her was "Did you slap her back?"
I was relieved when she nodded.

Even as other classmates looked on and asked that damn girl "why did you slap her?"
The bully just said "because i feel like it!"

I dont care what other parents think. Everyone would said its wrong to hit back. But when this slapping incident happens to your kid, then you may understand what I mean.

My girl is rather "mild n timid" and not agressive type of girl.

Till now I have not told the form teacher because DD1 trusted me.

But I had told DD1 if that bully ever slaps her again, I expect DD1 to pin down that damn girl and knock her out.

I do not mind being called to school with a BIG GRIN on my face.

[durianlove1974]

SarChar:

DD1 (pri 5 in a all girls' school) was slapped on the face during class just before CNY. DD1 only told me 1 week later because she was upset the bully may be elected as prefect and she actually thought the CNY celebration would help her forget this incident.


My first question to her was \"Did you slap her back?\"
I was relieved when she nodded.

Even as other classmates looked on and asked that damn girl \"why did you slap her?\"
The bully just said \"because i feel like it!\"

I dont care what other parents think. Everyone would said its wrong to hit back. But when this slapping incident happens to your kid, then you may understand what I mean.

My girl is rather \"mild n timid\" and not agressive type of girl.

Till now I have not told the form teacher because DD1 trusted me.

But I had told DD1 if that bully ever slaps her again, I expect DD1 to pin down that damn girl and knock her out.

I do not mind being called to school with a BIG GRIN on my face.

I do understand how you feel. By slapping back, the bully will have think twice about bullying your girl next time.

My boy was a victim last year. He was always punched and hit by a bully.


Needless to say, I was very very upset that I wanted to confront the boy.

[SBKS]

other than fighting back, i really want to find a way to stop this bullying...


like going to the root of the problem. why do they want to be the bullies? cos of fame? fortune? cos they are scared. most bullies are scared but they put on this front so that they feel better and not be scared. but in the process of doing this, they hurt others.

So is there a way to let them feel better and not be bullies? understand there is limited control esp when it comes to the their parents. But can we like maybe know them better and let them participate in something that they are good at in CCA so that they feel good and not resort to bullying?

any one has any ideas? :?

but another school of thought is that even if you stop this bully, there be another indian chief waiting to be the school bully. It's a never ending one.

[momresource]

I would like to share this bullying incident that happened over the weekend in Timezone Hougang Mall. This boy (probably P3-P5) was bullying several kids verbally. He would ask to see other players game combination cards then comment lousy cards, yet refusing to show his own cards and shooing bad remarks while other players are in their midst of the game. When it was his turn to play, he wanted the boys behind him to shut up. This bully eventually lost the game, stood up and started to push young onlookers getting in his way. And all these happened when his father was standing nearby and in presence of 2 Timezone staffs who are facilitating the game competition.


My husband who brought my son there for the competition decided not to be a sitting duck and told the boy off. His father came forward and just brushed off that my husband shouldn’t do that as they were just "kids playing and this is normal", "don’t need you to teach my son" etc. My husband then told the father that he shouldn’t be in denial and support his son’s bullying action. However, the father just couldn’t accept it but finally walked away with his son without apologizing or whatsoever after another regular patron came to break the "talk". This patron then told my husband that he knew that boy and his son was also bullied by him before.

My husband later explained to my son about this incident and how he should handle such situation should there be no adult there. My son questioned him that there were adults there but why everyone was just rolling their eyes, yet nobody stop the bully?

My son also told me later that the bully also pushed him too and he felt pain on his arm, but he didn’t fight back as he said that was wrong… he said TKD was for self-defence and not fighting. Upon hearing those words, I wondered those being bullied were victims yet they suffered pain… whereas the bully just got away like that. I only hope the bully’s father understand what his own actions affect his child. Haiz…

[SBKS]

momresource:

.. I only hope the bully's father understand what his own actions affect his child. Haiz....

thats the part where i said we got no control over it.