No Problem is problem

[Mommilicious]

dolphinsiah:

Hey Mommilicious,


I guess your mum is a housewife and your Dad is the sole breadwinner....
And your Dad gives all his Salary :moneyflies: to your mum....

So if it is true...your Mom would definitely treat your Dad lie a King.... :udaman:

But I am a working Mum...and yet my SICK MCP :
a)keeps all his earnings...
only give me enough allowance to pay for the 2 kids tution and enrichment...

b)I have to do all the housework... :nunchuk:
You know what time I have to get up..3-4am to start preparing their breakfast and lunch...during weekdays :snooze:

So that I can leave the house before 6.30am for work.... :slapshead:

Come back have to do laundry...ironing...mopping..cleaning...
go supermarket... :nailbite:

Soon or later I will land up in Mental Hospital... :siao:

The sick MCP just lazy around.... :stupid:

Hey dophinsiah,

You are right. My dad is the sole breadwinner and my mum has been a full time housewife since marriage. However, I am not sure if my dad gives all his salary to my mum...I doubt so... :?

Dophinsiah...you have my empathy. I really admire your endurance and tolerance towards your hubby. I really hope your hubby appreciates what you have done for the family.

[debpch]

hi dolphinsiah,

i can understand your pain. pls take care. hugz... :grphug:

[hquek]

dolphinsiah:

Hey , I share your anger...I feel your pain as I am in the same situation as you...

Hi dolphinsiah, it's your kids that you are making the sacrifices for - the clean floors, the prepared food, all these are for your kids.

Vent here when you can if that gives you energy to go further.

Take care!

[hquek]

Han Seo:

He does not like to do the housework and does not expect me to, either. When I do it and complain, he'd say, \"But I didn't ask you to clean, right?\" So I'd say, \"If you don't clean and I don't clean, the house will magically clean by itself?\" Then he'd say, \"But the house is so clean, clean what?\" And I'd reply, \"Do you know why it's so clean? That's because yours truly here have been cleaning it!\" So if you don't want to help, please just shut up!\"

In early days of marriage, DH will be very proud to say he who can has the highest tolerance for dirt and dust will not have to do housework. Needless to say that I'm the one to always break first. Trained by his mum and then NS to endure dirt and grime, I really surrender.

In fact I still remember washing toilet and wiping floor when I was heavily preg. Sigh.....

[mumma_bear]

I agree, maybe you and your DW needs the time off because of stress. Also i disagree of you trying to find some romance in others. Those young China that you mention will still become b*tchy (sorry for the term) when you give them kids in the future. And also, it would only worsen the situation your now in. Maybe you're just being too lax about your parenting situation that your wife thinks your not too involved enough. Communication is the key, but be calm about it...shouting at each other will only create more tension. I hope things will improve for both of you.

[kiddo]

Reading this thread , cannot help but must remind our Superb KSP Mothers and Fathers that we need bring up DD n DS to be responsible spouses by walking the talk.


Due to our parents or grandparents Era/belief oF \"boy no need do housework\" some of our boys?man become MCP and lazy.... :spank:
I live in one of this family so I make sure Hubby n Boy is TRAINED
or else no go.. the change must start with me in them.

Take heart our children will be better ...we cannot change the Generation
before us but we can change the Generation after us :celebrate: :celebrate:

[carebear]

If i had to do housework, i think i would be scolding everybody in the house too. And if i had to tutor my kids, i would probably need to bang my head against the wall.

Since i do not have to perform the above tasks, i am a happy person and am all smiles to greet my DH after a hard day’s work.
Donkey Kong, so how’s things with you and your DW now?

[Inagaki]

china wife? I have a neighbour who married a wife from china. She does not work. They have a 4yo kid who goes to childcare fulltime. Family stay with man’s parents and mil cooks for the family.


So what keeps her busy? Facial, haircut, manicure. Stay in HDB executive, have condo in bishan to collect 4-5k rent, hubby working. Sure the family can support her lifestyle. But it sounds just plain lazy to me. As a Singaporean, cannot understand why people would wanna waste her life away like that.

China wife lor, go lor. very sweet and pretty, just whether you can afford them.

[carebear]

Agree with you, Inagaki.

Actually i can’t imagine not working and leading a life as a lady of leisure. I think i will become a naggy and neurotic person.

[Eagle-Ladybird]

wo wo wo, let’s balance this a little - i think there’s a bit of over-generalisation here. I’m sure many men/husbands here in KSP are equally into houseworks


My dad, for one, contributes towards housework. He markets, cooks, clean the house, repairs whatever within his ability, does the garden. Mum does almost the same except for the garden, but does washing of clothes which my dad seldom. I would say, 50/50 between them over the years. Especially now when mum is not too well, dad does most of the heavy-duties!

When I got married, we split the house work basis perceived "strength" needed - I do the heavy-duty (scrubbing toilets/kitchens, mobbing etc) and wife does the ligther ones (washing/hanging clothes). I have to iron clothes as well, including those of my wife’s cause I’m better/quicker.

Of course now we have a domestic helper who has kindly taken over most of those duties. Both of us spent much of our time/energy with our kids.

So not all men are "lazy" or "dirty" or mcp or whatever else you label them. In fact, I would imagine, increasing more and more are not so