No Problem is problem

[minnie2004]

kuzco:

If I can turn the clock back, I will not take the same path again. The only thing that I am thankful for is ds. My hopes are on him and he is why I am still tolerating all this.........

Seems this is the same sentiment many of us share. Just have to tolerate for the sake of our kids. Afterall, they are the best gift we ever have :snuggles:

That's why sometimes I tell my single girlfriends jokingly to go to a sperm bank if they want kids. Saves a lot of trouble dealing with men

[3Boys]

To all the hubbies and wives in distress…


Please…take a pause from your busy-ness and find some time to re-connect…for your own wellbeing and that of your family.

You gotta draw the line somewhere, do not allow the excuse of housework and work commitments get in the way of your together time. People get used to that routine and before you know it, your relationship in on the rocks.

Please take pause

[hquek]

I know someone around me - earn good money, do ALL the housework, take care the kid's education and well being (kid academically doing very well). She does this happily becos of her kid, and doesn't seem to mind that DH is only in charge of R&R (rest and recreation).


To each their own I guess.

I used to tell DH that it was a mistake to marry...and then he asked me if I would have these 2 wonderful kids if I didn't...and it's quite true. Those 2 can be little monkeys rather than little cuties but then, through them, I have gone through a lot, and learnt a lot. It's this life experience that is immeasurable and I acknowledge that.

So now, I do what housework I want to do and it's not so much a chore than an accomplishment. The rest can wait until I have time, or lose tolerance on the layer of dirt.

But if DH ever comes onto this site (not likely), I still wanna say THANKS MUCH for helping out these days...(dunno how long battery last)

[hquek]

minnie2004:

That's why sometimes I tell my single girlfriends jokingly to go to a sperm bank if they want kids. Saves a lot of trouble dealing with men

I ever consider life with kids, WITHOUT hubby....cannot lah. he helps boil water sometimes, he helps bath them sometimes. And when I'm sick or in a terrible mood, he'll take care of the kids whilst this dragon is breathing fire....no hubby means I have to take care the kids whether I like it or not.

[buds]

hquek:

...(dunno how long battery last)

Like what 3boys said which i totally agree with,
take time out to recharge! We aren't disposable
batteries, we are re-chargeable ones. :lol:

So, plan that next me time or us time asap... do
not wait till the quake shakes your world...
realise its importance before it even
rumbles.

I am fortunate that i do not have major issues
with petty housework cos hubs is a real doll
when it comes to housework. :love:

Guess his cleanliness standard not so high class. :lol:
So, he always tells me own time own target, baby..

At times, i see the laundry has been hung when i wake
up in the morning... or all the dishes are already washed
after i finish my dinner... and he does all the vacuuming +
mopping work. Both my girls also chip in. Well, lucky me..

[3Boys]

buds:

hquek:

...(dunno how long battery last)

Like what 3boys said which i totally agree with,
take time out to recharge! We aren't disposable
batteries, we are re-chargeable ones. :lol:

So, plan that next me time or us time asap... do
not wait till the quake shakes your world...
realise its importance before it even
rumbles.

I am fortunate that i do not have major issues
with petty housework cos hubs is a real doll
when it comes to housework. :love:

Guess his cleanliness standard not so high class. :lol:
So, he always tells me own time own target, baby..

At times, i see the laundry has been hung when i wake
up in the morning... or all the dishes are already washed
after i finish my dinner... and he does all the vacuuming +
mopping work. Both my girls also chip in. Well, lucky me..

This is the place I want to be frankly. But both me and DW are super lazy when it comes to housework, so we have a trusty maid to do most of the chores. The kids are modelling off us, which is really going to be to their detriment in the future.

Aiyah, what to do? For the sake of keeping our relationship comfortable (it really does free up a lot of social time)

[buds]

We have been without helper all these years precisely

cause everyone pitches in willingly... not forced or told
to do... asked to help out probably a couple of times
when own hands are full.. but most times everyone's
quite automatic.. we sorta know our roles around the
house. Reminders esp for the children.. that's pretty
normal. It's a give and take when it comes to chores.

While with other stuff we believe, do not wait till tomorrow
what you can do today... we strike this belief off when it
comes to mundane housework. :rotflmao:

Housework can wait.. love cannot. Hee..
Nicer to spend more time together lovin' than houseworkin'..

So... Yes Yes.. we do what we can, when we can.. :love:

[Funz]

The best thing that anyone can do for the sake of their kids is to try to make their marriage work. Seems sad that 2 persons who got together to build a life together end up having to tolerate each other.

3Boys:

This is the place I want to be frankly. But both me and DW are super lazy when it comes to housework, so we have a trusty maid to do most of the chores. The kids are modelling off us, which is really going to be to their detriment in the future.

Aiyah, what to do? For the sake of keeping our relationship comfortable (it really does free up a lot of social time)

Nothing wrong with that. So long as we have our priorities right. DH and I were quarrelling so much about household chores previously and it really does not make sense at all. Instead of looking forward to spending time with each other we dread the weekends cos it's chores time (we both work very long hrs last time). And we have differring standards so whatever the other person does is not good enough. So in the end outsource and things improve tremendously.

[3Boys]

Funz:

The best thing that anyone can do for the sake of their kids is to try to make their marriage work. Seems sad that 2 persons who got together to build a life together end up having to tolerate each other.


Nothing wrong with that. So long as we have our priorities right. DH and I were quarrelling so much about household chores previously and it really does not make sense at all. Instead of looking forward to spending time with each other we dread the weekends cos it's chores time (we both work very long hrs last time). And we have differring standards so whatever the other person does is not good enough. So in the end outsource and things improve tremendously.

Good perspective :goodpost:

[hquek]

Understand and agree that it’s pretty much useless quarrelling over housework. But I find it quite strange, 2 people come together to build a life together…I guess guys don’t factor that to have a home (at least a clean one), some effort is required.


Wonderful for those hubbies who realised this and chip in. I’m very impressed by such men.

I have no problems doing housework - BUT, I don’t understand when the guy want to have a nice clean home and refuse to chip in. Don’t say do housework is doing ME a favour…it’s for OUR house. I take it that this is OUR home and surely we should do OUR part to keep it clean and nice?

(ok, nice got a lot of connotation - but at least some minimum level).

A bit like total defence, we all got a part to play…don’t just leave it all to the mercenaries (soldiers, maids alike). But this is my personal preference.

Am just enjoying the hay while the sun shines.